FL - 17 killed in Stoneman Douglas H.S. shooting, Parkland, 14 Feb 2018 #2 *Arrest*

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  • #841
How is it obvious they were collecting a monthly stipend? From who? NC is an adult.

If I were the older single parent of teens with psychological issues, I’d make sure that any estate left to them was in a trust with a monthly stipend or allowance until at least age 25. Mom was frugal and obviously managed her finances reasonably well as MSM stated her husband left an estate totaling about a million dollars in 2002 and she managed it well enough to not have to work for the interim 15 years.

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He was only a student at MSD HS from 1/13/16 to Feb. 8, 2017 when he was expelled. Basically one year.
Where was he prior? One of the 2 private schools he was expelled from?
Why haven't we heard any reports from those 2 schools?

Cause their private? 🤷*♀️
 
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I have a feeling that the mother hid as much as she could from the public. Seems that the stories we read about his behavior come from the outside. Reading about the 30 plus phone calls to the home i can only imagine all the times she didn’t call. Iirc she was 51? when she adopted, dad was 63? The reletive in ny that met the boys once for funeral ( probably the dad’s) said the boys had issues/problems. I watched/read about a 3 year old on a plane about a week ago, passengers said it was a trip from hell.
I can’t imagine.


The mother of the child was overheard telling flight attendants that her son has “behavioral problems,” according to passengers.

http://www.insideedition.com/passen...er-3-year-old-screamed-8-hours-straight-40745

What will he be like as a teen?

I read about the 3 year old screaming the whole 8 hours. One hour is bad enough, but 8 hours. Ugh!

I read that link and looks like she deals with quite often.

I do not want to think what he will be like as a teen.
 
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I read about the 3 year old screaming the whole 8 hours. One hour is bad enough, but 8 hours. Ugh!

I read that link and looks like she deals with quite often.

I do not want to think what he will be like as a teen.

If she must travel with her child could a doctor prescribe a safe tranquilizer or something to calm the child? I personally do not like to medicate or drug a child but he seemed over-the-top filled with anxiety that cannot be healthy for the child nor the parents. The passengers shouldn't be forced to deal with it. It would have given me a complete panic attack!
 
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Did anyone catch the info upthread that LE/DCF once investigated the mother for abusing the boys? Physical abuse,
I guess. Wonder how that happened and who called in that complaint??


yes it was on the log of 30 or so calls to LE they way it was written is why I asked it was like attack on geriatric

I have to think there were more involved commitments which as we can see here helps

nothing

Reality:

is they come in very agitated -- a nurse comes in with a little tushie shot

horse tranquilizer equivalents


like giving a marshmallow to a child if marshmallows happen to calm a child down

the next morning , while drooling a dash they deny hoicide or suicide ideation and are released. If they are lucky (for adults) they would get them a taxi to somewhere - if they could remember where there where staying.

In a lot of cases they were on the street so a drop off anywhere is actually how it would it work.


It is NOT treatment oriented it is temporary detention



depending on how out of control the admissions dept is they may make to one 45 min group

I have done them -- it mad me angry as hell. It consisted of a bunch of people drooling talking to jesus aloud nodding off escalating cause drug was wearing off pee pee poo poo accidents or being surrounding by another person who is totally being out of control and being retained to be taken to seclusion room

out of the 15 or so hours there there --typically the first several hrs were waiting for the drug to kick in then the admission paperwork absurd the pt often believes they are batman half of the information is wrong etc etc the only thing that really matters (admin wants money) is the medicare or medicaid number if one is had

Once the horse tranquilizer takes effect they try to give em some food clothes shower by then they can pass out from the horse tranquilizer

and then they are handed a RX that they have no resources to get no desire to have


a lot of times there is addiction involved -- so writing down pt will attend AA 2x a week is used a lot cause it is free total BS

There is no individual treatment which would be stupid in and of itself considering their length of stay is a farce

I was a sold clinician but 45 min with a drugged out acutely ill person is pretty useless . Talk therapy for the folks this acute is totally useless.

If anything and can be done on a regular basis (daily) group is ideal for the acutely ill

it is not insight oriented oriented treatment. It focuses on the importance the bathing taking medication eating and not drinking

folks have the notion that there is treatment stuff involved. There is none. Another fallacy is they can be kept past 72 hours .


