Thank you thank you! I looked and looked and couldn't find the screenshot myself.
Child abuse-negligence-no-injury to me hints possibly drunk threatening rant at neighbor in front of the kids over a broken toy.
So
1988: Menacing - guilty plea
1992: Theft - guilty plea
2003: Child abuse/neglect no injury + menacing + disorderly conduct/unreasonable noice + trespassing + 3rd degree assault (which could be resisting arrest) ... all pled down to single count of disorderly conduct/noise.
2005: Mom wants to get divorced. Dad claims she likes to drive kids around after drinking, so he pulls them out of school in fear mom will pick them up drunk (that statement just confuses me - I think he's leaving something out here - almost sounds like another possible scary get back at mom by taking the kids out of school unexpectedly situation).
2008: Dad has drunken sex with a women under mom's window. Mom comes out screaming the kids could see, and Dad grabs her in the commotion and swings towards Cory. Dylan gets involved and swings at Mark. Mark is later beat up and basically lays passed out (my guess is more drunk than hurt?), and doesn't know who the attacker is - but Cory admits later it was him.
So sounds like Mom files restraining order request. Dad replies with his own restraining order request, listing driving kids drunk and his son beating him up (after Mark swung first, mind you) as violence by his mom. Both are dismissed in a couple of months.
Unknown date - Mom moves away with the boys. Dad rarely sees Dylan at all, and has to go to court just to get his holidays.
October - Mark loses custody completely, and only gets visitation. Even that seems to only be on rare holidays, at least so far.
Could you tell me where the information I bolded can be found? I read the links provided and watched the video, but didn't see/hear this part. TIA
Am I right in assuming that it's still only the father who can be sleuthed? I really don't see anything in the charges that shows that MR ever actually used violence against Dylan.
A lot of people here have used their past experiences (myself included) to show why they hold some of their beliefs, and I wanted to add another of mine. First, I'm in no way making excuses for MR; I abhor violence by or against anyone. Anyway... When my parents were married, my father beat my mother a lot after he'd been drinking. He also cheated on at least 5 of his 6 wives. Everybody always considered my mother to be a "victim", and in a sense she was. However, I did see another side of the equation when she married my stepfather.
The two of them were in an argument one day about something rather petty, but she was extremely irate about it. When he told her for about the 10th time to just settle down and be quiet (maybe not in those exact words), she picked up an ashtray and started to hit him in the head with it. He grabbed her wrist and took it away, and simply said, "Don't even think about doing that. If you do, I'll automatically hit you back, and I don't ever want to do that." There were many things she'd say over the years that seemed to be efforts to push him to violence (although they probably weren't), but he never laid a finger on her.
I was told as an adult (by relatives on both sides of the family) that she'd lay into my father if he was 5 minutes late getting home accusing him of stopping to see a girl, etc. Eventually he'd get tired of it, walk out, go to the bar and get drunk. When he came home, she'd start again, but after one or two sentences, he'd beat her bloody. I'm not making excuses for him, because I don't believe there is anything that excuses it, but I don't believe that it was a one-sided thing in my parents' marriage or in the Redwine's.
As I've said before, my father never touched any of the kids, but if he (or anyone else) had touched my mother in front of one of my brothers once they were old enough, I have no doubt any one of them would have at least attempted to hit him to protect her... in spite of the fact that none of us was that close to my mother (she was actually the one who took her anger out on the kids.)
I also don't condone any of the violent/aggressive actions any of the adults in Dylan's life took with each other, but they also don't make me assume that MR would murder the one member of the family he hasn't been accused of victimizing. MOO