I know some feel that assigning blame and seeking punishment for who's at fault is not what Maxie's family would be concerned about in the days after his terrible accident and before his actual death. But I think that depends on individual personalities. In my own family there are some of us who expect nothing bad to ever happen, and when it does, someone must have done something wrong. Even something as minor as spilt milk has those with a blame-seeking personality pointing fingers and chastising those who's ineptness caused the milk to spill. I do not mean to equate this child's tragic accident with spilt milk. Just pointing out that a competitive and vengeful personality WOULD be searching for who 'should have' prevented the terrible accident from happening in the first place.
My late husband had a spinal cord injury while away at work, c6-c7. I drove 5 hours in the middle of the night to get there as fast as possible because DR.'s told me on the phone he may at die any time...
I arrived to him FLAILING about, albeit in a useless 'neck brace'...I knew it couldn't be good for his injury, talked to the nurses, and they pretty much wrote off my concerns: whatever damage is done, is done, they said. I even went to the head Neuro who gave me the same line.
We had him airlifted, neck still not surgically stabilized, to a hospital nearer our home...they wouldn't stabilize it THERE because they said eventually he'll be moved, anyways, so they wanted the transfer...3 days later, still not stabilized...no bed ready at the new hospital, yet...
Then we endured a BUMPY ambulance ride to the new hospital, after getting off the plane, I tell you, I felt lke ripping someones head off. EVERY bump made me worry about further damage...I tried to keep him still...
I learned later, that it IS important to stabilize the neck early...and securely. And I learned that the first 24-48 hours are important and can tell wheather it might be a 'complete' or 'incomplete' injury, (hate to be graphic but I recall it has something to do with the response of the rectum, too??) Maxies MRI might have been for head injury but it could also be for spinal injury...my husbands was complete...and I wonder how much that flailing around he did IN HOSPITAL had to do with that.
My point is...I felt rage at this first set of nurses and doctors...I felt they didn't do all they could have done...now, I feel it was because of incompetence and indifference. But if I had personal issues with these people underneath all of that, as DS, AS, or JS might have had with RN...? Well, good thing I was 5 hours away, at that point.
imo, ime