CO- Dylan Redwine, 13, Vallecito, 19 November 2012 - #32

[jjenny]

I guess. I would presume so since the last time she heard from him he was with his father. I think from the texts we can surmise the plans were made on the way home. No?? jmo

I don't surmise anything because we don't have the earlier texts.

 

[ozgirl70]

MR comments that nothing had been confirmed about Thanksgiving. Whether they would have it 'here' or travel to 'Col.....not Colorado Springs, Castle Rock'.
Maybe Dylan had expressed a desire to spend Thanksgiving with his Mother.

After watching the video, I'm even more certain that MR was p'd off about Dylan wanting to spend time with his friends, rather than with him.

:twocents::moo:

 

[azgrandma]

I wonder what Elaine meant when she made the comment that Mark may have underestimated Dylan?

IMO, I think it is the type of thing when you haven't seen someone in awhile they tend to grow but in your mind they haven't.
A couple of months in teen months is forever and they change so quickly.

 

[mck16]

There are those who commit unspeakable acts against someone they "love". As far as everything else...we will just have to agree to disagree.

I guess so . But, from your info that you deal with child protective service, I can totally understand how you might feel the way you do. But, I also have a long history in this and I just don't see it. No back story, no history of CPS visits, and long time divorced. Maybe I just want it to be atypical and the family not involved. jmo

 

[mck16]

I don't surmise anything because we don't have the earlier texts.

Yea that is right, but there is sure a lot of speculation going on. Do you disagree? tia

 

[azgrandma]

Jsnipped

I have to wonder why then she wasn't concerned after texting Dylan Sunday night and not having heard from him all day the next day???

ER said in her interview that she texted DR Sunday, he responded he dad picked him up, she texted him Monday but was not concerned because it wasn't unusual for him not respond right away, then MR texted her about DR's where abouts.

BTW IMO, If my child was with their parent and I hadn't heard from the in 24 hrs, all the while knowing that there was a flight, sleep, and most likely friends. I wouldn't be too concerned. At least not until I got a text from the other parent asking if I knew where the child was.

 

[mck16]

I wondered the same thing. Could she have meant that he underestimated what a little adult Dylan had become? Still thought of him as a little boy?

Or did she mean that MR was under the impression that Dylan could be manipulated?

Or that Dylan had expressed hostility for MR to ER, but that MR was unaware of it because Dylan always said what MR wanted to hear while in his presence?

It had only been two months since he had seen him. And as a parent you go with the changes and are proud your son is growing up. jmo

 

[cluciano63]

It had only been two months since he had seen him. And as a parent you go with the changes and are proud your son is growing up. jmo

Hard to think of "only two months" right now...

 

[azgrandma]

I am sorry, but I said sarcasm not snarky. And in the video I watched he did not say he did not feel guilty. He said of course he did. And another thing, he has never said anything negative toward ER. And in the interview his comments were alway 'WE'. All the negative press or informtation about MR has come from ER. Let's be clear, I in no way feel that ER had anything to do with this, but I think if there are any negative feeling toward her it is because the perception has been presented that it is either her or MR. This has become a verbal battle between mom and dad. This isn't right and will accomplish nothing in the long run.

In this video I saw love for Dylan and Cory and total understanding for Elaine. I actually saw more intelligent statements about the situation than I have seen from anyone else. I see from him that he feels in this matter, that they are still a family and in this together. jmo

I understand that we all have differing views.
BBM - "the only problem I have is with my ex-wife" or something to that effect. That sounds pretty negative to me.
They both have said negative towards each other, IMO ER is saying negative because DR disappeared on MR's watch. Even MR stated that he understood that.
MR has negativity towards ER, IMO it's still a bitter divorce type of anger. "she doesn't want me to know where she works" "DR comes to me more than mom" "she was busy earning her career"(while he is shaking his head as if it's a la te dah comment.

BUBM - if that's how he feels, then why has he not communicated with them in a "in it together" way? Ignoring text msg, threatening harassment, that's not a in it together way IMO.

I have no doubt that he has love for Cory & Dylan, never have doubted that.

 

[mck16]

Hard to think of "only two months" right now...

you are totally right. it is way too long. when I first read this I thought oh well he will be home tomorrow. I cannot believe it has been this long. It is unbelievable. I cannot stand it. I am going to have to go away because to me it is so helpless. I do not fault either parent and feel so bad for both of them. I cannot stand the constant barrage against MR. These two should come together and I think it is the outside opinions that is preventing this. I really really like Elaine and I really like Mark. I am so sorry this has happened to them. I pray something will come together and Dylan come home. jmo

 

[SCHMAE]

I understand that we all have differing views.
BBM - "the only problem I have is with my ex-wife" or something to that effect. That sounds pretty negative to me.
They both have said negative towards each other, IMO ER is saying negative because DR disappeared on MR's watch. Even MR stated that he understood that.
MR has negativity towards ER, IMO it's still a bitter divorce type of anger. "she doesn't want me to know where she works" "DR comes to me more than mom" "she was busy earning her career"(while he is shaking his head as if it's a la te dah comment.

