CO- Dylan Redwine, 13, Vallecito, 19 November 2012 - #24

[luckylinda]

Someone pleaze correct me if i am wrong.

On a kindle so excuse typos.

I remember that Ms brother may live in the same town as Es mother. Or close by.

I cannot quote on here......yet.

Tkz

 

[NSS]

How is any of that what i said?



i said Thanksgiving is surely about spending time with loved ones and family and Dylan would of had more fun at home where all his family was who loved and adored him.

At MR's no plans and could of ended up doing pretty much nothing for all we know. And he is not exactly close to MR from what Elaine has said either.


ETA- this is all about the well being of Dylan at the end of the day !
MOO

With all respect, the court system claim it is about the child, but it about parents rights. The right to equal time, equal responsibility, equal RIGHTS.

Children have few rights in family courts, sad but true.

 

[Seajay]

With all respect, the court system claim it is about the child, but it about parents rights. The right to equal time, equal responsibility, equal RIGHTS.

Children have few rights in family courts, sad but true.

And oftimes a child is afraid to state in court what they really want. They can be intimidated by one parent and afraid to say anything because if that parent wins in court, the child is sunk.

 

[sunni]

Someone pleaze correct me if i am wrong.

On a kindle so excuse typos.

I remember that Ms brother may live in the same town as Es mother. Or close by.

I cannot quote on here......yet.

Tkz

I believe you are correct.

And Welcome to WS! :welcome6: :thewave:

 

[asyousay]

With all respect, the court system claim it is about the child, but it about parents rights. The right to equal time, equal responsibility, equal RIGHTS.

Children have few rights in family courts, sad but true.

I am confused as i thought Elaine had sole custody and so therefore its not equal time and equal responsibility.

Dylan saw MR in Sept and then in November. So there is nothing equal in that time frame.

 

[Confusion]

I am confused as i thought Elaine had sole custody and so therefore its not equal time and equal responsibility.

Dylan saw MR in Sept and then in November. So there is nothing equal in that time frame.

They had equal rights before she decided to move him hundreds of miles away. Now he has what he can get. MOO

 

[asyousay]

They had equal rights before she decided to move him hundreds of miles away. Now he has what he can get. MOO

They may of had equal rights but i am sure Elaine has stated he never used to enforce them and would not see him that often. It was only after they moved it became a issue and it went to court ?

please correct me i am wrong .


IMO

 

[Confusion]

They may of had equal rights but i am sure Elaine has stated he never used to enforce them and would not see him that often. It was only after they moved it became a issue and it went to court ?

please correct me i am wrong .


IMO

She said he hadn't been using them fully for the past 3 years before the move because of his job. When they lived 20 miles apart, it would have been much easier to make arrangements to take him when he was in town; now, not so much. What has been said is that he took him on a trip in August, had him for a visit in September, and now had him for Thanksgiving the middle of November - all since the move in July. That may not be using his parenting privileges as often as the courts allowed, but it was giving him a chance to continue to have a relationship with one of his sons. I'd say it depends on what you consider to be "that often". No, he didn't see him as much as she did; no, he didn't see him as much as he was legally given the right to, yes, I believe he did see him as much as his schedule and Dylan's school schedule allowed. MOO

ETA: It only had to go to court after the move because she requested the move, she requested full custody, and he had to go to court to receive any parenting time. MOO

 

[NC Analyzer]

Custody is 2-fold.
Physical custody refers to the parent the child lives with. I believe ER was granted physical custody due to the move.
Joint custody is the shared responsibilities of both parents. The decisions, schooling, medical, religious, etc. It's likely that both MR and ER shared joint custody even after ER moved.

 

[TxLady2]

MR was taking Dylan from his mothers home for Thanksgiving. A family holiday. He had no plans for them other than they 'might' drive 6 hours to his brothers house to eat dinner.

That just never set right with me.

Why? Isn't his uncle and cousins part of his family too? What kid wouldn't enjoy doing something a little different one year, instead of seeing the same old scenery and the same old faces year after year.

But you are forgetting that it was the court who set this holiday schedule, not the dad or the mom. Most judges know that kids prefer to be at the home they live in most of the time for Christmas, so they give the other parent the Thanksgiving holiday.

