I’d hope to goodness I’d never be confronted with a situation like the Laundries but I can sort of imagine what transpired, and I’m wondering if maybe how people view them is dependent on if they’re parents of adult children or not.
How I think the sequence of events might’ve transpired -
- both Brian and Gabby were working. Probably the van was referred to as “their” van because it’s sole purpose was to transport “them” on their cross country adventure.
- So then Brian arrives back to his parent’s house one day with the van and tells the parents the relationship between him and Gabby has ended. Maybe he claimed he was intending on selling “their” van. It’d be highly unusual for parents to demand to check the registration or search of the contents of the van.
- Another last thing most parents of adults usually want not to do is discuss a relationship breakdown with the ex’s parents. Maybe this is why they chose not to talk to them? Gabby was not at the Laundries so they couldn’t be helpful anyway. They only heard Brian’s one-sided story, obviously biased….and now we know untruthful as well. But fact remans there are boundaries that parents of adult children learn to respect, if they proceed to stick their nose in everything going on in the adult child’s life, eventually that’s guaranteed to create distance in the relationship. Issues regarding past relationships are a #1 no-winner in the normal course of matters.
- Same as if Brian stated that he needed space to sort out his head, when he was really planning a suicide. The Laundries weren’t mind readers. To blame them for letting him leave their home, as if they were protecting or enabling his death somehow, is an unduly harsh judgement. Nobody can ever predict nor prevent someone from taking their own life. Surely we do not blame every survivor who’s loved one has walked out the door, never to come back? As we don’t know anything of their interactions with their son, nor the false stories he told them - and they owe the public no explanation - so other than based on a whole lot of speculation, why are Laudrie’s unique in deserving of blame?
JMO