magic-cat
Mother to Many
I wonder if your son would have been such a great dad if he would
have had a child when he was addicted 5 years ago?
I doubt it!Obviously he would not have been as good of a father as a non-addicted father, BUT he maintained his employment through it all and did not sponge off of either me or his father. And IF he did have a child at that juncture, I would have done nothing differently. I would have left HIS child in HIS care and that would have grown him up right quick with no crutch to lean upon but his own will...
And I would almost bet money that had he had a child when he had his
addiction you would not want him to take off with the child!My son WAS on his own, he had his own home at that time, so there would have been no "taking off"-he had his own life.
But guess what.... you wouldn't have been able to stop him!Guess what? I would not have even made an attempt to stop him.
I don't need you to talk to me about courage by doing the right thing!
Trust me!
My point is that there was not ONE thing the Anthony's could do to keep
Caylee safe!There was not one thing they could have done, there were a MILLION and ONE things they could have done. They could have taught their daughter something instead of buying into her insanity and letting her RULE their home. They could have sent her packing, I mean, she was not a 17 year old girl, she was a fully grown woman when she HAD Caylee.
Casey was her mother!Casey was her "egg donor".
She had custody!Cindy could have filed for custody years ago and PROVEN Casey unfit, but that would have looked too bad on HER...
You can't MAKE adults do anything!You can when they are living in YOUR home and YOU are paying their way. If they do not abide the rules then you show them the door. It is THAT simple.
And there has not been ONE thing mentioned in this case that
proves abuse bad enough to have CPS take her away from Casey!Sleeping in the bed with a man while he and her mother engaged in sex was CERTAINLY enough. The courts take children away every single day from mothers who expose their children to it.
No matter how sad it is that Caylee had to be around
her mom's life style.....it's not against the law to be a bad mom!Uh, yes it is. It is called wreckless child endangerment and child abuse, just to name two.
And it takes ALOT for a parent to get custody taken away!Not really. One suicide attempt would have done it, proof of drug use in front of Caylee would have done it. Proof of her sleeping in a bed with a man with Caylee and engaging in intercourse would have done it. If they had hired a PI when Caylee was an infant and DISCOVERED some things instead of looking the other way and ignoring EVERYTHING they may have gotten custody early on. They did not even TRY.
I didn't think my daughter would either!
But she changed when she became a drug addict! My son changed as well, and I cried oceans, believe me. But you know what else I did? When he threatened to never speak to me again if I did not stop discussing it with him, I told him to go ahead, I would STILL speak to him. I paid visits to every drug dealer friend of his whose name I knew and informed them that they would be spending time on the inside of a jail-cell if they continued to provide for him. I yelled and fought and battled with him over it and NEVER once just ignored it in the hopes that it would go away. I told him I would see HIM in a jail cell before I would see him in a CASKET and he knew that I meant it. I did NOT give him money. I did NOT pay his bills. I did not ENABLE or SUPPORT his habit in any way shape or form. I supported him by standing for what would save his LIFE. I cried myself to sleep every single night and I pleaded with God in heaven to spare his life on a moment by moment basis. And you know what? It was not easy to do. It was THE hardest thing that I ever HAD to do, and I did it to SAVE him. Coddling a drug addict just makes them use you more and more, not less and it certainly does nothing to END their addiction. I studied on it, read a couple of good books, researched the drugs that I KNEW he was obtaining and intervened with him continually although it WAS hard and extremely uncomfortable. The EASY path of giving in to them is not the RIGHT or CORRECT path-ever.
We all have our choices to make. The Anthony's must live with theirs and so must we all...