Please try not to make this sound as if MR forced Dylan to go at gunpoint. (JK) It was a court-ordered visitation. Nobody had much choice.

 

[asyousay]

She said he hadn't been using them fully for the past 3 years before the move because of his job. When they lived 20 miles apart, it would have been much easier to make arrangements to take him when he was in town; now, not so much. What has been said is that he took him on a trip in August, had him for a visit in September, and now had him for Thanksgiving the middle of November - all since the move in July. That may not be using his parenting privileges as often as the courts allowed, but it was giving him a chance to continue to have a relationship with one of his sons. I'd say it depends on what you consider to be "that often". No, he didn't see him as much as she did; no, he didn't see him as much as he was legally given the right to, yes, I believe he did see him as much as his schedule and Dylan's school schedule allowed. MOO

ETA: It only had to go to court after the move because she requested the move, she requested full custody, and he had to go to court to receive any parenting time. MOO

Is there proof of the trip in August as i remember Mark saying he took him on a amazing road trip yet we have never seen this confirmed anywhere else or seen any photos ( strange when Elaine was putting photos up on the facebook page) .

 

[mck16]

I believe you are correct.

And Welcome to WS! :welcome6: :thewave:

I believe it was the same state, different city. jmo

 

[mck16]

I believe you are correct.

And Welcome to WS! :welcome6: :thewave:

Is there proof of the trip in August as i remember Mark saying he took him on a amazing road trip yet we have never seen this confirmed anywhere else or seen any photos ( strange when Elaine was putting photos up on the facebook page) .

Not strange to me that there are no pictures of the trip on FB. There are no pictures of DR and his dad on there at all are there? jmo

SHOULD NO BE DOUBLE QUOTE. SORRY

 

[Seajay]

Is there proof of the trip in August as i remember Mark saying he took him on a amazing road trip yet we have never seen this confirmed anywhere else or seen any photos ( strange when Elaine was putting photos up on the facebook page) .

It was established that MR didn't have a FB. Where is he suppose to put these pictures up publically when he belonged to no social media networks??? Neither my Dad, my husband nor my son have a FB page. Some people don't. Apparently Mark didn't.

 

[LotusPawprint]

Not strange to me that there are no pictures of the trip on FB. There are no pictures of DR and his dad on there at all are there? jmo

SHOULD NO BE DOUBLE QUOTE. SORRY

There's one tiny family picture of ER, MR, CR and Dylan when Dylan looks to be 4 or 5... nice little family pic. I haven't seen any others at all of Dylan and his father, including any from the cool cross-country baseball trip to NY and Boston from August.


made bigger: sweet little Dylan face:


eta: could he be any more darned adorable? WHERE ARE YOU DYLAN?!?!?

 

[asyousay]

It was established that MR didn't have a FB. Where is he suppose to put these pictures up publically when he belonged to no social media networks??? Neither my Dad, my husband nor my son have a FB page. Some people don't. Apparently Mark didn't.

Where did I say Mark should put them up?


I said Elaine you would of thought would of put some up . I am sure on such a road trip loads of photos would of been taken and some of them I am sure would of only had Dylan in them .

I find it strange that Dylan would of had a trip of a life time and yet it's never been mentioned by anybody but MR . Why has nobody else mentioned this trip in reference to what a wonderful father he was ?!

 

[Crosby87]

Little League Baseball is not an all year sport. Little League is spring or late spring- into summer, depending on what part of the US you are from. Little League traditionally practices 2 nights a week and 1 game on a weeknight or Sat, depending on age. They play in their own area, and do not travel all over, unless they are an all-star traveling team. There are traveling teams that play and practice more of the year. Players do not text staff, and staff do not text players- just like teachers are not encouraged to FB with students for the same reasons. Coaches communicate with parents. Only travel teams have a demanding schedule- for part of the year. LL is considered recreational, not prep for a pro career. LL tournaments are usually only at season's end. In certain places, there may be fall season LL, but it still has a start and end date.

It was mentioned that Dylan also played on a hockey team. Seems he was pretty athletic, but not obsessed with one particular sport at this time, imo.

