JM: Well let's do this. With regard to you and Mr. Alexander, one of the things that happened was that you and he broke up, you understand that, back on June 29 of 2007
JA: Yes
JM: and the person that did the breaking up was you, right
JA: Yes
JM: And the reason you broke up with him, is because you snooped into his telephone, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And you did not have his permission on the day that you did it to go into his telephone, right?
JA: Not exclusively
JM: When you say not exclusively it means that you did have his permission to go into his phone, you understand what you're saying, right?
JA: Yes, at one point, I did.
JM: I’m not asking at one point, I’m asking on the day that you did it, did you have permission whether written or oral to go into his telephone and look at his text messages
JA: Um, he's told me to look at his phone, so I guess it's just a matter of interpretation
JM: Ma'am, ma'am, that day before he went to sleep did he tell you it was okay to look at his telephone
JA: Not that day
JM: And so you took it upon yourself to look into that telephone, right
JA: Yes
JM: And that’s when you saw these text messages, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And that what upset you
JA: Yes
JM: And as a result of that, you made a decision that the relationship was over, right
JA: Not right that day
JM: At some point you did make the decision that the relationship was over, right?
JA: Yes
JM: But you were upset that he was having these conversations about bodily parts with these other individuals via text message, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And you were so upset you still decided to go on vacation with him, right?
JA: That's not why
JM: Well, you still went on vacation with him even though you had this information, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And you went to New York
JA: We did go to New York, yes
JM: Pardon
JA: Yes we did went to New York
JM: And then you drove, or went to a PPL conference also, right?
JA: No it was a retreat
JM: Then you went to Huntington Beach, right
JA: That was the retreat I was referring to
JM: So you went to Huntington Beach after that, right
JA: Yes
JM: And you stayed wit him, right
JA: Yes
JM: You engaged in sexual conduct with him, right
JA: Yes
JM:* Even though you were very upset with what you knew
JA:* Yes
JM:* You chose to go on vacation rather than break up with him at that point, right?
JA:* Yes
JM:* And so the way you see if it, it’s his fault, that you broke up, not yours?
KN:* Objection, mischaracterizes testimony
Judge Overruled, you may answer
JA:* His fault I broke up with him
JM:* Yes, not your fault
JA: Well it was my choice so I don't know what you mean by fault
JM: Well, we’re talking about who’s to blame, that's what fault means, right?
JA: For the breakup
JM: For the breakup, that's what we're talking about, right.
JA: I guess we each had a part in it
JM: Well no,you’re saying it’s his fault because he was doing these things with other women, right?
JA: His fault for the breakup because he was doing things?
JM: The way you explained it was the reason you broke up was because of something he did, right
JA: That’s what motivated me to break up with him
JM: So what you did, the fact that you went behind his back *to look at his telephone had nothing to do with the breakup, right
JA: That was also one of the reasons
JM: So you believe that you were to blame for going behind his back
JA: Yes
JM: That was a dishonest thing to do, right
JA: Yes, I felt very badly
JM: Did I ask you whether or not you felt bad about it
JA: No
JM: You say that you feel bad about it, but haven’t you done similar stuff in the past
JA: Umm, yes
JM: I mean you did it to Bobby Juarez, right
JA: Yes
JM: You went behind his back and looked at the computer, right
JA: Yes
JM: you went behind Matt McCartney’s back and you went and talked to Bianca, right?
JA: I didn’t go behind his back
JM: You told him you were going to Bianca
JA: I would have
JM: Ma’am the question is did you go to him before you went to talked to Bianca
JA:* No he wasn’t available
JM: Did you talk to him before you went to talk to Bianca
JA: No, he wasn't available
JM: Ma’am, you said he wasn’t available, could you have waited until he was available to see if it was okay to talk to Bianca, you could have?
JA: Yeah, but I would have been miserable for several days
JM: Oh, so it's all about you then, right
KN: Objection, argumentative
Judge: Sustained
JM: You could have waited, right, but you didn't want to
JA: I chose not to
JM: That's right because you would have been miserable, right
JA: Yes
JM: And you didn't want to be miserable, right
JA: That’s right
JM: And so this dishonesty that you've said involved Mr. Alexander you have at least on two prevoius occasions engaged in the same sort of dishonesty, right?
