CO- Dylan Redwine, 13, Vallecito, 19 November 2012 - #32

[Dee10]

I think when/if we ever find out the true facts , we will see that many in media and possibly LE misspoke on many occasions and didnt' realize that every letter of every word would be dissected twenty times !

I agree about the media and that's why it is great we now have 3 video's of Mark using his own words. Two are uncut, can't remember if the third is or not.

 

[Deleted member 39678]

Yes, when a person tells the same story exactly the same way every time, with all the details in the same order... LE knows it's made up, and probably well rehearsed. That's why they like to try to throw people off by jumping back and forth with the timeline and the details, to try to confuse them.

Also it's a good idea to keep in mind that the media does not always report every word that is said verbatim. Even when it's in quotes, doesn't mean it is exactly the way it was said to them.

You make some good points. I haven't seen where Mark made any major inconsistent statements in this uncut interview. The nap statement is something new but it's not an inconsistent statement. MOO.

 

[TxLady2]

IMO it is far too late for these parents to ever speak in a civil manner, and if both are truly innocent, then Dylan is likely deceased and they will probably continue to hate one another regardless.

But if this case is never solved, they won't only hate one another, they will always mistrust the other about Dylan to. But then, if they are both innocent, the likelihood of the case being solved is smaller.

If LE is truly stuck at the point of the two options they have been going off since a few days in, I have little faith in a resolution.

I would have to agree with you. I am beginning to think that the case won't ever get to the next level until Dylan is found. IF he is ever found. But it makes me wonder... if he's alive and out there somewhere, what are his feelings if he is hearing any of this? It would have to be hard on a kid to know that his parents literally despise each other. It must have been very difficult to live in the same house with them when they were together if this is how bad their relationship is now. I'm not sure if I could ever hate someone that much!

 

[Deleted member 39678]

I think when/if we ever find out the true facts , we will see that many in media and possibly LE misspoke on many occasions and didnt' realize that every letter of every word would be dissected twenty times !

I agree. I add Mark and Elaine to the list of people who may have misspoke in this case. MOO.

 

[SCHMAE]

Yes, when a person tells the same story exactly the same way every time, with all the details in the same order... LE knows it's made up, and probably well rehearsed. That's why they like to try to throw people off by jumping back and forth with the timeline and the details, to try to confuse them.

Also it's a good idea to keep in mind that the media does not always report every word that is said verbatim. Even when it's in quotes, doesn't mean it is exactly the way it was said to them.

A great example of this is Kate Alderman in the Triangle Shirtwaist fire trial. English was not her first language and so no deviation in her story telling was a red flag !

 

[TxLady2]

I do agree that just now hearing about the nap is a little disconcerting, but it's possible that he has told LE this, it just hasn't come out in public before now. After all, this was only the 2nd or 3rd time he's appeared in an interview, and this was the longest one so far, so we were bound to hear things for the first time.
As far as it being a 3 hour nap... we don't know what time he laid down. He could have done a few chores first and tried texting Dylan several times before he laid down and then slept a couple of hours. He didn't say he came home and went straight to bed, or if he did I missed that part.

 

[azgrandma]

I'm trying to watch them but my daughter doesn't agree that I should get to do anything but feed her and give her all my attention. I love her but wow who would have known it would be this exhausting! Lol why don't they tell you this at baby classes?!

She's going well! We are sort of in a routine but she isn't a big sleeper during the day which I don't mind but I rarely get to go to the toilet, and my house is a pig sty :/ and I miss it here with you all so much! Whinge over lol.
Sorry for O/T!

I hope to be able to watch the interviews soon and return to post my thoughts on them!

o/t
my favorite saying:
There will be time for cleaning and cooking for children grow when you're not looking.

There will come a time when the restroom is your only time for privacy!

 

[azgrandma]

lol or several weeks, I think I was super lucky with my daughter she started sleeping through the night from 7 weeks, she would sleep 11pm until 9am.

lol, I tell everyone that God tricked me with my first one just so I would have more, slept through the night like an angel, then the second one........................10 months old!!!

 

[aust amateur slueth]

lol, I tell everyone that God tricked me with my first one just so I would have more, slept through the night like an angel, then the second one........................10 months old!!!

lol that seems to be par for the course, I stopped at one.

 

[SuperMom1995]

But isn't that a tool LE uses??? When a person tells a story, if they tell it exactly the same way every time it's because they've practiced it and made parts of it up, but if it changes slightly each time, it's because it's not rehearsed and it's coming from memory, so not everything is going to be said each time???

But the details would not be that different. There's a big difference between I went by to see his friend and he said he had not seen him then 2 months later saying I went by to see his friend but no one was at home .... and yes, he was referring to the same friend. IMO

 

[BeginnersLuck]

I'm sure Marks account to LE of what happened that day, is more detailed than what was or has been reported in the media interviews. After all, it is not his priority nor is he responsible to answer the general public's questions about details.

