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I must have missed all this. Can you point me to these "experts"? Maybe there's a copy of the minutes of the meeting where they got together and decided all this? A research paper maybe? Even just an article in a journal somewhere, that expresses any of this stuff?
It's nice to have an opinion, and follow what you say with "JMO", but when you state something as fact (ie, "years ago experts said/did X,Y,Z"), you should really have something to back that up. Opinions should ideally be based on stuff that actually has happened, not vague feelings or theories that we have. A problem is never solved, or even confronted properly, if we make up our minds on the cause/solution based on a pet theory that might not have any basis in fact whatsoever.
With respect, you're probably not going to like my answer. Regardless of what anyone else thinks, I do believe that I am entitled to my own opinions.
I am simply basing my opinion on the fact that I have lived for 75 years & have seen vast changes in our world. Some changes have been very good, some not so much so.
One example is that when I was in second grade another little girl & I decided that we had more important things to discuss rather than paying attention to the teacher. We were both brought to the front of the room. My friend had to stand in one corner & I had to stand in the other corner for 10 minutes. Please believe me when I say that the experience did nothing to enhance my self esteem. I was mortified but I learned to live by the rules.
Our principal had a paddle in his office which he used sparingly but everyone knew it was there. The only kids I ever knew on the receiving end of that paddle were the school bullies & IMO they richly deserved it. As I stated before I do not believe in beating kids but it definitely got their attention & changed their ways. I have quite a few friends who now teach school & they are hardly allowed to frown on a student who is acting out.
At home the only thing I ever got a spanking for was shooting off my smart mouth & I admit I earned everyone of those spankings. My smart mouth wasn't completely cured, but it sure did get slowed down.
I admit we needed a kinder, gentler world than when I was growing up. Kids today need to be taught positive & negative consequences, respect for others & positive ways to express anger & frustration. They also need to learn how to handle disappointment. They do NOT need to be coddled, spoiled & ignored by either their parents or their teachers.
Later in my life I worked a number of years for a residential treatment center for emotionally troubled children. The abuse that these children have suffered cannot be imagined by any normal, decent human. Yet, the state child protective services rules limits some perfectly humane methods of teaching these children of action vs. consequences.
Anything said above is JMO based upon life experiences, nothing more. It is NOT my intention to offend anyone.