JA: Um yes
JM: And with regard to
JA: I take that back, I don’t think it was dishonest, to go talk to Bianca, so I guess one time because I do believe that the emails with Bobby was dishonest.
JM: But you did engage with regard to Mr. McCartney that he did not know about before you did it, right?
JA: Um with regard to the conduct that I didn’t know about
JM: No, I'm asking, the fact that you went to see Bianca, isn’t it true that Mr. McCartney did not know about it before you went to talk to her, right
JA: That's right
JM: So that was behind his back, wasn't it
JA: No, because that implies sneaking around
JM: That was because why?
JA: To me that implies sneaking around and I wasn't doing that, I wasopen and direct about it
JM: You weren't sneaking around you just didn't tell him about, right, that's the distinction you're trying to draw here?
JA: Only because he wasn’t available
JM: But that’s the distinction you’re drawing here is that you were not sneaking around, right?
KN: Objection asked and answered
Judge: Overruled
JM: Right?
JA: Yes, it was not dishonest.
JM: With regard to Mr. Alexander, looking at his telephone, or viewing his text messages wasn’t the only time that you actually went and looked at one of his communication mediums, right?
JA: Yes
JM: In fact you and he became an item in February of 2007
JA : Yes
JM: That's when you made it official, you were living in palm desert
JA: Uh, yes
JM: And you were living in Palm Desert, but at some point you were able to look at his computer , right?
JA: Yes
JM: And you looked at his computer at his house in Mesa, right
JA: Yes
JM: And you looked at his computer and you started to look at some of the items what in My Space, right?
JA: Yes, his MySpace emails
JM: Pardon
JA: His My Space emails
JM: But it was in My Space, right
JA: Yes
JM And you looked at some of the emails that were there, right
JA: Yes, I did
JM: And even though you didn’t have permission to look at those emails, did you
JA: I don't know it was kind of a trade-off cuz he did it to me, too
JM: I’m not asking if he did it to you, am I?
JA: No
JM: I’m asking if you had permission to go into his My space to look at his emails?
JA: No, I guess I didn't
JM: And so again there is this conduct, this dishonest conduct on your pasrt, right
JA: yes
JM: When you went and you looked at his emails and you saw some emails between him and at least two females, right?
JA: Yes
JM: One of them involved a, the, New Years eve meeting, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And that upset you, right?
JA:* Um, not really
JA:* Well it didn’t make me happy, right?
JA* It didn’t thrill me
JM:* Pardon
JA:* It didn’t thrill me
JM:* So, if it didn’t thrill you that’s a way of saying it didn’t make you happy, right?
KN: Objection,
Judge, overruled
JA* That’s right
JM: and, but that happened before you and he were officially dating, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And so that really shouldn’t have had any bearing on how you felt
JA: That wasn't the part that bothered me
JM: I understand that, Okay, tell me the part that bothered you
JA: He lied to me about what it was about
JM: He lied to you about what it was about after you confronted him, right
JA: No, he called me, preemptively, me
JM: Ma’am you looked at his My Space email, right?
JA: yes
JM: Then you and he had a conversation about it
JA: Yes
JM: So it wasn’t he ha d aconversation about it before you looked at his My space email
JA: About the messages, yes we did
JM: So he talked to you about them before?
JA: Yes
JM: If he talked to you about them before then why were you upset
JA: Because I found out that what he said was false
JM: Oh, I see, He lied to you, then right?
JA:* About the messages
JM: And what you were doing is, you were sort of checking up on him, right?
JA: Yeah, I was
JM:* And that’s because you wanted to see whether or not he was cheating on you, right?
JA: No, it wouldn’t have been cheating in December because we weren’t together yet, I wanted to see if it was accurate.
JM: Okay so nything that he was telling you, you would want to check to make sure he was being truthful to you, right?
JA: That’s not right not anything.
JM: Things having to do with relationshps involving other women, right?
JA: Um, Sometimes
JM: In this case that’s what you did, right?
JA: This thing, particularly, yes
JM: And this is the other one that involved an email that you were particularly offended by, right
JA: The other email
JM: Yes
JA: Yes
JM: And you were particularly offended, because you said that the woman who was involved there was married, right?
