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Well, if you feel the need to judge, you should at least know what she was thinking when she made the decision to stand up there.
As I've said many times, it's very easy to make a judgement about what you think you would do, but until you are actually faced with the situation, you really don't know.
I completely understand the concept you are expressing regarding "judging" another woman's painful decisions.
That said - I do not feel that we are "judging Silda". I feel many of us - whether we have been in a similar position with our respective spouses or not - are simply "expressing" our opinions on "what we feel" regarding the Spitzer family crisis and the recent 'public' decisions made.
I doubt there is a single person posting on this thread that doesn't feel sadness & much empathy for Silda & her daughters for what they are forced to endure at this most difficult life-changing time.
You're correct, of course, that none of us truly know what we would do until or unless we were suddenly thrust into that uncomfortable situation and had to react with the whole world watching.
We all "think we know our respective value systems and are simply expressing our current opinions .. from our individual perspectives. Personally - I think that's a healthy & positive concept .. especially here on WS.
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