I think it goes back to CM. CM learned to fly in his twenties, WM at 17 and DM at 14. WM became an exec of CM's company in his twenties and so did DM of WM's project. I think there was an expectation that the third generation of M's was going to be better, faster, stronger than any generation before.
Do you have any proof of this or any links to support the theory?
The reality though was this: DM was in a school full of professionals' kids that he had nothing in common with, including a university path. In business DM was not at all a leader - he was too young and inexperienced to earn any respect, and lacked a work ethic, and his employees like AS looked down on him as a spoiled kid. There must of been a lot of competitive spirit (rather than compassion and support) in the family for the cause of CM's legacy to be so strong. I keep thinking of WM spending $30k to eulogize CM in the paper, and how he wanted DM to uphold the family name and legend with the MRO project.
Yes AS did look down on him. I guess we shall never know the truth behind AS and his viewpoint or his work ethic at MillardAir. I don't see evidence of competitive spirit anywhere, insofar as the Millard family was/is concerned. They appear to have stayed out of the limelight for the most part. The press involved in the seal activism doesn't seem to be of their initiation and I think the solo flight of DM could well have been something that the airport got word of. I don't see anything else in the archives about the family. Do you have any links you could share? Isn't it natural for someone to hope that their offspring take over a family business?
So DM knew he had to be Mr. Big, but it wasn't happening. There was no TFS graduation ceremony. There was no convocation at university. After age 14, DM's achievements stalled, but I think the expectation was still there for him to do big things.
How do we know what was happening in the Millards family life? Where I grew up there were no graduation ceremonies or proms and I have never missed it or felt deprived. I actually feel I was spared the programming. JMO.
What ended up happening with the MRO was that everyone was told DM was doing big things, but the reality was different again. He wasn't there, he didn't work hard, he did not have the knowledge or experience, he was an impediment. Family built up a myth that DM was doing fine when he really wasn't on schedule for all the achievements his family expected of him.
Who was told? Do you have a link for this information? Or is there a link that shows proof that DM didn't work hard, or that he did not have the knowledge or experience, or that he was an impediment.? I think if statements like this are made at trial then they will be either thrown out or be expected to be verified for the jurors. JMO. I can see the defence making an objection based on hearsay or speculation.
It was easier for DM to just be a regular guy, and hang out with his buds, but he still felt that push to be Mr. Big, to create a legacy in his name. And, DM could lead his friends easily by being the most daring, by ponying up the cash to make things happen, by having the most shocking hysterical haircut. The challenges of being a leader of ordinary men is much less than that in business. All you need is a few good movie quotes and one good imitation.
Unusual haircuts do not make a murderer anymore than braids do IMO. If he was 'ponying' up the cash, then I would be looking into blackmail and other threatening behaviours against DM not by him. JMO
The crazy got fuelled by money and male friendship and a no fear, no boundaries attitude. I don't think others lead DM astray, but that others supported him in his hijinks. DM was the "watch me do this" guy. And he always tried to top his last trick.
Which tricks were these? I have been searching for details of DM's hijinks lifestyle and any no boundaries behaviours but I cant seem to find any. I would have thought that someone with his status/money would have been thrust into the spotlight had he been guilty of anything out of the norm JMO
Now you don't have to be smart to be a criminal, you just have to cross the intangible line between right and wrong. I don't think DM was an incredible thinker - after all, he wasn't into school and he sits in his jail cell fantasizing about kids' movies...but he had a tremendous amount of daring.
Kids movies??
Somehow I picture him watching that old movie MB made of a seal being skinned alive, with his buddies, drunk and stoned and howling with laughter. Can you top that DM? Can you do something even grosser than make that horror flick/"wildlife education film"? I think DM would be attracted by the gruesomeness of that film and all the physical fights and evasion of police that went with it.
Wild speculation can be almost as interesting as some alleged conspiracy theories. But DM wasn't a part of the horror video, that was MS. IIRC.
When MB and WM divorced, DM was a young teen and chose (as you legally may at age 12) to live with WM. WM was a drinker.
Did he choose or was there a joint custody in place? I'm sure at 12, there would have been a set up that involved his mother.
This means DM's household was ruled by the schedule of the bottle, with late mornings, and many many hours devoted to drinking and recovering from drinking. Don't kid yourself: drinking eats up a lot of time. WM could have been doing many other worthwhile things, but he merely insisted that DM achieve (with no pressure on himself to recover his own life). He cooked DM pasta because it is quick and easy and there are leftovers.
Did he? Or maybe he didn't know how to cook anything else ! 'schedule of the bottle' ? we don't know how much WM used to drink or when as far as I can tell.
WM didn't put his time into making the home a good environment. DM got the basics out of him. MB was absent. With no real adults in his life, DM surrounded himself with buddies and empowered the lot of them with his money.
How do you know MB was absent? She seems to be the one he has turned to during this current situation. Hardly estranged. IMO. I think he has had both parents in his life, WM was with him looking at the farm. He obviously had support ! IMO
I see DM as immature and childish and daring. He is no genius and I think this will become apparent at trial, when the mountain of evidence against him is revealed. DM never planned to get caught and undergo an investigation. All of his defenses against LE were shallow and easily defeated. LE arrested DM within days.
Who is actually a genius? Which defenses against LE are you actually referring to. I can only follow facts. I have a hard time with fantastical innuendo. Not saying that yours is of course, but I would appreciate a few links to what you are claiming, otherwise it is hard to find any basis for the reasoning. KWIM ?
I think just like any other kid with parents with substance abuse issues, he went astray due to lack of guidance, and he surrounded himself with other kids that did not have the wisdom of life, or strongly developed values or morals, rather than stable adults. I think DM got a lot of encouragement from his buddies. I think his buddies felt safe and protected because of DM's status and money, as did DM.
I think maybe these 'buddies' may have been using DM on many levels. I see no evidence of any lack of guidance for DM. He doesn't have a criminal record from all accounts unlike some of the other characters.
Every so often in Facebook I get a trite graphic that ponders how lovely the world would be if children ruled it. In reality kids have to be taught not to bully, pinch, slap, hit, name call or push or shove...the little buggers need to be civilized and taught to behave nicely. I think that's what happened to DM. He did not have the adult guidance to keep him on the right track, and he developed into a self-centred, self-important monster that was haunted by the need to build a legacy of his own.
I don't fully agree with this. I think children should be taught that it's good to be kind , caring and helpful of course. But when children are on the receiving end of a bully, I tend to favour the old school ways of dealing with bullies. It made sure they were stopped right in their tracks. Waiting it out and playing nice doesn't always work with bullies. I know from first hand experience. I don't see my view as being self-centred more from the viewpoint of self- preservation when under attack, DM does not seem to have been self - centred either judging by the generosity and sharing nature that he appears to have.