Woe.be.gone
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This is the one emotion in the grieving process that is most often hidden, because we culturally are taught from an early age not to express anger.
I think GA is angry and has no way to act it out properly, especially with cameras on him. Like many in the process of grief, he knows how to maintain some sense of self-control and push the anger down for self-preservation if nothing else.
The anger comes out in spurts later, when KC is home, as TraceyM told us about.
So, as you wrote above, he is faking, or sort of flatlining his emotions. I don't think he is void of them, I think he is hiding them-To what end is a different question-To protect KC or his own sanity, or CA-dunno.
He hid them with police, too-He came to the brink of anger when he really started thinking about what he knew to be true, but then used his reflexive technique-Jibber-jabbering-to make the feeling stop.
I understand your point but with GA it goes beyond what to me seems within the normal range of hiding sadness and managing to function. I don't see him as being flat as much as I notice he's almost effervescent under the circumstances. For instance, when KC appeared behind the glass to visit her mom and dad while in jail she exclaimed 'hi, how are you?' in that oh so happy kinda voice. GA uses the same type of affect in his speech. When he got into LE's car within a month of finding out his granddaughter was missing (two months really) and he said CHEERFULLY 'hi guys, blah blah blah'. His behavior just seems 'off' much like KC's does much of the time. There's really not an explanation for it imo. He is what he is but something seems amiss. :twocents:
Actually we've seen GA loose his temper and have heard stories about his violent outbursts. I'm sure he works hard not to loose it with the cops but he leans over too far as in too buddy buddy - I just can't put my finger on it but his behavior is weird much of the time.