CO- Dylan Redwine, 13, Vallecito, 19 November 2012 - #24

[YidArmyRach]

My son is 13 and resembles Dylan. This case hits home with me. My son has a best friend lwho lived 1/2 mile from our home with his parents, older sister and baby brother. Perfectly normal family in an upperclass area. Last summer the wife took the kids 800 miles away to visit her dad and never came back. Her son would call my son ten times a day saying they were coming back soon. School started and they never returned. The dad was peeved. He did weir things like quitting his job, locked his doors and let the mail pile up. They did not divorce due to religion. At thanksgiving the family returned home for a visit and the boy did not even go in to the house. He ran directly to our house. His mom came to get him insisting he see his dad. He left for an hour then snuck back to ou house. He said he hates his dad and will not stay there. We compromised and he slept at our house and spent thanksgiving meal time with his family. Point is he is 13 and left his dads house with no coat without his phone. He walked to our house after 10 at night when his parents thought he was in bed for the night. His father has not shown any violent tendancies but after the family returned to her dads after the holiday he did try to kill himself. My husband and I have discussed this family and our fear of what may happen. He is the type that would kill himself and all involved. The neighbors feel the same way and keep an eye on him and the house. The neighbors next door to him sold their house two weeks ago and moved. Said they are afraid he will explode. The family was supposed to return for two weeks at Christmas but never showed up. My sons friend says he hates his father and will run away if they make him visit. BUT he would run here. Boys do not just run away to nowhere. If Dylan did not run to his friends house IMO he did not run anywhere.

But just because he didn't get there, it doesn't mean he didn't try. We just don't know exactly where he went missing from.

 

[asyousay]

Exactly. They posted on the page that 750k had viewed it in the first month of the case. That might sound like a big number, but it really isn't. The lowest rated TV show brings in like 500k. A segment on Today, GMA, Nancy Grace, and Judge Jeanine would tell a few million people about Dylan.

750k viewed it in the first month, but there were probably only 3000 "likes" at that time. You need to "like" a page to track it, unless you plan on bookmarking it. So I feel like a concern should be; Why is the % of people "liking" the page so small compared to how many are viewing it? 3000 likes in the first month compared to 750k viewers...That's less than 1/2 of 1%! So a lot of people are coming across the page, and going about their day. They are still seeing Dylan's face, so that is a plus, but still.

it may also mean its not staying in there conscience as they take a look and then move on and then forget a few days afterwards .

I just do not get the silence. Even if LE are asking them to keep quiet i would start to question it by this point as time is passing by swiftly and so far no action has been taken as far as we are aware. I assume by this point Elaine is pulling out her hair as its soo frustrating that so much time has passed and nothing so far.


IMHO

 

[cluciano63]

But just because he didn't get there, it doesn't mean he didn't try. We just don't know exactly where he went missing from.

No, we don't. I wonder if LE even knows.

 

[mck16]

BBM: I wasn't saying her moving was on a whim, because it's been established as fact that she moved to take a better job position, with better pay. That's fine. I don't think it was in Dylan's best interest per se, other than she was better able to be there all the time based on her job as opposed to Mark's. If he had a different type of job, where he could be home and not travel, it probably would have been harder to convince a judge to let her take Dylan so far away. But maybe not because it WAS for her job, and to be with her new/old honey. I think it part, that was motive for the move, to be near MH. They ARE living together now, aren't they??

So there are two factors for her to move to CS that doesn't have anything to do with Dylan. Her job and MH.

Custodial issues should not dictate where a parent lives when it's based of betterment of a job. But at the same time, it shouldn't negate the NCP right to visitation either. JMO

I think it is perfectly obvious why she moved to CC. The job in Bayfield has been good enough for several years after the divorce. Maybe MR didn't approve of her living arrangements in front of DR. jmo

 

[TxLady2]

I've always supported father's rights and I agree that every child deserves 2 parents.
I think that's why I tend to be a bit sensitive when a custodial parent reveals that a child's father didn't take the time to visit his child more than ER stated MR visited with Dylan. :furious:
I believe her.

How could he, if he was working out of town so much of the time? I won't say that I don't believe her, she just may not have told the whole truth. To her, it might seem like he put his job first, instead of caring about his children. But in reality, when you've got a job where you have to travel or be out of town or even the state, you either go or find yourself looking for another job.

When our son was little, from about 1 to 3 years old, my husband had a job where he worked 16- and 18-hour days, 6 days a week. The only times my son got to see him was when I took his dinner to him every night and on Sunday. I was never so glad of anything in my life as I was when he got a different job with decent hours. And yes... I blamed him and I ranted at him, because I thought he had a choice, he did not have to work as many hours as his boss did. I was wrong! He didn't have a choice!

