This whole confusion.... seems to sort out some things, at least for me.
I've always thought/suspected that the realtor (I am assuming it was Elise and that she was somehow working with Gottlieb on the listing, possibly because both women were friends of H's), called Gottlieb (in FL), when she discovered the bodies... to talk about.. something like, 'you won't BELIEVE this.. blah blah, what should we do.. before calling police, because it'll turn into a circus at that point'.. 'we should tell the family first, so they don't have to hear it from police', etc etc..
So IF that happened... it is VERY possible that, of course, the realtor and/or family member would want all 4 of the kids to be notified before letting the circus start.. what would be worse than hearing this news through either police or media?
THAT exercise would very easily explain that 45 minute time delay in contacting police, which we've all been curious about.
Also.. IF (presumably) Elise spoke directly with one or more of the kids to explain all she had come across/seen with her own eyes, then maybe from THAT conversation, is where the family was getting their immediate validation that this was an obvious hit, as opposed to their dad going ballistic, which they already knew he wouldn't have done.
I believe JS said at some point (the memorial service?) that the kids had waited ... how long??? to receive 'official' notice from police.. which.. not sure if it even came?? If it did, it was hours and hours later..
And THEN .. what do they hear on the news?? Practically one of the first public announcements from police that they hear, is police, alluding to a murder/suicide... the opposite of what was described to them by the person who saw the bodies, ON the news, TO the world.. and no wonder they were pissed.. IF they had spoken to the realtor who found them, and found out how the bodies were positioned, and the amount of blood, and whatever other information,.. they had inside info (which we as the public still don't know all the details of, as of yet), and they knew very well it wasn't a murder/suicide, etc.. no wonder they got legal representation SO early.
It had always been said that the realtor on site had called Gottlieb... but I guess I had never followed that through in my mind, to think that of course Gottlieb (and/or Elise) then would have contacted someone in the Sherman family (yes, probably H's sister).. I believe there were connections there.. not blood connections, but friend/acquaintance connections.