Safehouse? You think these people have the first clue? And perhaps she wasn't trusting of LE (I sure as heck wouldn't be, given a dang court and a piece of worthless paper "preventing" contact).
That works great in the movies, not so much in real life in all areas of the country. Reality is that some people truly have nowhere to go, or at least believe they don't, and from what little we have heard (from her brother on camera, she thought he was Mr Wonderful and signs of abuse. Her head was messed up by this guy, no doubt. But this all went down fast and furious, and IF she got a clue, AD's body was found before a half reasonable person could put it together and make an informed and thoughtful decision.
Think she made one of those when she invited him into her life and home? Not so much. Is she still under his control? Maybe, maybe not.
Quite frankly, I'm disgusted that her brother and some sister who may or may not be a sister (their family genealogy, given she is not charged and on trial, I do not feel should be public fodder) are apparently throwing her under the bus on their public networking pages.
If they were my family and I needed help, I sure as sh*t-on-a-shingle wouldn't be calling them!
At least give her credit for getting moved out of there as fast as she was arrested.
Safehouses are a very good option....hence the name. Now if the girlfriend decided afterwards to make contact with abuser again, she would have to leave....prior to contact. Women are very strictly forbidden not to contact their abuser in order to gain admittance to the shelter....it puts everyone there in danger. This is why it's so important in the community to let the women know this is a available to them. I agree with you on an order of protection...they aren't worth the paper they are written on for protection, only if you survive and prosecute...or if you don't survive, it helps against them in court. Ta da.
Where did you see info on her being abused? I must have missed that. I don't doubt that it took place, but I don't remember seeing it anywhere.
EMB's head was pretty well not screwed on tight before she met AL, imo. Who in their right mind starts a love affair via written word to a prison inmate and then invites them into their home...WITH CHILDREN. He had to cut the shirt into 3 pcs and discard in different locations for what? A strange love ritual? She had from Sat night till Friday to figure it out...and all the questions westsidefox64 mentioned previously should have given anyone with a half a brain a whiff of alarm. Maybe she didn't want to fess up to the family where she actually met him? Could be they had no idea what she brought in amongst them and was scared. I could understand that...if it was just her, but she has kids. Would love to be a fly on the wall for their psychological evaluation right now. If she is still under his control....she's the one giving him that power....not him and she has to realize that. Unless....dear God what if she's pregnant? :banghead:
As far as the family, the brother was there for her to help her move and the only thing I've seen on personal pages is concern and disturbance because she apparently doesn't want to take their advice. It sorta tells me that she may be in too deep.....I'm not ready to take it off the table, that she may be more involved than we know....and that includes more than just destroying evidence. Did you ever think that she may have been so insecure about her relationship, that she may have done more? Felt her security was being challenged by a young 14 old girl with no ties....like children? What would happen if AD came up pregnant from him? Etc. Just moo, but I don't think AD did, and I would be shocked if she did, but I'm keeping my mind open for anything and everything at this point. Just why in the world would she think he was innocent...if that story is true....and he's an ex-con who's been in prison college for the last 18 years???
The sister from left field....maybe there was tension because of the family.. Maybe when the father passed, there was conflict over the estate? EMB had a low-income grant/loan, whatever it's called, in 2006 and 07 for over 10K for home repairs. Where is that house now? The telling sister is not on the brother's FB page as a friend/contact. And I do believe the sister and brother's testimony to what EMB told them will indeed be used in court. If that story is true, I'd be finding a good lawyer...pronto. Personally, I think she needs one and will be looking for that in the media in the near future. IMO
As far as her moving out after he was arrested.....her illusion of security was gone...or if she was more involved...the whole house of cards is caving in on her..fast and furiously.
JMO
ETA: If she does decide to agree it was a common law marriage, then she's liable for all his debts too.....nice bill waiting for her from the bar. Whew, expensive hotdog.
