I don't agree with that. My husband is a private person, and he would look like the guiltiest person on earth if he were in this situation. He just does not bare his soul to anyone, not even me. It's like pulling teeth to get him to say what he thinks sometimes. And as far as talking to reporters... yeah, if they asked him about a car or a pickup or something to do with woodworking, he'd talk all day. But not about anything that would require him to talk about his feelings.
As far making a plea on t.v. for a missing child??? Nope, forget it. He would not. He will cry... he just won't talk about it. It's not that he doesn't have feelings, he does. He just has a hard time expressing himself when he's emotional.
When something traumatic/devastating happens in my family, I tend to be one who looks for answers/solutions. There's no way I'd go on television and cry, beg anybody for anything, tell a bunch of strangers things that I consider personal, or any of the other things that most people consider to be normal for a mother to do. I let the people oriented people in the family deal with the feelings part, and I'll deal with the thinking part. I believe we all have our own place in the equation. MOO
Over recent years, I have lost both of my parents, a step parent, both grandmothers, a cousin, 3 aunts, 3 uncles and several friends/acquaintances. Nobody ever saw me shed a tear, nor did they expect to. It has nothing to do with caring, and I don't believe that MR not speaking out or falling apart means that he doesn't care either. MOO again!