JA: Yes, she was married
JM: What was the woman’s name
JA: I don’t want to destroy anyone’s marriage
JM: So what was the woman's name
JA: Shannon C-P
JM: And you believe she was married and you believed they were doing something they shouldn't have been doing, right?
JA:* She was married, and by LDS standards what they were talking about was very inappropriate
JM:* All they were doing was talking, right?
JA:* They were joking about getting together for a sexual liason
JM: they were joking about it, right?
JA: I hope it was joking
JM: Didn’t you just say they were joking about i?
KN: Objection, as to whether or not they were joking
Judge: Overruled, you may answer
JA: Umm, he was joking about his wet dream with her
JM: Ma’am, isn’t it true that you they were joking
JA: I did say that, yes
JM: And the reason you said that is because you believe it right?
JA: Because he told me later after I confronted him at the time I didn't know
JM: Ma'am you believe it, that's why you said it
JA: When I sit here today, I believe it somewhat
JM: And so you believe they were joking abou it, right?
JA: At the time I did not but now, I think, if what he told me can be belived, they were joking
JM: Ma'am, isn’t it true you just said they were joking about it, right
JA: Yes
JM: And that’s what you believe, right
JA: That’s what I’d like to believe
JM: Well, you testifying to the truth, right
JA: Yes
JM: And you’re saying they were joking about it, right
JA: That’s the third time you’ve asked me about it and the answer is yes.
JM: And so if they were joking about it, what was the problem
JM: By LDS standards you aren't supposed to have conversations of that nature with someone else's spouse.
JM: Okay, And that’s because you are familiar with the code of conduct involving sexuality in the Mormon church, right?
JA: I am now, yes
JM: Well, no, you were familiar with it back in February of 2007 when you looked at his My Space account, right?
JA: Not all of it, but regarding spouses and their behaviors and how to interact with people that were married, yes.
JM: You were familiar enough to pass judgement on what was going on as it applies to the Mormon faith, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And this is knowledge that you had gained as part of your learning about the Mormon church, right?
JA: Umm, well another Mormon had explained it to me, so yes
JM: So yes, you did learn it, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And you knew that joking about those things was not something that was viewed favorably by the Mormon church, right
JA: that's right
JM: But you believe that just joking about something, you knew about that, you knew that that's not something that was favored by the Mormon church, right?
JA: That's right
JM: But in terms of whether or not sexual intercourse is concerned, you're telling us that at that point you didn’t know if it was acceptable or not in the Mormon church?
JA: I'm not saying that
JM: So at that time you did know then that sexual intimacy, whatever form they may be, was unacceptable in the Mormon church, right?
JA: I'm not saying that either
JM: Well, ma'am did you know back in February of 2007 that having oral intercourse was against the teachings of the Mormon faith?
JA: Not at that time, no, I did not know
JM: So you believe that j,ust kidding about is against the Mormon religion, but not oral intercourse? Is that what you're saying?
JA: With a spouse that’s married in the temple, yes
JM: You believed that oral intercourse was okay back in 2007 but not kidding between two people, that was not okay?
JA: Yes that’s what I was taught
JM: Don’t they have brochures that they hand out
JA: Yes
JM: And these brochures include talking about sexual contact, right?
JA: Yes
JM: You were here when Desiree Freeman testified, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And one of the things that we know is even laying or touching, even laying on someone with their close on that's against the Mormon teachings, right?
JA: That is right
JM: And in fact that’s something you did with Ryan Burns, you layed on top of him with your clothes on, right?
JA: Yes I did
JM: And that’s again the Mormon teachings isn't it?
JA: It is
JM: And you knew that at the time you did that
JA: I did not
JM: So you gained this knowledge after being with Ryan Burns
JA: After, well after, like about a year
JM: This is something that is, you never thought to talk to anybody about how far you could go?
JA: I did, I talked to Rachel
JM: I’m asking whether or not, well Rachel isn’t somebody that’s the end-all in the Mormon church, right?
JA: I don't think anybody would be
JM: well the bishop is a little more important wouldn’t you agree?
JA: Yes
JM: And if you had any questions about it you could go talk to the bishop, right?
