I don’t believe anything written in Linda Hoffman Pufh’s book. I don’t believe John went off at patsy for being a lousy housekeeper. But if he did that means nothing. They’d been married for 20 years, I’m pretty sure he knew exactly what patsy was like. You can’t judge what state their house was in all the time based on a few Christmas photos and a crime scene video. Whose house doesn’t get messy over Christmas. As for John having to be told by friends to be more supportive of patsy during her cancer treatment, I take that with a grain of salt. Often people will say anything to make money. Often people invent stories to make money. I don’t think gossip proves anything about the ramseys private life. I prefer to stick to the facts of the case.
In fact, i just wanted to say that thinking of who else could have written the RN and killed JBR, it is not only RDI. The servants are within the circle, too.
My impression of Patsy. She was not dumb at all. Her hygiene habits i don't know about, how her illness changed her i don't know about but some things sound logical from her life experience. She comes across as pragmatic. Pageants and being “miss something” once helped herself secure a successful marriage. I simply view JBRs pageants less as Patsy living vicariously through JBR's life, and more as putting her daughter on the only track known to Patsy to secure a successful life. Today, JBR would be viewed as a smart girl and put into a STEM school. In 1995, 30 years ago, she was viewed as a beautiful girl and signed into pageants. Time has changed.
Decades ago I had the experience of being the target of pen-poison letters. RN writers I view as belonging to the same group as the ones who write pen-poison letters. Here is what I noticed:
- the people who produce them usually want to scare you. For this, they'd usually want you to think that they know you very well, almost to show that they are "near and observing" (IRL, they may not know you well at all. They put personal information in the beginning and it takes you a while to see that the "information" they have is, essentially, fragmented. Look at the very end to guess what they really want.)
So coming to the Ramseys RN. I don't know why it was written, but i don't believe Patsy would put $ 118 K in it. This points straight at the house. But could the servants and housekeepers know about the bonus sum? Because for them, it makes sense to point at the Rs. And 118K does it better than 100K.
I read some excerpts of Linda Hoffman Pugh's book. It is either some delusion, or the person writing it is some sexual psychopath. JMO. Anyhow, if the person who signed the book by her name ever worked for the Rs, one could only feel sorry for them.
But then I thought, how often do we hear/read of frequent scandals between nannies and the fathers of the family, au pairs and the fathers of the family. What i observed in my youth in my friend's family was not far brom Bedlam, either. It has nothing to do with the age or looks of the housekeeper. All that is needed is horrible envy towards the mother.
Patsy was married to the "businessman of the year" with all the perks of it. But Patsy is weak with stage IV cancer, has an older child with "issues" and the daughter whom they all seem to love. Maybe the housekeeper wanted to be another Mrs. Ramsey, or had a daughter who she thought could, or another servant had similar plans?
Losing a child often leads to a divorce. And JBR was the glue that held the family together. Only here, everything was executed to messy that it brought the Ramseys closer.
JMO - the housekeepers and such could write a RN, too.