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This case has been fascinating, controversial and confusing all at once and in the center of it is a little baby named Annabelle. I have gone back and forth so many times on what I think happened. Obviously I know she was pregnant and delivered a child on her own in the middle of the night. Was she alive? Was she stillborn? I don't know.
Having a 19 year old daughter who was bullied (remember bullying comes in many forms) I tried to put myself in the mind of BR. What I see is a girl who was bullied by her the one person you would not necessarily expect it from...her mother. I believe her mother brought her up to feel like looks and being thin were everything, and I think this became BR's mantra. I am sure there were many times when Br wished she could just be herself, but I also see someone with very low self esteem who was always trying to please her mother. (My daughter was bullied in school by girls for being overweight, funny thing is she was not heavy, just not stick thin. It caused her to start cutting and took 2 years of therapy...I remember one time she showed me a picture of her and her "friends" and I said how cute and she said why am always the fat shadow.) Imagine the bully being your mother. I also feel like she felt that if she ever did anything to make her mother think she was less than perfect, she would be a failure.
I think it would be hard to grow up with a mother who was extremely vain and who placed so much emphasis on looks and what people think of you.
I do not believe this excuses what she did, but it helps me understand why. I am not going to go into my feelings of what happened that night because I don't know. I do think the toll on her self esteem and her wanting to just be accepted played a huge roll in all her decisions (right or wrong) that she made. Including when she was delivering Annabelle all the way through the 2nd confession. None of this makes what she did right, this is just me thinking. This is all MOO
Having a 19 year old daughter who was bullied (remember bullying comes in many forms) I tried to put myself in the mind of BR. What I see is a girl who was bullied by her the one person you would not necessarily expect it from...her mother. I believe her mother brought her up to feel like looks and being thin were everything, and I think this became BR's mantra. I am sure there were many times when Br wished she could just be herself, but I also see someone with very low self esteem who was always trying to please her mother. (My daughter was bullied in school by girls for being overweight, funny thing is she was not heavy, just not stick thin. It caused her to start cutting and took 2 years of therapy...I remember one time she showed me a picture of her and her "friends" and I said how cute and she said why am always the fat shadow.) Imagine the bully being your mother. I also feel like she felt that if she ever did anything to make her mother think she was less than perfect, she would be a failure.
I think it would be hard to grow up with a mother who was extremely vain and who placed so much emphasis on looks and what people think of you.
I do not believe this excuses what she did, but it helps me understand why. I am not going to go into my feelings of what happened that night because I don't know. I do think the toll on her self esteem and her wanting to just be accepted played a huge roll in all her decisions (right or wrong) that she made. Including when she was delivering Annabelle all the way through the 2nd confession. None of this makes what she did right, this is just me thinking. This is all MOO