JA: I guess technically, but I wouldn't be comfortable
JM: Well, you say technically and you wouldn't be comfortable, you could go talk to the bishop, right
JA: Yes,
JM: In fact you went to Bishop Layton and talked about Tavis’s Alexander's killing, right?
JA: No
JM: well you called him, right?
JA: Yes
JM: So you had no problem doing that, right?
JA: no
JM: Did you ever have a desire on your own to go and find out what the Mormon church allowed in terms of sexual conduct?
JA: Yes
JM: Why didn't you do it?
JA: I did
JM Pardon
JA: I did
JM: So did you go to a bishop,
JA: I went to Rachel
JM: When did you go to see Rachel about this issue involving sexual contact?
JA: It would have been August 2007 after Travis and I went all the way consensually and we were both awake
JM: so you went to see her in August of 2007 and you were converted or were baptized in Novemenber of 2006
JA: Yes
JM: And you and Mr. Alexander were engaged in sexual contact between that time in November 2006 until what, August of 2007 is that what it is?
JA: that whole time
JM: And during that whole time period, it never occurred to you to try to find out what the Mormon church allowed?
JA: I did try to find out
JM: Did you go to a bisop?
JA: No definitely not a bishop
JM: Did you try to read any of the literature that they had
JA: I've read some literature, but not the pamphlet that you're reading from
JM: There is a pamphlet that they have, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And this pamphlet is abailable to everyone, right?
JA: Yes
JM: In fact you were here when I was looking at it and I was questioning Desiree Freeman, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And this pamphlet is free
JA: Yes
JM: And it lays out the guidelinesfor what is acceptable sexual conduct or not, right?
JA: And isn't it true that that pamphlet doesn't include anything about joking involving married people, does it?
JM: It does include things that you are not to engage in oral intercourse, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And any kind of intercourse
JA: Yes, it says all sexual relations
JM: And in fact it even talks about certain types of music that shouldn't be listened to
JA: I don't recall that part, but that sounds right
JM: And it also talks about what kind of videos or what kind of movies it should be looked at?
JA: Yes
JM: And you’re saying that throughout the whole time between November of 2006 and August of 2007 you did not have the opportunity to review any of this and know any of it.
JA: Well, I didn’t know it existed, so I guess then I wouldn't have had the opportunity, but if I'd known it was there, I would have had the opportunity.
JM: Did you think that perhaps it would have been a good idea to go ask if these materials were available?
JA: No, I did not
KN: Objection
Judge: Rephrase
JM: You were conflicted by the fact you saw Mr. Alexander joking with somebody who you believed to be marrie, right
JA: She was married, yes
JM: You were conflicted because Mr. Alexander was joking with somebody that was married, okay better?
JA: Yes
JM: Although they were just, they had never had any sexual contact
KN: Objection, she doesn't know
Judge: rephrase
JM: At that point, that was my belief
JA: Yet, that’s just people talking, yet you have no problems engaging in all this conduct that you told us about during direct examination.* You have no problem engaging in that conduct, yet you are judging someone just for talking
KN: Objection she never said she had a problem with it
Judge: Restate the question
JM: Well maam you never saw counseling from a Mormon, whether it's a male or a female
JA: I did, but not during that time period
JM: During the time period we’re talking about you did not solicit aid from anybody in the Mormon church about what was the proper way to proceed
JA: That's right
JM: And the reason you didn't was because it was enjoyable
JA: No, I didn't believe I was in the wrong
JM: Well, you didn't you weren't enjoying what was going on with Mr. Alexander
JA: I did, but that's not why I didn't seek counsel
JM: In fact, the way you describe it, he's someone you can't stay away from sexually, right?
JA: Um, yes
JM: And he described you as his kyrptonite, right
JA: Yes
JM: And so it was a situation that you were mutually attracted, right
JA: Yes
JM: And so the is the reason that you were being so judgement because you were just plain jealous and that was what was going on?
JA: No, I was considering af uture with him and if was acting that way towards someone else's wife, I wondered how he'd treat me as a wife
JM: So if you were worried about how he would treat you as a wife, why didn't you just leave him?
JA: Because I wanted to give him an opportunity to explain
JM: And you gave him the opportunity to explain and it sounds like you believed him, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And as a result of you believing him, you decided to continue in this sexual relationship, right?
