it is not just about seeing tears. susan smith had tears. blogging about your jogging and haircut, . . .
Isn't that more of the no tears sort of thing?
sherri79 said:
. . .refusing to admit it was wrong to leave the kids alone, . . .
Did they not admit feeling guilt about that? Or have I heard wrong about that interview? And perhaps admitting certain things to oneself are just too overwhelming for one to be able to go on unless it is rationalized in some way as a sort of defense mechanism.
". . . "I think it's fair to say that the guilt that we feel, having not been there at that moment - irrespective of whether we had been in the other bedroom or not - will never leave us."
Kate said they blamed themselves for the disappearance in the early stages.
"Certainly in the first few days the guilt was very difficult. I think as time goes on we feel stronger and we've felt very supported.
Gerry: "We've tried to rationalise things in our head. Ultimately what is done is done and we do continually look forward. . ."
http://news.sky.com/skynews/article/0,,91210-1267560,00.html
sherri79 said:
. . ., lying about how often they checked on the kids. . .
There is some doubt as to whether they and others lied about that. Basically as far as I can tell there 2 groups of people who were actually there saying different things. Perhaps some security video may exist somewhere to shed light on that someday, I don't know but until then to take one side or the other as being liars would be an assumption wouldn't it? And I have to admit I have a problem with accepting conspiracy theories in a case of this sort. A whole group of people decided to shield murdering parents by lying to cover for them? Perhaps this fact was one of the misinformation things the L.E. spoke of or perhaps there was just an honest mistake on the part of the workers in thinking no one had left the place during the dinner outing but either way I have trouble swallowing the conspiracy theory.
sherri79 said:
. . .these actions show a lack of emotion over their missing child.
sounds like mostly a "lack of tears" response to me. Sorry, not trying to be mean but I just don't agree that their actions after the event are all that terrible and I think that perhaps without this crime having happened you would not be able to tell them from many other parents who do somethings right and some things wrong in taking care of their children.
Having said all that: I am troubled by some things about this case:
I realize that in about 3/4 of the cases of missing children you can put up a large pic of the caregivers of that child and close your eyes and throw a dart at it and be correct in them being the perpetrators of the crime. That being said, there have been notable exceptions to this rule even here in the USA.
If L.E. had been calling them POI in this case or saying that they could not rule out the parents in this crime I would easily take the hint and go with the odds. The problem is that although I have read where L.E. has said they have not ruled out the friends of the family it has been repeatedly stated by senior L.E. working the case that the parents are not and never were suspects in this case. To me that hints that L.E. may have information that points elsewhere, perhaps to some of the friends or others as yet unnamed.
It troubles me also that I do not even feel that we know when this crime actually happened. We think we know the date but I am very uncertain about the actual time. Its hard to know who may have an alibi and who may not if you don't even know the times involved for sure. (I have already seen the posts where people are trying to establish a time window. I still do not know the hour this crime happened or even a 2 hour time slot.)
Another thing that bothers me a little is that some of the statements were evidently at odds between certain of the friends at supper that night and if the differences are significant (which we do not know yet) then I wonder if that points to the parents as doing wrong or to certain of the friends as being deceptive in some fashion. If the parents were deceptive then that will not come as a surprise to many but what if it is certain friends that were deceptive?
Then what if neither was purposely deceptive but only made errors in memory and then we find out the evidence points elswhere?
The best news I have seen about this case so far is that there may be some forensic evidence that may finally point everyone in the right direction.