LOL. Don't give her any credit. She had 5 years and a number of psychologists to help her think up all this stuff.
Lambchop,
I came back to tell you it was day 39 at about 18 or 19 minutes in: ALV was asked when TA and JA had solidified a relationship. ALV explained that they got in the relationship in feb 2007, but Travis didn't want to term it "boyfriend-girlfriend."
So I interpret that to mean it wasn't even official then.
ALV also made other enlightening statements about this relationship. Skye Hughes describes Travis as replying in that January 2007 email to her and Chris, telling them to relax because he'd only seen Jodi like 5 times since he'd met her. I thought Travis had been exaggerating to tell Sky 5 times, but ALV describes 5 meetings as occurring between the initial meeting at MGM and the Skye/Chris/Travis emails.
ALV also details that Jodi had sent Travis an email Jan 2, 2007, asking him how they should view their relationship. She told Travis that she was monogamous and only dated one guy at a time. While ALV used the word "monogamous," her emphasis was more on Jodi conveying that she didn't know whether to tell people she was in a relationship, and even though Travis had told her to date other people, she was confused about whether she should accept or decline other men's interests. I want to say this is around the time she went out with Abe and/or John Dixon (in December 2006, I think.)
I'd like to see that email to really validate whether they'd had any intimacy in the 5 or so times she'd seen Travis after they'd met. So far, these are the times I've noted that she'd seen Travis before her Jan email.
Sept 2006
MGM grand
Hughes House
Starbucks near her and Darryl's house
October 2006
Aranberg
November 2006
Baptism
January (don't know date) 2007
Travis and Dan freeman show up at her house. (Guess Darryl was gone?)
January 7, 2007--her email asking to define relationship.
End of Jan 2007--Jodi launched Skye and Chris into it, and Travis says he'd only seen Jodi 5 or so times, and he was still trying to get to know if he wanted her as a GF.
I still want to say there's one more meeting where she showed unannounced at his house before he showed up at her house, but I have to find it.
So if I'm correct about all this, then the theory we have about the sex not even being focal is likely true. I can totally see Travis being hesitant about a woman living and sharing a mortgage with another man--no matter what Jodi said was going on with her and Darryl. Then once Travis opens to her, not 5 months later, she's living with an ex in Big Sur? Yeah, breakup! jmo