JA: Yes
JA: Yes
JM: and the person that did the breaking up was you, right
JA: Yes
JM: And the reason you broke up with him, is because you snooped into his telephone, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And you did not have his permission on the day that you did it to go into his telephone, right?
JA: Not exclusively
JM: When you say not exclusively it means that you did have his permission to go into his phone, you understand what you're saying, right?
JA: Yes, at one point, I did.
JM: I’m not asking at one point, I’m asking on the day that you did it, did you have permission whether written or oral to go into his telephone and look at his text messages
JA: Um, he's told me to look at his phone, so I guess it's just a matter of interpretation
JM: Ma'am, ma'am, that day before he went to sleep did he tell you it was okay to look at his telephone
JA: Not that day
JM: And so you took it upon yourself to look into that telephone, right
JA: Yes
JM: And that’s when you saw these text messages, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And that what upset you
JA: Yes
JM: And as a result of that, you made a decision that the relationship was over, right
JA: Not right that day
JM: At some point you did make the decision that the relationship was over, right?
JA: Yes
JM: But you were upset that he was having these conversations about bodily parts with these other individuals via text message, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And you were so upset you still decided to go on vacation with him, right?
JA: That's not why
JM: Well, you still went on vacation with him even though you had this information, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And you went to New York
JA: We did go to New York, yes
JM: Pardon
JA: Yes we did went to New York
JM: And then you drove, or went to a PPL conference also, right?
JA: No it was a retreat
JM: Then you went to Huntington Beach, right
JA: That was the retreat I was referring to
JM: So you went to Huntington Beach after that, right
JA: Yes
JM: And you stayed wit him, right
JA: Yes
JM: You engaged in sexual conduct with him, right
JA: Yes
JM:* Even though you were very upset with what you knew
JA:* Yes
JM:* You chose to go on vacation rather than break up with him at that point, right?
JA:* Yes
JM:* And so the way you see if it, it’s his fault, that you broke up, not yours?
KN:* Objection, mischaracterizes testimony
Judge Overruled, you may answer
JA:* His fault I broke up with him
JM:* Yes, not your fault
JA: Well it was my choice so I don't know what you mean by fault
JM: Well, we’re talking about who’s to blame, that's what fault means, right?
JA: For the breakup
JM: For the breakup, that's what we're talking about, right.
JA: I guess we each had a part in it
JM: Well no,you’re saying it’s his fault because he was doing these things with other women, right?
JA: His fault for the breakup because he was doing things?
JM: The way you explained it was the reason you broke up was because of something he did, right
JA: That’s what motivated me to break up with him
JM: So what you did, the fact that you went behind his back *to look at his telephone had nothing to do with the breakup, right
JA: That was also one of the reasons
JM: So you believe that you were to blame for going behind his back
JA: Yes
JM: That was a dishonest thing to do, right
JA: Yes, I felt very badly
JM: Did I ask you whether or not you felt bad about it
JA: No
JM: You say that you feel bad about it, but haven’t you done similar stuff in the past
JA: Umm, yes
JM: I mean you did it to Bobby Juarez, right
JA: Yes
JM: You went behind his back and looked at the computer, right
JA: Yes
JM: you went behind Matt McCartney’s back and you went and talked to Bianca, right?
JA: I didn’t go behind his back
JM: You told him you were going to Bianca
JA: I would have
JM: Ma’am the question is did you go to him before you went to talked to Bianca
JA:* No he wasn’t available
JM: Did you talk to him before you went to talk to Bianca
JA: No, he wasn't available
JM: Ma’am, you said he wasn’t available, could you have waited until he was available to see if it was okay to talk to Bianca, you could have?
JA: Yeah, but I would have been miserable for several days
JM: Oh, so it's all about you then, right
KN: Objection, argumentative
Judge: Sustained
JM: You could have waited, right, but you didn't want to
JA: I chose not to
JM: That's right because you would have been miserable, right
JA: Yes
JM: And you didn't want to be miserable, right
JA: That’s right
JM: And so this dishonesty that you've said involved Mr. Alexander you have at least on two prevoius occasions engaged in the same sort of dishonesty, right?
JA: Um yes
JM: And with regard to
JA: I take that back, I don’t think it was dishonest, to go talk to Bianca, so I guess one time because I do believe that the emails with Bobby was dishonest.
JM: But you did engage with regard to Mr. McCartney that he did not know about before you did it, right?
JA: Um with regard to the conduct that I didn’t know about
JM: No, I'm asking, the fact that you went to see Bianca, isn’t it true that Mr. McCartney did not know about it before you went to talk to her, right
JA: That's right
JM: So that was behind his back, wasn't it
JA: No, because that implies sneaking around
JM: That was because why?
JA: To me that implies sneaking around and I wasn't doing that, I wasopen and direct about it
JM: You weren't sneaking around you just didn't tell him about, right, that's the distinction you're trying to draw here?
JA: Only because he wasn’t available
JM: But that’s the distinction you’re drawing here is that you were not sneaking around, right?
KN: Objection asked and answered
Judge: Overruled
JM: Right?
JA: Yes, it was not dishonest.
JM: With regard to Mr. Alexander, looking at his telephone, or viewing his text messages wasn’t the only time that you actually went and looked at one of his communication mediums, right?
JA: Yes
JM: In fact you and he became an item in February of 2007
JA : Yes
JM: That's when you made it official, you were living in palm desert
JA: Uh, yes
JM: And you were living in Palm Desert, but at some point you were able to look at his computer , right?
JA: Yes
JM: And you looked at his computer at his house in Mesa, right
JA: Yes
JM: And you looked at his computer and you started to look at some of the items what in My Space, right?
JA: Yes, his MySpace emails
JM: Pardon
JA: His My Space emails
JM: But it was in My Space, right
JA: Yes
JM And you looked at some of the emails that were there, right
JA: Yes, I did
JM: And even though you didn’t have permission to look at those emails, did you
JA: I don't know it was kind of a trade-off cuz he did it to me, too
JM: I’m not asking if he did it to you, am I?
JA: No
JM: I’m asking if you had permission to go into his My space to look at his emails?
JA: No, I guess I didn't
JM: And so again there is this conduct, this dishonest conduct on your pasrt, right
JA: yes
JM: When you went and you looked at his emails and you saw some emails between him and at least two females, right?
JA: Yes
JM: One of them involved a, the, New Years eve meeting, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And that upset you, right?
JA:* Um, not really
JA:* Well it didn’t make me happy, right?
JA* It didn’t thrill me
JM:* Pardon
JA:* It didn’t thrill me
JM:* So, if it didn’t thrill you that’s a way of saying it didn’t make you happy, right?
KN: Objection,
Judge, overruled
JA* That’s right
JM: and, but that happened before you and he were officially dating, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And so that really shouldn’t have had any bearing on how you felt
JA: That wasn't the part that bothered me
JM: I understand that, Okay, tell me the part that bothered you
JA: He lied to me about what it was about
JM: He lied to you about what it was about after you confronted him, right
JA: No, he called me, preemptively, me
JM: Ma’am you looked at his My Space email, right?
JA: yes
JM: Then you and he had a conversation about it
JA: Yes
JM: So it wasn’t he ha d aconversation about it before you looked at his My space email
JA: About the messages, yes we did
JM: So he talked to you about them before?
JA: Yes
JM: If he talked to you about them before then why were you upset
JA: Because I found out that what he said was false
JM: Oh, I see, He lied to you, then right?
JA:* About the messages
JM: And what you were doing is, you were sort of checking up on him, right?
JA: Yeah, I was
JM:* And that’s because you wanted to see whether or not he was cheating on you, right?
JA: No, it wouldn’t have been cheating in December because we weren’t together yet, I wanted to see if it was accurate.
JM: Okay so nything that he was telling you, you would want to check to make sure he was being truthful to you, right?
JA: That’s not right not anything.
JM: Things having to do with relationshps involving other women, right?
JA: Um, Sometimes
JM: In this case that’s what you did, right?
JA: This thing, particularly, yes
JM: And this is the other one that involved an email that you were particularly offended by, right
JA: The other email
JM: Yes
JA: Yes
JM: And you were particularly offended, because you said that the woman who was involved there was married, right?