BUBM - if that's how he feels, then why has he not communicated with them in a "in it together" way? Ignoring text msg, threatening harassment, that's not a in it together way IMO.

I have no doubt that he has love for Cory & Dylan, never have doubted that.

What was he busy doing then ? I'm wondering if there was a time when he was Mr Mom and stay at home dad?

 

[mck16]

I understand that we all have differing views.
BBM - "the only problem I have is with my ex-wife" or something to that effect. That sounds pretty negative to me.
They both have said negative towards each other, IMO ER is saying negative because DR disappeared on MR's watch. Even MR stated that he understood that.
MR has negativity towards ER, IMO it's still a bitter divorce type of anger. "she doesn't want me to know where she works" "DR comes to me more than mom" "she was busy earning her career"(while he is shaking his head as if it's a la te dah comment.

BUBM - if that's how he feels, then why has he not communicated with them in a "in it together" way? Ignoring text msg, threatening harassment, that's not a in it together way IMO.

I have no doubt that he has love for Cory & Dylan, never have doubted that.

I mean this is no way to be a smart , but how much have you been involved in this situation in the past and really how much are you in the know right now? He has always said from the begining that 'they' should be dealing with this as a family. I am just an x-wife who has dealt with these feelings. Just don't know how much you have been involved in the family. tia

 

[azgrandma]

What was he busy doing then ? I'm wondering if there was a time when he was Mr Mom and stay at home dad?

He was more of a stay at home dad for a bit, later he delivered pizzas so that was probably in the evening, perhaps to make sure DR wasn't in daycare. IMO

 

[Dee10]

I mean this is no way to be a smart , but how much have you been involved in this situation in the past and really how much are you in the know right now? He has always said from the begining that 'they' should be dealing with this as a family. I am just an x-wife who has dealt with these feelings. Just don't know how much you have been involved in the family. tia

BBM Yes, he said that and Cory and her say "he won't return our texts". He wanted to file harassment charges because they were texting him. He publicly said he was going to arrange to get a mediator through his lawyer. Did he, did she say no? Some people just cannot or won't deal with other. It is what it is.

 

[Eileen730]

Does this woman not understand that 30 minutes. j/k

Regarding cell service...

"He was texting on the couch after we were here watching the movie, he was over there texting or playin a video game or somethin, I just assumed he was texting. Cuz it's not likely he can't ever get service up here, it's just very sporadic. You know one place he might be he can't get service and then he could step, take a step to the left or a step to the right and wha la, all of the sudden he has service. And the two places he told me he could get service was from the corner of the couch, where he was sittin, (Mark points to the corner where the TV is now at) which has be changed, but is right by the TV there and my room..."

So from this I got that he has since rearranged his furniture. Hmmm...
(Just something I noticed)

She wasnt sitting on the couch and her phone rang!

 

[cluciano63]

I never thought anyone was hiding Dylan, and think it even less likely now.
So I really cannot see a good ending.
I just hope for a resolution.

 

[Eileen730]

Repeating for those not reading back-he said in "their" heart, not "her".

I swear he said her heart the first time the second time he said their heart

 

[mijamawi]

ER said in her interview that she texted DR Sunday, he responded he dad picked him up, she texted him Monday but was not concerned because it wasn't unusual for him not respond right away, then MR texted her about DR's where abouts.

BTW IMO, If my child was with their parent and I hadn't heard from the in 24 hrs, all the while knowing that there was a flight, sleep, and most likely friends. I wouldn't be too concerned. At least not until I got a text from the other parent asking if I knew where the child was.

I'll have to go back and watch again. I thought she had said she texted him again later Sunday night and then again Monday.

I would mostly agree with the second part, but I would probably at least expect a short reply, just saying hi.

 

[Eileen730]

Why a divorce lawyer and filing papers?
No wonder they cant stand each other the longer it drags on the nastier Divorces get.

What in heaven name can you argue about for years and years.

Move on with life!

 

[Tennlyn]

Just wanted to add...it really doesn't take that long to check the whereabouts of anyone or confirm their alibi. We are talking 10-12 SO in that area. Why the fuss and negative reference from MR? Is he in LE? MOO

BBM

This is something that has really been bugging me. It seems to me that MR has been critical of LE from early on.

I think the first quote I heard from MR was questioning why LE didn't search the lake sooner; then why didn't they search his house a week earlier; and then why wasn't the investigator returning MR's calls. Plus all that self promotion about helping keep the investigation moving in his uncut interview at the DVD store. Not sure where I was going with this, but I've been thinking about it for a few days and wondering if it means anything. :moo::moo::moo: