^^bbm
I've commented earlier that I believe SM willingly spent 26 years in a selfless marriage where the happiness, health, and welfare of her family were her reward.
She had miracle children and they were her life.
However, I think SM experienced an awakening when for the first-time in their relationship, SM was weak and struggling, and BM did not step up to the plate.
For all the years of SM putting him first, BM was incapable of returning the favor. IMO, it was not that SM expected BM to drop everything and become Mr. Mom, it was that BM never offered. He was void of empathy and compassion for his wife. We heard it from a cancer patient receiving treatment with SM. It was a moment, an experience, that SM lived that can never be taken back, a picture that can't be unseen.
In SM's recovery from cancer, I really believe SM came back stronger. SM had an important milestone appointment on Monday, May 11 that she would not have missed for anything.
And then there's that bizarre camping excursion to Idaho during a global pandemic that has never sat right with me! Why that weekend? They were already in glorious country for camping. It doesn't follow. In fact, Idaho discouraged incoming travel unless the purpose was for essential services.
I think the weekend alone was intentional (regardless of who planned it). I believe SM planned to use the weekend alone to tell BM she wanted to separate from him. The timing was right. Her health restored. The IN real estate balloon payment was only weeks away. SM knew the cash would be available-- perhaps she planned to reimburse herself for her inheritance dollars SM reportedly used for the downpayment of the Puma Path residence. Time was of the essence. SM needed to act now before BM would think to invest the proceeds in another project -- which he did (Salida lot purchase).
I think SM may have been receiving moral support from her best friend on Saturday morning. I think SM asked BM to come home early (maybe by noon) on Saturday --which he interpreted as "spend time with the wife." At least that's what he told MG. I also think BM sensed this was coming. And when his fear realized, BM became enraged. This was indeed personal -- all about greed. It was about money and BM was not willing to divide his kingdom. Not now, not ever. BM knew he was too old to start over, and it wasn't going to happen.
BM would go so far as to get rid of SM before he'd let this happen to him.
MOO