Exactly, my thoughts as well. Let me explain something I am not too proud of and share the inside of being a woman that desperately loved a man that did this EXACT same thing:
I fell in love with a jerk about 6 years ago this week. He was very outgoing and had lots of girls that would text him constantly. At first, I trusted that he was just a friendly guy and it was only friend chatter. One day, one of the girlfriends of my ex's best friend took pity on me and told me he was actaully seeing other girls every chance he got behind my back. I found myself checking his texts, driving by his house when he said he was at a "meeting" just to see if he was lying. I guess you could say I kinda stalked him while we were dating trying to protect my interests.
We would break up constantly as a result of my "trust issues" and then get back together because he loved me so much and couldn't let me go for good. Here is where the TA and JA relationship intersect my own.....he told all of his friends we weren't together, that I was bothering him and wouldn't let him go, yada,yada,yada. When I finally found out that he was saying these things and I was being bamboozled, I got the courage to walk away.
I know what it is like to deeply love someone and find out later that you are only being used for their benefit. It was a terrible feeling. I regret having checked his phone or driving by his house to check on him. I realize now that is not okay.
JA has mental health issues and TA never really knew what he was dealing with. He never deserved to die like he did and I really believe that we will see he didn't try to push her away like his friends think he did.
I am not blaming the victim since he probably had ZERO idea what he was doing when he would push her away only to invite her back to take naughty pictures. Murder is never okay in my book and I do believe that JA planned this murder after she realized that she would never truly have TA.
I feel your pain and JA's. There are plenty of us women who understand what drove Jodi over the edge. It was awful what she did, just
horrendous -- but...
I hope this "Fatal Attraction" case sends a message loud and clear to men. What I find particularly a problem is guys (like Travis and your ex) who go around telling their friends that they have a stalker. Yet they're still intimate with you?!!
My point is, I think some guys LIKE telling their friends that a woman wants them too much. They think it makes them seem like a hot catch, a guy that other guys admire. It's a "bragging right" among competitive men. Like there's a prize for the Most Irresistible Man -- bonus point when there's a girl who acts kind of obsessed.
I've seen guys joke about this stuff. They're often flattered by so much attention and LOVE to tell people about it.
What's more, all of this attention from the woman really stokes their ego. And yes, they are often mean to these women, put them down, call them crazy, etc.
Yet, they keep stringing the woman along. Why? Because if they truly put their foot down, they won't feel as hot and "wanted." Plus, every now and then, he knows he'll need that "3-hole wonder" to satiate his sexual fire.
If any good can come from this case, I hope it convinces more men to stop chasing down girls, filling their heads with crap, and then toying with her emotions like a jerk once he changes his mind.
The fact that Jodi carried out antic after antic -- including allegedly even slashing his new girl's tires?!! And Travis never reported anything to the police -- possibly because he "needed" to remain sexual with her...?
Well, Jodi is going to he// for that brutal attack. But Travis was dancing in the he//fire, too.
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It is going to get ugly)
