laini said:
Tricia,
For you running/owning this forum, I say a big thank you! I love this site. I would be devestated if you ever closed it.
I second that emotion! I don't always agree with Tricia (we do happen to be in agreement on this case). Yet, I have never felt she was unapproachable or that I couldn't offer a differing opinion.
I can understand that emotions ran pretty high when Patsy's death was announced and it wasn't a pretty thing on the forums. This has not just happened on this forum, however. All of these cases have their moments when the exchanges get heated. It doesn't make it right, but at least we have good moderation that can put a lid on it and get everyone back on track.
I have been to many boards, and I can honestly say that if you don't like the atmosphere, the best thing you can do is leave. I followed my own advice until I landed here. I would hope everyone can find a place where they feel their opinion and presence is welcome. If it is not here, you owe it to yourself to keep looking.
Thank you for all that you do Tricia. Even when I'm not posting, I'm reading. This is still, IMHO, the best place to get the whole story (both sides), and usually before you will hear it anywhere else.
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On the polygraph. I wouldn't take one under normal circumstances. They are not reliable and it simply isn't worth the trouble it could bring you. That said, if my child was dead, I would probably take one and do anything LE asked me because I simply wouldn't care what happened to me anymore. I wouldn't care what anyone believed .. my child is my whole life.
If I believed my child was kidnapped and in danger if I called the police, I would call but
I would tell the police about the danger. I would INSIST they find my child and not let anyone know they are looking! I would ask for the impossible and expect it. I would be a basket case. I might turn to 1 or 2 trusted friends, but I wouldn't want anyone coming over who might confuse the kidnappers. I have never understood that the Ramseys didn't advise the police that the child would be killed if they were involved and no one panic'd when the black and whites pulled up into the yard.
I sure as heck wouldn't continue with plans to leave the state when I'm suppose to deliver a ransom soon!
I might let my child go away with family or friends though, if I thought it might be safer then being with me; especially since the ransom note didn't say I couldn't or showed any interest in the other child.
If I went to my childs room and found him missing, I would begin to search the house. That would end when I found the ransom note. I'm gullable, I guess. I would believe he was gone at that point and search no further. So, I can understand them not searching the house sooner or before calling the police.