Friendships require effort. It’s possible the move occurred soon after the latest cancer treatment, and SM didn’t have the energy to do that yet. She may have embarked on her own continued healing process, and felt her biking community supported her as much as she needed for now.
Friendships require time. The Ms had not been in the Salidas area all that long. I’m sure the genuine friends they have made in Salidas are probably reluctant to over ride the Indiana friends and family, however they have been very positive in their comments.
Given the distance of their new home from town, it’s not as simple as walking a dog and striking a conversation with another dog walker.
When my kids were at home, many of my closest friends were the moms of THEIR friends, car pooling, etc.
What I suspect is that SM was happy in her new home. She didn’t feel any urgency to develop new friendships beyond her church and biking community, she was content.
I have observed this also, in my own and my friends marriages. Retirements, empty nests, couples seem to be get back to those days when you first met, spending time together.
IMO we diminish Suzanne, when we speculate on BMs guilt. I continue to think, she is a strong kind woman. She raised two strong daughters and beat cancer, twice. She would not have stayed in an abusive marriage, for her daughters sake.
SHE is the best judge of BMs character. She was with him, longer than the 27 years they were married.
Perhaps, Barry was her best friend, and it’s as simple as that.