All I am saying is, there are always two sides to everything.

 

[NC Analyzer]

Everybody may not see it as wrong, but I do believe some would. When he did talk to the press, all people did was pick apart everything he said, accused him of being drunk, and said he was doing it for attention and/or to try looking less guilty. Anything he says that conflicts with what his ex says is automatically stated to be a lie. I wouldn't speak to any reporters if I were him, but I probably wouldn't anyway.:twocents:

Actually, it isn't due to his press release. This is Websleuths and looking into things is pretty much what we do here. Which means everything MR says or does will be put under scrutiny because:
1. He was the last person to see Dylan alive.
2. There is a gap of missing time between Sunday 8pm and Monday morning.
3. MR does have a history of unacceptable behavior around his children.
4. MR pattern of filing Family Court motions long after the divorce is over.
5. MR took a swing at his 9-yr old son.

If this was ER, I would be just as suspicious.
I have no bone in this dogfight. I don't know either party. I look closely at the person who is most likely to have the answers I need. If those answers aren't forthcoming, I cannot simply dismiss this person because I'm "politically correct" or because he/she/they are the underdog. It is what it is...and in this case, no matter where ya go, you'll end right back up on MR's doorstep. JMO

 

[eileenhawkeye]

it may also mean its not staying in there conscience as they take a look and then move on and then forget a few days afterwards .

I just do not get the silence. Even if LE are asking them to keep quiet i would start to question it by this point as time is passing by swiftly and so far no action has been taken as far as we are aware. I assume by this point Elaine is pulling out her hair as its soo frustrating that so much time has passed and nothing so far.


IMHO

The person who runs the FB page wrote on Sunday that it might be time for them to start talking to the press, to every news agency. I don't understand why they are just considering this...two months after Dylan went missing. Unfortunately, I think getting the national media interested at this point isn't going to be as easy as they think.

 

[asyousay]

The person who runs the FB page wrote on Sunday that it might be time for them to start talking to the press, to every news agency. I don't understand why they are just considering this...two months after Dylan went missing. Unfortunately, I think getting the national media interested at this point isn't going to be as easy as they think.

I did not know this . Yeah too much time may of passed now as its now not a breaking story as months have passed .

 

[PlainJaneDoe]

How could he, if he was working out of town so much of the time? I won't say that I don't believe her, she just may not have told the whole truth. To her, it might seem like he put his job first, instead of caring about his children. But in reality, when you've got a job where you have to travel or be out of town or even the state, you either go or find yourself looking for another job.

When our son was little, from about 1 to 3 years old, my husband had a job where he worked 16- and 18-hour days, 6 days a week. The only times my son got to see him was when I took his dinner to him every night and on Sunday. I was never so glad of anything in my life as I was when he got a different job with decent hours. And yes... I blamed him and I ranted at him, because I thought he had a choice, he did not have to work as many hours as his boss did. I was wrong! He didn't have a choice!

All I am saying is, there are always two sides to everything.

BBM, respectfully, :tyou:.

Just speaking for myself, MOO, JMO, and meant with utmost respect to every single person who is posting on these threads...

When I personally question what ER says, it is not because I think sheis lying. I think that we (multiple posters) have discussed quite a bit about why she has no reason to lie, and in fact every reason to tell the truth as she knows it. Personally, I am satisfied with that. But I also know that it is possible for a person to really, truly, sincerely, 100% with his/her whole heart believe something is true, and still turn out to be wrong.

None of this is said judgmentally or disrespectfully. I hope it doesn't come across that way. I feel like I know a lot of you from other threads and I have learned a lot from you.

ETA: I am not saying that I believe ER is wrong about everything or about any specific thing. I am just saying that I don't believe she is always right. IE I don't accept her word as fact more than I would anyone else's, not because I think she's deceitful, but because I think she's human.

 

[cluciano63]

Why don't we ever hear of the media asking questions anymore? When ER said that sometimes MR was not very nice to Dylan, for example (paraphrasing) why did not someone jump on that and ask what she meant, or what made her say it? Was she talking about the time when he was nine, or more recent issues?

I am just so depressed about this case, truly. I don't believe that LE has done enough, if they really think he was abducted. But seeing how they can't or won't rule out MR makes me very uncomfortable. I think the time has long passed where Dylan is likely to be alive. His age is against him in that, even if he WAS taken by a predator.

I read on one of those pages that a reporter is trying for an interview for next Sunday-isn't time of the essence? I never understand the delays between interviews, or the long range planning of fund raisers. It almost seems like no one has any expectation that anything will break.

JMO with much frustration.

