Speaking of cloth, a few years ago my middle school age children went to school with a 'moderate' muslim kid, his parents well respected in the community. He was a popular kid, good looking, athletic and well liked by all. My kids had known him all their lives. Apparently, his parents were nipping on the heals of a divorce and he decided to commit suicide as a way of 'restoring honor' to his family's name (or so rumor has it.) He succeeded. Somehow, this was kept out of the media aside from the customary obituary. My 5th and 6th graders (a boy and a girl) attended the funeral, along with the rest of their classmates. The females (including his mother) weren't allowed to attend the grave side service but the boys were. They carried the casket to the grave site and were instructed to lift his little body, draped lightly in cloth, out of the casket. They were then ordered to toss the body into the hole in the ground as if it were little more than garbage. Following that, everyone helped shovel dirt over it.
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My kids spent six months in therapy. Their friend's suicide was horrific enough but the customary practices of his funeral were beyond traumatizing. Had I known more about their burial customs I would have NEVER allowed my children to attend. It never dawned on me that my son would have to help throw his friend's dead body into a dirt hole. ‎