I would probably be in a state of fog from the shock and it would be hard to recount every last little detail to a T. I certainly would never know, what actual time I left Walmart, McDonalds, or arrived home unless I had a reason to look at a clock and note it down.

I have never understood some of the behavior analysis that I've read online in missing persons cases. Especially, when it is done on parents. I am nervous and shy. I am not trained or experienced in being in front of a camera. (just throwing in, maybe the furniture was rearranged for the interview) I have been in a state of shock and my brain doesn't focus well and my words don't flow from my mouth like they would when not under stress. Why are these obvious things not taken into consideration?

I do want to add that I find it horribly sad when parents have such a bitter divorce. Children are affected in negative ways when this happens. Parents paint negative pictures of the other parent to the child. It's common, unfortunately. This isn't helping here at all and I don't find it unusual that they weren't able to get to communicate via text or phone with one another, if they were not capable of setting the anger aside. It sounds like the two adult parents need a mediator. The children, no matter what age they are now, have been affected enough by this.

I want to add, I really don't have an opinion in this case on what I think happened to Dylan. I'm certainly not ruling out a possible abduction. I try and make my statements in general terms of how I feel a parent might react and how I've seen the public react in past cases. I come here hoping for something new each day that will lead to finding Dylan. I know it's horribly frustrating for everyone, that after two months, there just hasn't been anything new at all.

 

[DylansMom34]

These PI's are bail bonds people. I wonder how much that translates into finding a missing child. I guess it doesn't hurt to have anyone and everyone searching....

 

[ChiTownLass]

I got a reply from Melissa....this is copied and pasted directly from my email....So this clears up what we thought was a much longer interview!

I had two hours of total interviews for the story. That includes Mark, Elaine and 7 other people. Not all of them made it into the story on 9News.

We spend nearly 2 hours at Mark's house, but the formal interview on tape only lasted 40 minutes. We actually talked quite a while before and after while my photographer set up lights and camera and got production shots. If he had said anything significant, we would have gone back on the record and I would have restarted the formal interview.. The same thing goes for Elaine's interview.

This is all there is.

Melissa Blasius
9 News
KUSA-Denver
[email protected]<mailto:[email protected]>
303-437-2083

 

[DylansMom34]

http://www.gazette.com/news/forensics-150683-boy-monument.html

 

[SCHMAE]

http://www.gazette.com/news/forensics-150683-boy-monument.html

Oh no !
Find him but not with cadaver dogs !
I'm sorry but that article has made me the saddest .
I'm torn between find him no matter what and don't find him if
it's horrible. I'm so glad I'm not his parent. This is a horror.

 

[asyousay]

I wonder if Mark would let the dogs search his house and cars ?

 

[Tennlyn]

http://www.gazette.com/news/forensics-150683-boy-monument.html

I would prefer that this story had NOT been published on Dylan's birthday. Can we ignore it until tomorrow?

 

[SCHMAE]

http://www.gazette.com/news/forensics-150683-boy-monument.html

Curious statement from your link .....
''“I get to know Dylan,” she said. “I want more information on Dylan himself, his tendencies, what kind of athlete he was, what kind of a kid he was, how angry he might have been.”

 

[SuperMom1995]

Good points. I stated this awhile ago. Dylan flys in to visit dad and the first question is , can i go and spend time with my friends . I think that would of hurt his feelings and could of been why he said no to the visit that night.

Dylan was growing up and wanted more than just dad time. Maybe he did not like this change .

Well, I know that when you feel like you have gone the extra mile as a parent and your teen acts unappreciative, I can see something happening with a parent who has an uncontrollable temper. I have yelled at mine before for the same reason, but yelling is where it stopped. IMO

 

[BeginnersLuck]

I also want to add that I am not trying to judge parents for mistakes that were made in the past. The important thing is to realize those mistakes and try not to repeat them.

My divorce was not a piece of cake. I handled things in ways I wish I wouldn't have, out of anger and frustration. I wish I would have been able to rise above that despite the hurt. Divorce and problem relationships can bring the worst out in people and it takes two to tango and there are always two sides to every story. It would be nice for a couple to be able to say that after years of marriage, they never had to deal with an affair or an account of drunken foolish behavior from their spouse or partner. Consider yourself lucky if you've had a great relationship. I wish I would have and I wish I could have made better choices just as these parents are probably wishing right now.

I think it's sad that the public has become privy to all their dirty laundry. I don't know anyone that doesn't have some dirty laundry. It must be very difficult to have the world know about it. It's bad enough that they have lost their child but on top of that the public has focused on, well....their dirty laundry.