2. "Patsy says they do not want a house with a basement in it,since JB was killed in the basement of their old home.
They buy a house with a basement in it." : I could see where this would cause question but in reality its very possible. My son died in a large travel trailer that was across from my cousins home. After stating many times I never wanted to see that or any other travel trailer again as long as I live and meaning it when I said it I did just that. My cousin who has helped me and more importantly had helped my son needed my help. Feeling very thankful for the times she fed my son dinner and was a friend to him I could not say no. The thought of that trailer then and now puts knots in my stomach but as much as I hated to I went to her house. After I got there I found out the fear of the pain of seeing the trailer was greater than the pain of seeing it. After a few minutes the pain turned to comfort. That was where my boy lived the last few weeks of his life. I went in there,layed on the couch I found my son on and did not want to leave. Even with this I do not want to go back there. If it had been a basement I would not want another basement but if my family found a house they really liked that had a basement I would want them to have what joy they could have because they are hurting also. I would rationalize that there are millions of basements, the other house also had a kitchen does that mean I should do without that and that this is not the basement of my nightmares and that I would like to see my family happy because they need it. If I lost a child in a car accident does that mean I would never let my other child get in a car, no. It would make me very nervous but i would know it would not be right to do that to them and learn to live with it. It would be a healing process I would not want but would do all the same. If my family wants a travel trailer I would not stand in the way of their joy. Thats one of the few things that matter in this world. Seeing them happy and adjusting as best they can.
They buy a house with a basement in it." : I could see where this would cause question but in reality its very possible. My son died in a large travel trailer that was across from my cousins home. After stating many times I never wanted to see that or any other travel trailer again as long as I live and meaning it when I said it I did just that. My cousin who has helped me and more importantly had helped my son needed my help. Feeling very thankful for the times she fed my son dinner and was a friend to him I could not say no. The thought of that trailer then and now puts knots in my stomach but as much as I hated to I went to her house. After I got there I found out the fear of the pain of seeing the trailer was greater than the pain of seeing it. After a few minutes the pain turned to comfort. That was where my boy lived the last few weeks of his life. I went in there,layed on the couch I found my son on and did not want to leave. Even with this I do not want to go back there. If it had been a basement I would not want another basement but if my family found a house they really liked that had a basement I would want them to have what joy they could have because they are hurting also. I would rationalize that there are millions of basements, the other house also had a kitchen does that mean I should do without that and that this is not the basement of my nightmares and that I would like to see my family happy because they need it. If I lost a child in a car accident does that mean I would never let my other child get in a car, no. It would make me very nervous but i would know it would not be right to do that to them and learn to live with it. It would be a healing process I would not want but would do all the same. If my family wants a travel trailer I would not stand in the way of their joy. Thats one of the few things that matter in this world. Seeing them happy and adjusting as best they can.