Spice
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Very, very well said. Thank You, Spice. Exactly what I believe also.
I sat in on a family discussion where an adult son tried to tell his complicit mother how he still felt about the horrible
childhood abuse he had endured growing up. All the elderly mother would say was "You're Crazy, you're crazy."
Whenever I see this type strong denial despite information coming from authorities, I have to believe there was some
similar type abuse going on in the family of origin.
This happens ALL of the time and I agree. It is what perpetuates dysfunction/abuse/neglect for generations. This is also why I have always been so conflicted about Kinship Foster care. Sometimes it works well and sometimes it doesn't due to neglect and abuse being so intergenerational and you are forced to watch the same themes over and over again. It's so complex.
I would love to do a genogram on LT and DT. Now THAT would reveal so much about all of this.
Abuse does not happen in a vacuum and neither does trauma.
I am counting on the resilience of these survivors. The resilience of trauma survivors always astounds me. It's a beautiful thing to see.
Have you ever read the literature about the concept of "The Resilient Child" in human behavior?
This 17 year old survivor is going to be in line with all that we now about The Resilient Child. I suspect she may have been the one to attempt to escape back in Texas...and was returned. She somehow was able to overcome all of that learned helplessness. She is truly heroic. I am in awe of her.
MOO