Dylan played baseball for years so this was a sport Dylan played every summer.

Dylan lived in a remote community so his baseball team may have had to travel to the neighboring communities, idk how this worked. However Dylan excelled in the outfield said his coach Paul Edwards. “He wasn’t a complainer and his passion for the game stood out among his teammates."

Moving from a small town to a city often gives talented and dedicated athletes like Dylan an opportunity to take their skill set to the next level.

BTW, at what age do little league baseball players advance to the next level?

Dylan moved to CS in July and was pictured playing baseball this summer so I suppose Dylan was playing for a different team before he started attending a new school in the Fall.

Dylan played little league baseball when his father didn’t keep his visitations with him so did Mark make an effort to attend Dylan’s games and support his baseball team when he had time off work? People were looking for examples of caring by Mark and attending his son’s baseball games would have showed he cared and was one way Mark could have stayed actively involved in his son's life imo.

Even if Dylan wasn’t in direct contact with his baseball coaches, imo Dylan would been in regular contact with his baseball team and buddies each summer.

MOO

 

[Seajay]

Where did I say Mark should put them up?


I said Elaine you would of thought would of put some up . I am sure on such a road trip loads of photos would of been taken and some of them I am sure would of only had Dylan in them .

I find it strange that Dylan would of had a trip of a life time and yet it's never been mentioned by anybody but MR . Why has nobody else mentioned this trip in reference to what a wonderful father he was ?!

Because it's not to their advantage and meets their agenda.

 

[LotusPawprint]

Where did I say Mark should put them up?


I said Elaine you would of thought would of put some up . I am sure on such a road trip loads of photos would of been taken and some of them I am sure would of only had Dylan in them .

I find it strange that Dylan would of had a trip of a life time and yet it's never been mentioned by anybody but MR . Why has nobody else mentioned this trip in reference to what a wonderful father he was ?!

The only thing I can think of is that MR doesn't have a camera, but that wouldn't undo the fact that this trip was probably (in theory) one of the coolest trips Dylan ever took (in theory) and he would no doubt want a few pictures from the trip. I don't know- camera phones, disposable throw away cameras, borrow moms- something.

If there's one thing I know, it's baseball and Dylan clearly loves baseball... A kid from Colorado going cross country to Fenway Park - that's the trip of a lifetime! and that kid's gonna want pictures in front of the green monster, of himself as close as he can get to the field, watching the game, smiling excitedly with a hotdog in hand a Boston hat on the head.

I don't expect MR to have a flickr account and framed vacation photos, but I would think Dylan would have really wanted pictures and MR would've made that happen on this super cool trip.

 

[Seajay]

Moving from a small town to a city often gives talented and dedicated athletes like Dylan an opportunity to take their skill set to the next level.

BTW, at what age do little league baseball players advance to the next level?

Even if Dylan wasn’t in direct contact with his baseball coaches, imo Dylan would been in regular contact with his baseball team and buddies each summer.
MOO

RS&BBM: In going to a large community, it also opens up the probablility that he'll be a small fish in a bigger sea. The talent and skill of a larger pool brings out more talented and skilled players.

In LLBB, Inc, the age playing cut off date is August 1st. If he were to still be 12 until August 1st, he would play as a 12 year old or the Major Division, which are ages 10-12 year olds. If he turned 13 on or after August 1st, he would have played as a 13 year old, and would have been in the Junior Division if they had enough 13 year old's to have one. If not, then the 13 year olds are mixed in with the 14-15 year old's for the Senior Division. Big League is ages 16-18 years old.

The Major Division is what is commonly the "main" league level of Little League BB and the one that is featured in the Little League World Series that usually airs the last Sunday in August.

Second bold: My son played LLBB from T-Ball as a 6 year old all the way up to Big League at 18. His friends were his friends whether they were on his team or an opposing team. It didn't matter and he wasn't pigeonholed to his teammates as friends. Sometimes his friends ended up on the same team with him, other time they ended up on opposing teams. He did not call, text or email his other teammates who weren't friends, nor his coach. I dealt with his manager/coaches as a parent.