I know how you feel because when I was a grownup, I reacted in a similar unexplicable way. We had just driven for ten hours and checked into a hotel in NM. My son, who was almost seven, was eager to jump in the pool. I was wearing a long gauzy skirt/full summer dress vs. swimsuit. As I stood there looking at him (he was close to the other side of the pool where, thankfully two couples were lounging) his head went under. My child had been in swimming lessons since he was four. I looked at him as his head bobbed up and called out his name. He was quiet and went under again. I stood there wondering if he was playing a game with me. The man on the lounge chair closest to him dove in and grabbed my son and brought him out of the pool. My son had not taken in any water. The man looked at me strangely while I looked back at him stunned and said 'thank you, thank you'. I think I would have reacted soon and been able to get to my son but what has always haunted me was how quiet he was - no flailing, no voice, no cry for help. If nobody had been right there, no one would have known - just found a child at the bottom of the pool. I had several nightmares after this happened and often shuddered when thinking about how frozen I was and my slow/shoddy judgment.
I asked my son "why when I called out to you, did you not answer me?" He just said, "I don't know."
The point is, and I don't know if this happened to Caylee, drowning can be a very quiet occurance. If you every see someone bob under but they don't look to be distressed but they don't call out to you, go in and assist them. Thank God for me that man knew that and didn't sit there to wait to see if my son was going to drown like I was doing. :waitasec:
That is why we cannot leave young children unattended near water, near stoves, etc. You must watch them carefully. It can be exhausting so you must own the responsibility every day.