CO- Dylan Redwine, 13, Vallecito, 19 November 2012 - #9

[Confusion]

But what little kid wants his father to be so angry that he is arrested for assault, trespassing, menacing and child abuse, all over a stupid toy truck? I bet the poor kid was as embarrassed as heck. JMO

[ I remember when my DS asked DH to stop 'cheering' for him and jeering at the refs during his hockey games. My DH is from Boston and he LOVED to chew out the refs and the other team, 'in support' of his kid. But our kid said . please, knock it off, it's embarrassing. lol]

I was arrested for assault one time! A guy I had broken up with left a note on my car saying I had left a couple things at his place and I should stop after work and pick them up. I did, and he pulled a gun on me, then called 911 to have me arrested. I asked him for probably the 3rd and 4th time if the gun was loaded while he was talking to the dispatcher, and when he said no, I just said I was out of there and left. About 30 minutes later a couple officers come knocking on my door and told me the "allegations", and asked me if it was self defense. I said I never believed he would shoot me if that's what they were asking. They tried to get me to say I was afraid or it was SD, and finally arrested me (because in any accusation of DV they have to arrest someone there.) I tried to plead guilty just to get out of there rather than going back repeatedly, etc., but the judge wouldn't let me. Eventually the charges were dropped - he had told the dispatcher that he wanted me arrested because "he was afraid that once I found out his gun wasn't loaded, I'd take it away from him and hit him over the head with it!" I never assume there has to be a good reason for an arrest!
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[TGIRecovered]

Here is the link. Dad says he is out of town for work, but came back to pick Dylan up for visit. Jmo but possibly this could be why mom got sole custody. And sole custody means more money dad has to pay-which means more out of town work, vicious cycle. http://durangoherald.com/article/20121203/NEWS01/121209900/Family-keeps-faith-through-adverse-time--

When NG asked Mom where Dad works, she said she knows he has been a truck driver before and he might be doing that now but she is not sure.

I think that is weird. She can't get child support taken out of his check if she doesn't know where he works, right? Was he moving from job to job to avoid paying? If he had a steady job it should be listed in the child support paperwork and she wouldn't have to guess.

MOO

 

[StJohn]

Yes that article's headline originally said "Dylan Redwine's father denies polygraph claim made by mother." The headline said he denied it but the interview didn't mention that he denied it. I now see that they have since changed the headline. FWIW.

Guess they were having a Nancy Grace moment :maddening:

 

[Dr. Know?]

Maybe he was paying her directly and not through the child support system?

I'm just thinking alternatively. I came here late but have been reading when I could.

 

[mck16]

When NG asked Mom where Dad works, she said she knows he has been a truck driver before and he might be doing that now but she is not sure.

I think that is weird. She can't get child support taken out of his check if she doesn't know where he works, right? Was he moving from job to job to avoid paying? If he had a steady job it should be listed in the child support paperwork and she wouldn't have to guess.

MOO

I think it is weird too. You know she knows where he works. I can't believe she is acting like she doesn't know anything about her ex husband, but she sends her son to spend a week with him. And thinking all along he is violent and could harm her son. Does not make any sense to me. jmo

 

[Salem]

No confirmation on any video :banghead:

Yet! LOL! Patience my friend, patience. If they just reviewed the video this weekend, it should be coming out anytime now. If we don't see something Wednesdayish, I'll be banging my head also. I really think LE will release it, if they have it, because they will want to talk to anyone that remembers seeing them in the store or at McD's.

I'm still crossing my fingers that there is some video of the two together.

And speaking of video, wouldn't the airport have cameras? Anyone know?

Salem

 

[Bravo]

I think it is weird too. You know she knows where he works. I can't believe she is acting like she doesn't know anything about her ex husband, but she sends her son to spend a week with him. And thinking all along he is violent and could harm her son. Does not make any sense to me. jmo

It was Court ordered. She didn't have a choice but to send him. Maybe Dad is on between jobs and didn't want to say. Perhaps he has a trade and picks up contracts wherever work is.

 

[Dr. Know?]

I'd think all airports have security cameras. Homeland Security I'm pretty sure would require it. If not, I'll be floored. jmo

 

[Salem]

Maybe he was paying her directly and not through the child support system?

I'm just thinking alternatively. I came here late but have been reading when I could.

Or he could have changed jobs since the initial support order. If there have been no changes and he is paying as he is supposed to, there would be no reason for her to keep up on his employment.

Usually the issue only arises if more support is requested or a reduction in amount is requested.

