I was speaking with my 10 y/o grandson this morning while taking him to school. He is about to go visit his father where he lives, in another state, for a week.
I questioned him (my grandson) almost felt like I should have mirandized him first.
Do you guys have anything fun planned while you are there? While I won’t go into any detail, he did tell me the plans for all but two days, one of those was a “my choice” day and he hadn’t figured it out yet and the other was a “just me & dad day but it’s a surprise”. He knew exactly where his father & fiancé’ would be on one day (they had previous commitment they could not change) and exactly who he would be staying with.
Does mom pack your clothes or do you? I do, she tells me how many clothes to pack though. (Meaning she will tell him to pack 6 sets of clothing)
Well, what happens if you forget something? Dad will get it for me.
Even a coat? No, cause I have one there.
Well, what if it’s too small because you really are a big boy? He’d get me one, one time he went through all my stuff and some of it was too small and some of it was too big so I only had one thing left so he got me new clothes to keep there.
I found this a pretty interesting conversation.
He already knew exactly what they were doing; dad even allowed for a couple days of father/son time that would be special.
He has clothes there and still takes clothes with him.
Because he isn’t there on a daily basis, dad is still prepared by having clothing at his home as well.
If he has outgrown something or forgotten something, dad obviously has no problem making sure his son has what he needs. (good thing because dad would have to deal with an upset grandma

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Mom allows my grandson to pack his own bags at the age of 10, if he forgets something it is his responsibility.
Here we have a child that just recently started traveling by himself (use to go with his paternal grandma on the plane) and he knows everything to expect. I'm sure there may be changes of plans, or perhaps not. Dad is prepared and allows for the unexpected forgotten items.
This is something that has bothered me, why did MR not have any plans, even tentative? They were all maybe and we might. Nothing was set.
IMO if DR forgot a coat and it was an issue for MR, then why not buy one?!