Respectfully snipped by me for space.
I would not feel bad if such a person failed to even try to defend themselves and get some kind of visitation with their child, at the least. I would assume, in the absence of even an attempt at a defense, that there was a good reason why her child was taken and she was forced to move, etc.
Sorry, I know this was posted a ways back, but I just got home.
I think, and I'm sure you'd agree since you have experience in law, a lot of people do not understand what their rights are. Unless you've been through the family law system, there are a lot of things you don't know you're entitled to.
When she called 911 regarding a custody matter, the police didn't come out to her house because a custody matter is a civil matter, having nothing to do with law enforcement. I bet the operator told her that. She probably hung up the phone and felt defeated and felt like there was nothing she could do. This was done the Saturday before he filed his RO/dissolution.
There is no custodial interference if there is no order set forth by the court. If he's on the birth certificate, there was no custody order put in place, no one has more rights to the child then the other.
Also, on Monday when the order was filed and he was given temporary custody, because an RO is a temporary order until a permanent one is ordered by the judge, it clearly states she had no visitation. What should she have done? Walked into the courthouse and held it up with a gun? Burst through judges chambers and demanded visitation? At the time, she had no attorney. Last time I looked, she wasn't educated for a law profession. How should she have attempted to change the visitation? She probably had no idea she could.
When a DVI is filed, nine times out of 10 the abuser is not allowed to have contact with the child(ren) if the child(ren) remains with the victim. When they go before a judge, they state their case and visitation is ordered or denied. I thought that was pretty standard in most states.
If she didn't fight right away, maybe she didn't know she could. Maybe, after she hired her attorney, he said to her, "don't worry about that now, we'll fix that later".
Laws are set-up for self-help. Anyone at any time can go to the court house and pay the filing fee and open a case. Print the documents off the internet, fill them out, present your ID to a notary, and boom-done!
But not everyone in this country knows or understands that. People don't know you can use a law library in the court house for free (depending on location) to do research. People hire attorneys so they don't have to stress about motions or getting a case thrown out because of a technicality.
Now, I'm not saying anything about her guilt or innocence because, quite frankly, I have no clue. Maybe she doesn't want custody of Baby K. Maybe she's on Valium because she's distraught over losing Baby K, who knows.