Salem

 

[katydid23]

The point I was trying to make is that MR was acting on behalf of his kids. He was protecting him in the way he knew how. I am sure it could have embarassed his oldest son, but how many parents have embarrassed their kids at some point? It was not a mean act I don't think. jmo

But we don't really know that either. If it was an expensive toy, like an electric truck that drove, or something like that, he might have also been angry at his kid for letting the neighbor kid play with it too. JMO

I think the important thing to take away from it, is Dad has a volatile temper. JMO

 

[PaulR]

Was he moving from job to job to avoid paying?

Not to make excuses for the man, but in today's economy, there are a LOT of people who are constantly changing jobs. Sadly he would not be alone.

 

[Bravo]

Yet! LOL! Patience my friend, patience. If they just reviewed the video this weekend, it should be coming out anytime now. If we don't see something Wednesdayish, I'll be banging my head also. I really think LE will release it, if they have it, because they will want to talk to anyone that remembers seeing them in the store or at McD's.

I'm still crossing my fingers that there is some video of the two together.

And speaking of video, wouldn't the airport have cameras? Anyone know?

Salem

The Airport should have cameras one would think in this day and age. Despite being a small one. I believe a local was here a few days ago. Somebody familiar with the airport. Very small they stated. So small one walks off the plane to the outdoors and into the airport. I sure hope you are right on the video or there are gonna be a ton of migraines around here lol

 

[jjenny]

They have been divorced for a long time. Maybe she hasn't kept up on his job duties. And as I recall she didn't say she doesn't know where he works, she said she doesn't know what exactly he does at work.

 

[aust amateur slueth]

I think it is weird too. You know she knows where he works. I can't believe she is acting like she doesn't know anything about her ex husband, but she sends her son to spend a week with him. And thinking all along he is violent and could harm her son. Does not make any sense to me. jmo

ermmm its been mentioned at least a gazillion times already but the visit was court ordered which means regardless of what her opinion was she had to send him like it or not.

 

[Confusion]

When NG asked Mom where Dad works, she said she knows he has been a truck driver before and he might be doing that now but she is not sure.

I think that is weird. She can't get child support taken out of his check if she doesn't know where he works, right? Was he moving from job to job to avoid paying? If he had a steady job it should be listed in the child support paperwork and she wouldn't have to guess.

MOO

I doubt if that's the case. When they had joint custody (or whatever the legal name for it is now), she may have had to pay him child support. They look at the amount of time spent at each home, what each parent's income is, and probably other factors I'm forgetting. I don't know if they would include her "husband's" income, but I'm pretty sure they wouldn't include a boyfriend's. She'd only had primary custody for less than 2 months when Dylan disappeared, so I really doubt MR had changed jobs too many times since then. MOO

 

[mck16]

It was Court ordered. She didn't have a choice but to send him. Maybe Dad is on between jobs and didn't want to say. Perhaps he has a trade and pics up contracts wherever work is.

I am sorry but I do not buy 'court ordered'. If she truly thought MR was dangerous she could fight that court order. What could they do to her that was worth losing her son over? what are they going to do make her a private? jmo

 

[katydid23]

I don't care that much if they have a video from the airport. We all know he was picked up there and things were fine. I want to see them at the grocery store and the mcdonalds etc.

 

[jjenny]

Well, you might not buy it, but I have seen a number of cases of court ordered visitation not to turn out very well. People do what court orders them to do.

 

[Salem]

~Respectfully snipped ~

Okay, now, where were we? Hello everyone! :seeya:

Oh, I know:

According to ER (Dylan's mom), per her NG interview, Dylan would have woken up at 6:30 to go see his friends (since he was used to waking up early to go to school, and would have also been excited to see his friends).

I'm thinking LE has listened to both sides (from both parents), and I'm thinking they're skeptical of the info MR has been giving them.

In the interview with MR at the video store, he talks about this and he is totally believable to me. JMO but MR says he joked with Dylan about making plans to get up at 6:30 a.m. because he knew Dylan wouldn't do it. Just the way MR talks about Dylan at this point in the video, is just so normal, the way a parent would talk about their child. I believed him.

Again, JMO. Lots of others have seen the video and they didn't have the same interpretation that I did....

Salem

 

[mck16]

Well, you might not buy it, but I have seen a number of cases of court ordered visitation not to turn out very well. People do what court orders them to do.

Oh really? Was their child abducted or did they disappear? Can't think of anything worse than that. jmo