We can not.

It the pt agrees to stay they can do so probably for another 15 hours or so and then they are dced.

If the treatment team thinks they need longer than 72 hours (no one does it ) -----------

You have to go to a judge -- it takes forever --(there is not enough staff to be in court) and most of the time you may get like 48 hours before you have to appear before the judge again .

What happens in reality is they get dced -- when the drugs wear off and a couple of days pass you typically will see them again soon being dragged in all escalated by LE

I think movies and tv have fostered the insitionalized myth.

It is a fantasy our mass shooting numbers clearly indicate such

Rinse repeat


Here is a realistic portrayal of the situation: (in Baker Act facilities there are usually several of these going on at the same time -- it is very calming for agitated folks !)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ul-uSfkp1jM


in Baker Act facilities there are usually several of these going on at the same time -- it is very calming for agitated folks

in mental settings one would not approach like that. You get several staff with you. Ideally 5. One for the left arm one for l leg one for right and one for head. Called take down.

Once you get them on the floor then you carry them to the seclusion room. Then you restrain them. 5 point restraint. Means putting on like leather handcuffs on each arm and leg and one around the waste so they cant move. Then the nurse comes in with the tushie shot .





Hospitals have to be Baker act approved. Basically if the hospital takes fed money they have to take Baker Acts.

Private facilities stay away from this and wont take Baker Acts


https://aspirehealthpartners.com/how-to-get-help/faq/baker-act/
 
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If I were the older single parent of teens with psychological issues, I’d make sure that any estate left to them was in a trust with a monthly stipend or allowance until at least age 25. Mom was frugal and obviously managed her finances reasonably well as MSM stated her husband left an estate totaling about a million dollars in 2002 and she managed it well enough to not have to work for the interim 15 years.

MOO


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I don't know if its reasonable to not spend money on treatment as she was sick with flu/pneumonia, when one has nearly a million in assets.
 
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Well we know that Nikolas was already 2 years old when he was adopted, and I'm guessing it would have taken many months before his parents realised there was a significant problem, so it's possible he might have already been beyond that window before anything was done to address the developmental delays.

Where do we know that from? I provided a link where relatives claim he was adopted as a newborn.
 
  • #855
That was an early report. I believe more recently it has been reported that he was adopted when he was 2 years old.

Please provide a link for that. I have not seen that reported. He is 2 years older than his brother, so I am guessing people are just assuming he was adopted at 2. But they could have gotten him as a newborn then gotten his brother from the same woman when brother was born.
 
  • #856
Please provide a link for that.

"Cruz was adopted at age 2 along with his 2-month-old brother, Zachary, by Lynda and Roger Cruz, friends and relatives said. Relatives said Nikolas and Zachary shared a biological mother but have different fathers."

https://www.washingtonpost.com/national/fla-shooting-suspect-had-a-history-of-explosive-anger-depression-killing-animals/2018/02/15/06f05710-1291-11e8-9570-29c9830535e5_story.html?utm_term=.27a1a944bf52
 
  • #857
If he could learn to shoot a gun, then doing laundry, using a microwave boiling water should have been a no-brainer. My guess he refused and forced his mom to be the maid.

Or she just did it all without being forced. She was a stay at home mother, which means that she could have believed doing household chores was her responsibility.
 
  • #858
I don't know if its reasonable to not spend money on treatment as she was sick with flu/pneumonia, when one has nearly a million in assets.

Makes me question if the mom was competent or wasn't possibly disabled herself.
 
  • #859
In that case the window for bonding had already passed before he was adopted.

Yes I agree. And we don't know if he lived his first 2 yrs. tied in a crib, or crying his eyes out for attention or what.
Please see my past thread about infant/toddler care in some orphanages. No touching, no cuddling, no holding etc.
or "How To Raise a Depressed, Anxious Maladjusted Human Being."
MOO
 
  • #860
Or she just did it all without being forced. She was a stay at home mother, which means that she could have believed doing household chores was her responsibility.

Not teaching independence to your children is not giving them a fighting chance at life. All kids (he was 19 years old) should know how to cook, feed themselves, do basic laundry and prep a microwave snack. This is just plain bizarre.
An adult that cannot prep a snack is not an adult but obviously has a severe learning disability!
 
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