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It is entirely possible, based on the people she knows (other druggie parents other druggie family members(?) and their home life, etc.) she honestly doesn't think she's that bad, if she's comparing herself to some of the worst of the worst she's seen or knows. I know it sounds unthinkable to parents who'd never endanger their kids the way she clearly did, but if that's all she is familiar with, that's all she's got to compare herself to.
While I would never defend TG in a million years, I honestly do think she loved her kids. In whatever way she knew how. I think the drugs and the lifestyle that came with it just swallowed her up, the same way it does to anyone who chooses to use, then becomes an addict.
MOO & all that good stuff.
I agree. It's hard to break out of a bad situation when you don't know that it's bad. I also think TG and other druggies lack insight into their lives and compartmentalize their behavior.
You can see it in their social media. Mothers facing trial for murdering their children post comments condemning other mothers for their actions. Mothers starving their kids post recipes on FB. Call them a liar and they turn vicious even though they really are lying.
Apart from the drugs though, I think TG saw her place in the community as being an important, tough person that no one messes with and that persona was exciting to her. Witness her drama and her comments in msm she enjoyed being the center of attention. Why give that up for the boring life of a mom?
And there was at least one positive role model (SW) in her life who tried to help and one relative who repeatedly got on her case regarding her home life with the girls. If TG had decided to turn herself around she would have had the support of these people.
TG had an opportunity each time her kids were removed from her, each time she was arrested - heck, even each time Ralphy was arrested to think long and hard about the dead end street she was traveling on.
Instead her focus was running a drug operation. I get the difficulties of overcoming drugs (and probably an awful upbringing) but if losing her child due to that lifestyle didn't wake TG up then sadly, it's unlikely anything ever will.
For that reason all we can hope for is that she's removed from society so she can no longer contribute to the destruction of other lives.
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