netsleuther
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When I was very young with my first child...he was about 4 years old and I remember me spanking him. I have never spanked one of my 4 children since that day. I realized I wasn't spanking to get their attention to show them but rather my anger. I thank God for showing me that. There are so many other better ways then to spank a child.
It wasn't a beating, it was a spanking, but I spanked because I was mad and that is so wrong to do. I had seen the light!
I was talking to a lady one night and we were on this subject, she used to get beaten all the time for the smallest of things.
She asked me how I coped with my kids. At that time my daughter was only staying at my place every second weekend and half the holidays etc but I had my son full time. Willful abandonment by his mother. Anyway I explained to her how I would very rarely smack my son he would have to either hit me or hit his sister deliberetly for me to smack him.
She said how can you not smack them for other things and she described the usual pain in the butt kid that is just being a kid and making mistakes, learning etc. She said, I used to get hit for everything how did you do it.
I said, "I picture my kids as the best friend I have had that I never want to lose"
And I wasn't trying to impress her...not my style

Both my kids are here with me now and their mother has nothing to do with them, she is rude to them when they phone her asking to speak with their little 4yr old brother that they havent seen in a long time. Her attitude was, if you want to live with your father you are never to step foot in this house again...seems like she meant it, but it's her loss because my kids will track down their little brother when he grows up and they will be able to catch up.
On a funnier note, well it is for me. I was once asked if I were living in a stable relationship, I said yes. And then a little while later the same person said where is your partner, I said I don't have one. She smiled and said, I shouldn't have assumed so much. I then said well I don't fight with myself so I am in a stable relationship
