Not Ridiculous. I cried
constantly for months and months after my 23-year-old son died in Jan. 2006. I still cry every day for him - some days I cry all day. I always will. I expect to be in therapy and on medication for the rest of my life in order to be able to stay alive for my other son - otherwise I be gone now as well. I understand how GA feels and, believe me, he hasn't gotten over it. It's a painful daily struggle. I can barely leave home after over 3 years.
What
is ridiculous is to presume to know how someone else deals with the death of a child.
This is not to say I think KC is grieving unless for herself - G and CA, yes - they are trying to hold onto anything they can. . . what else can they do? You can't just make up your mind to get over it - that doesn't work. The depth and length of the greiving process is affected by the cirumstances surrounding it.
If interested, read more below.
From
https://www.health.harvard.edu/fhg/updates/Complicated-grief.shtml
Complicated grief
Grief is an unavoidable and normal experience. But it can take intense forms that surprise a bereaved person, including forms that in other circumstances would be called a psychiatric disorder. In some cases, psychiatric treatment may help.
Bereaved persons may suffer not only sadness but anger and suspicions about the motives of people who offer support. They may ruminate obsessionally about the events leading up to the death and blame themselves or others for it. Up to 50% of widows and widowers have symptoms typical of major depression in the first few months. They may also have hallucinatory experiences.
These symptoms are usually normal responses to the loss. They call for comforting and sometimes explanation, but not treatment. But if the symptoms linger and become increasingly debilitating, the condition turns into what is now being called unresolved, protracted, traumatic, or complicated grief. It has features of both depression and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). And there is some evidence that a distinct type of treatment may bring relief.
The most characteristic symptoms are intrusive thoughts and images of the deceased person and a painful yearning for his or her presence. Other complications are denial of the death, imagining that the dead person is alive, desperate loneliness and helplessness, anger and bitterness, and wanting to die..