JA: Yes, she was married
JM: What was the woman’s name
JA: I don’t want to destroy anyone’s marriage
JM: So what was the woman's name
JA: Shannon C-P
JM: And you believe she was married and you believed they were doing something they shouldn't have been doing, right?
JA:* She was married, and by LDS standards what they were talking about was very inappropriate
JM:* All they were doing was talking, right?
JA:* They were joking about getting together for a sexual liason
JM: they were joking about it, right?
JA: I hope it was joking
JM: Didn’t you just say they were joking about i?
KN: Objection, as to whether or not they were joking
Judge: Overruled, you may answer
JA: Umm, he was joking about his wet dream with her
JM: Ma’am, isn’t it true that you they were joking
JA: I did say that, yes
JM: And the reason you said that is because you believe it right?
JA: Because he told me later after I confronted him at the time I didn't know
JM: Ma'am you believe it, that's why you said it
JA: When I sit here today, I believe it somewhat
JM: And so you believe they were joking abou it, right?
JA: At the time I did not but now, I think, if what he told me can be belived, they were joking
JM: Ma'am, isn’t it true you just said they were joking about it, right
JA: Yes
JM: And that’s what you believe, right
JA: That’s what I’d like to believe
JM: Well, you testifying to the truth, right
JA: Yes
JM: And you’re saying they were joking about it, right
JA: That’s the third time you’ve asked me about it and the answer is yes.
JM: And so if they were joking about it, what was the problem
JM: By LDS standards you aren't supposed to have conversations of that nature with someone else's spouse.
JM: Okay, And that’s because you are familiar with the code of conduct involving sexuality in the Mormon church, right?
JA: I am now, yes
JM: Well, no, you were familiar with it back in February of 2007 when you looked at his My Space account, right?
JA: Not all of it, but regarding spouses and their behaviors and how to interact with people that were married, yes.
JM: You were familiar enough to pass judgement on what was going on as it applies to the Mormon faith, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And this is knowledge that you had gained as part of your learning about the Mormon church, right?
JA: Umm, well another Mormon had explained it to me, so yes
JM: So yes, you did learn it, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And you knew that joking about those things was not something that was viewed favorably by the Mormon church, right
JA: that's right
JM: But you believe that just joking about something, you knew about that, you knew that that's not something that was favored by the Mormon church, right?
JA: That's right
JM: But in terms of whether or not sexual intercourse is concerned, you're telling us that at that point you didn’t know if it was acceptable or not in the Mormon church?
JA: I'm not saying that
JM: So at that time you did know then that sexual intimacy, whatever form they may be, was unacceptable in the Mormon church, right?
JA: I'm not saying that either
JM: Well, ma'am did you know back in February of 2007 that having oral intercourse was against the teachings of the Mormon faith?
JA: Not at that time, no, I did not know
JM: So you believe that j,ust kidding about is against the Mormon religion, but not oral intercourse? Is that what you're saying?
JA: With a spouse that’s married in the temple, yes
JM: You believed that oral intercourse was okay back in 2007 but not kidding between two people, that was not okay?
JA: Yes that’s what I was taught
JM: Don’t they have brochures that they hand out
JA: Yes
JM: And these brochures include talking about sexual contact, right?
JA: Yes
JM: You were here when Desiree Freeman testified, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And one of the things that we know is even laying or touching, even laying on someone with their close on that's against the Mormon teachings, right?
JA: That is right
JM: And in fact that’s something you did with Ryan Burns, you layed on top of him with your clothes on, right?
JA: Yes I did
JM: And that’s again the Mormon teachings isn't it?
JA: It is
JM: And you knew that at the time you did that
JA: I did not
JM: So you gained this knowledge after being with Ryan Burns
JA: After, well after, like about a year
JM: This is something that is, you never thought to talk to anybody about how far you could go?
JA: I did, I talked to Rachel
JM: I’m asking whether or not, well Rachel isn’t somebody that’s the end-all in the Mormon church, right?
JA: I don't think anybody would be
JM: well the bishop is a little more important wouldn’t you agree?
JA: Yes
JM: And if you had any questions about it you could go talk to the bishop, right?
JA: I guess technically, but I wouldn't be comfortable
JM: Well, you say technically and you wouldn't be comfortable, you could go talk to the bishop, right
JA: Yes,
JM: In fact you went to Bishop Layton and talked about Tavis’s Alexander's killing, right?