 

[Dee10]

I kind of thought after the holidays ER might get fed up & hit the press. According to the FMDR site there is an interview she is doing This Sunday, I believe.

ETA or maybe it is just going to be published on Sunday?

 

[cluciano63]

I would go insane, trying to get on TV, if I had a child and that child was missing. Literally, if necessary, as that might be the surest way to get coverage. Even if i had to run onto the live news set with his/her photo and take my chances at a trespassing arrest...JMO.

 

[mck16]

Why don't we ever hear of the media asking questions anymore? When ER said that sometimes MR was not very nice to Dylan, for example (paraphrasing) why did not someone jump on that and ask what she meant, or what made her say it? Was she talking about the time when he was nine, or more recent issues?

I am just so depressed about this case, truly. I don't believe that LE has done enough, if they really think he was abducted. But seeing how they can't or won't rule out MR makes me very uncomfortable. I think the time has long passed where Dylan is likely to be alive. His age is against him in that, even if he WAS taken by a predator.

I read on one of those pages that a reporter is trying for an interview for next Sunday-isn't time of the essence? I never understand the delays between interviews, or the long range planning of fund raisers. It almost seems like no one has any expectation that anything will break.

JMO with much frustration.

What does that mean? Trying for an interview. Is there a problem getting one? Or what are they saying. ty

 

[nursebeeme]

I would go insane, trying to get on TV, if I had a child and that child was missing. Literally, if necessary, as that might be the surest way to get coverage. Even if i had to run onto the live news set with his/her photo and take my chances at a trespassing arrest...JMO.

you and me both!

(I love your newest kitty by the way!)

 

[DylansMom34]

What does that mean? Trying for an interview. Is there a problem getting one? Or what are they saying. ty

The reporter posted on the Find Dylan page on fb that she would like to talk to Dylan's family on Sunday (I'm assuming that means this coming Sunday). It appears the moderator was going to give the reporter's number to Elaine.

I guess maybe there will be another family story. I wonder if Mark will agree to be interviewed...

 

[Dee10]

:blowkiss: I have always said I would be camped at LE headquarters 24/7. I was reading the NG transcript the other day on her demeanor answering questions and she came off IMO as passive, maybe under sure of herself in the way she phrased almostevery answer IMO. I wonder if the is her nature? I am not saying in anyway there is anything wrong with it at all, just seeing that she maybe a very gentle type person. It took awhile for Desiree Y. to come to come to grips & looky what she has done in her fight. I am rooting for her! There will come a time, I believe when she feels enough is enough. Prayers may help I am sure, but...what is done, maybe already done & answers are needed. I hope I haven't offended anyone.

 

[mck16]

The reporter posted on the Find Dylan page on fb that she would like to talk to Dylan's family on Sunday (I'm assuming that means this coming Sunday). It appears the moderator was going to give the reporter's number to Elaine.

I guess maybe there will be another family story. I wonder if Mark will agree to be interviewed...

I was wondering if they will even ask him. If they do, I hope he agrees. Does anyone know if they ER and MR are still in town or if they have gone back to their jobs? ty

 

[asyousay]

Interesting that the number will be passed on to Elaine and not MR .

It is very intriguing that MR wont speak to the press , anybody would think he has something to hide !!

At the end of the day MR was the last one to see Dylan so why is it Elaine doing all the work here ?!
She can only do so much as she was not there when he vanished so it's about time MR stepped up IMO .

 

[asyousay]

I was wondering if they will even ask him. If they do, I hope he agrees. Does anyone know if they ER and MR are still in town or if they have gone back to their jobs? ty

Elaine has gone back home , she went home about the week before Xmas I think . But she would pop back and forth when needed I think it was said .

 

[cluciano63]

:blowkiss: I have always said I would be camped at LE headquarters 24/7. I was reading the NG transcript the other day on her demeanor answering questions and she came off IMO as passive, maybe under sure of herself in the way she phrased almostevery answer IMO. I wonder if the is her nature? I am not saying in anyway there is anything wrong with it at all, just seeing that she maybe a very gentle type person. It took awhile for Desiree Y. to come to come to grips & looky what she has done in her fight. I am rooting for her! There will come a time, I believe when she feels enough is enough. Prayers may help I am sure, but...what is done, maybe already done & answers are needed. I hope I haven't offended anyone.

But it was pretty clear Desiree had in her mind who was guilty right away, so her need to go public was perhaps less. If MR truly has no idea what happened to Dylan, why not be more of a champion for his son, and quit worrying about what people think or say about him?

He says he wants the focus on Dylan; It is his job to make that happen. LE is doing their work in silence. If parents don't create a presence for their child, who will?