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Ah, I apologize - if it was Pasty's mother, I don't find it as weird. I've noticed that older people make some strange statements about that kind of thing because it wasn't talked about when they were growing up. They would be more likely to minimize or excuse it, in my experience and as a broad generalization - not trying to say that most would be okay with it or anything. And she may have had less information on it because she wasn't the one being grilled.
However, as to Patsy focusing on the access, I don't find it that weird. Some parents would immediately believe it, but I think it depends on the situation. The age of the child, the amount of people he or she could have been alone with, whether they were the type to ask their child about that type of thing, etc. The way I was raised, my mom knew everyone I was around and definitely would notice if my behavior/statements seemed off or I seemed to have been physically suffering. She would never have let any little oddity go. If I was a child and police had just brought it up to her, she would definitely have asked for evidence and not just believed it. I would be the same way. And I think a lot of people realize that if the police ask them about the possibility, "my husband could never" is not going to suffice - some people think child molesters are easily identifiable, but some know that police are never going to take that as an answer. If I knew my mother had been staying over, I would definitely say that. If they kept pushing it, I would defend my husband unless I had some clear reason to doubt him, but I don't think it's weird to deny that it could have happened. I don't mean to imply that most parents of sexually abused kids should have known and that it can't be hidden, but I do think that parents can reasonably know the opportunity was not there for chronic abuse if their child's interactions are limited and they are the primary caretaker.
However, as to Patsy focusing on the access, I don't find it that weird. Some parents would immediately believe it, but I think it depends on the situation. The age of the child, the amount of people he or she could have been alone with, whether they were the type to ask their child about that type of thing, etc. The way I was raised, my mom knew everyone I was around and definitely would notice if my behavior/statements seemed off or I seemed to have been physically suffering. She would never have let any little oddity go. If I was a child and police had just brought it up to her, she would definitely have asked for evidence and not just believed it. I would be the same way. And I think a lot of people realize that if the police ask them about the possibility, "my husband could never" is not going to suffice - some people think child molesters are easily identifiable, but some know that police are never going to take that as an answer. If I knew my mother had been staying over, I would definitely say that. If they kept pushing it, I would defend my husband unless I had some clear reason to doubt him, but I don't think it's weird to deny that it could have happened. I don't mean to imply that most parents of sexually abused kids should have known and that it can't be hidden, but I do think that parents can reasonably know the opportunity was not there for chronic abuse if their child's interactions are limited and they are the primary caretaker.