JA: No
JM: well you called him, right?
JA: Yes
JM: So you had no problem doing that, right?
JA: no
JM: Did you ever have a desire on your own to go and find out what the Mormon church allowed in terms of sexual conduct?
JA: Yes
JM: Why didn't you do it?
JA: I did
JM Pardon
JA: I did
JM: So did you go to a bishop,
JA: I went to Rachel
JM: When did you go to see Rachel about this issue involving sexual contact?
JA: It would have been August 2007 after Travis and I went all the way consensually and we were both awake
JM: so you went to see her in August of 2007 and you were converted or were baptized in Novemenber of 2006
JA: Yes
JM: And you and Mr. Alexander were engaged in sexual contact between that time in November 2006 until what, August of 2007 is that what it is?
JA: that whole time
JM: And during that whole time period, it never occurred to you to try to find out what the Mormon church allowed?
JA: I did try to find out
JM: Did you go to a bisop?
JA: No definitely not a bishop
JM: Did you try to read any of the literature that they had
JA: I've read some literature, but not the pamphlet that you're reading from
JM: There is a pamphlet that they have, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And this pamphlet is abailable to everyone, right?
JA: Yes
JM: In fact you were here when I was looking at it and I was questioning Desiree Freeman, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And this pamphlet is free
JA: Yes
JM: And it lays out the guidelinesfor what is acceptable sexual conduct or not, right?
JA: And isn't it true that that pamphlet doesn't include anything about joking involving married people, does it?
JM: It does include things that you are not to engage in oral intercourse, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And any kind of intercourse
JA: Yes, it says all sexual relations
JM: And in fact it even talks about certain types of music that shouldn't be listened to
JA: I don't recall that part, but that sounds right
JM: And it also talks about what kind of videos or what kind of movies it should be looked at?
JA: Yes
JM: And you’re saying that throughout the whole time between November of 2006 and August of 2007 you did not have the opportunity to review any of this and know any of it.
JA: Well, I didn’t know it existed, so I guess then I wouldn't have had the opportunity, but if I'd known it was there, I would have had the opportunity.
JM: Did you think that perhaps it would have been a good idea to go ask if these materials were available?
JA: No, I did not
KN: Objection
Judge: Rephrase
JM: You were conflicted by the fact you saw Mr. Alexander joking with somebody who you believed to be marrie, right
JA: She was married, yes
JM: You were conflicted because Mr. Alexander was joking with somebody that was married, okay better?
JA: Yes
JM: Although they were just, they had never had any sexual contact
KN: Objection, she doesn't know
Judge: rephrase
JM: At that point, that was my belief
JA: Yet, that’s just people talking, yet you have no problems engaging in all this conduct that you told us about during direct examination.* You have no problem engaging in that conduct, yet you are judging someone just for talking
KN: Objection she never said she had a problem with it
Judge: Restate the question
JM: Well maam you never saw counseling from a Mormon, whether it's a male or a female
JA: I did, but not during that time period
JM: During the time period we’re talking about you did not solicit aid from anybody in the Mormon church about what was the proper way to proceed
JA: That's right
JM: And the reason you didn't was because it was enjoyable
JA: No, I didn't believe I was in the wrong
JM: Well, you didn't you weren't enjoying what was going on with Mr. Alexander
JA: I did, but that's not why I didn't seek counsel
JM: In fact, the way you describe it, he's someone you can't stay away from sexually, right?
JA: Um, yes
JM: And he described you as his kyrptonite, right
JA: Yes
JM: And so it was a situation that you were mutually attracted, right
JA: Yes
JM: And so the is the reason that you were being so judgement because you were just plain jealous and that was what was going on?
JA: No, I was considering af uture with him and if was acting that way towards someone else's wife, I wondered how he'd treat me as a wife
JM: So if you were worried about how he would treat you as a wife, why didn't you just leave him?
JA: Because I wanted to give him an opportunity to explain
JM: And you gave him the opportunity to explain and it sounds like you believed him, right?
JA: Yes
JM: And as a result of you believing him, you decided to continue in this sexual relationship, right?
JA: Yes