SIDEBAR #16- Arias/Alexander forum

[daisymae]

I was 21 days old when I was adopted and I could not have asked for better parents.

Me either, Elle, the best parents!

 

[daisymae]

Hey all! :seeya: Yep, second date last night. Sunday night was awesome. We went to see The Conjuring...holy crap batman. Scary! Then we went over to a bar and grill, had some munchies and a few drinks. After that we walked around the pond and sat and talked. It was pretty great He walked me to my car and gave me a big 'ol smooch.

Last night we meet at a sports bar and just sat and talked. And then we kissed a little We seem to have quite a bit in common so far! He's an RN and has some pretty wild stories to tell. I'm a little apprehensive about his "kid situation" though. He has 3 kids, ages 10, 8, and 5. That doesn't bother me in the least, but he doesn't want any more kids (and can't, actually). That gives me pause, I'm not sure how I feel about that.

So, all in all I'm having a good time. So far, so good! lease:

We're all so happy for you! Take the advice that is given with love here and listen as we've all been there and don't want to see you hurt! Just have some fun and enjoy yourself and take your time with getting too serious. :seeya: :heartbeat:

 

[josie1986]

I mentioned it upthread, it's supposed to begin tomorrow, TD's say they will have the live stream link but I can't even pull up an article on yesterday's pre-trial hearing at azcentral, not sure who is broadcasting the stream but will link if I find it.

Oh I hope they do stream, will make my week seeing juan in action again. I will check it out when I get a chance

Sent from my 'alternate reality' using my hippocampus

 

[daisymae]

I'm so happy to hear that your dates are fun. Please take it slow and remember that you are an important person and hold yourself in high regard.
(just make believe I'm your second mom :floorlaugh.
BBM If children are important to you, then this man may not be the "one" for you, but maybe his children could be yours???
Anyway- it's just dates right now and you're not so deep in the relationship (if you can call it that right now- it's too new.). Even if he will not be "the one", it's nice to have some fun.
I have some questions (even if it's still too soon)- as my mother would ask me :floorlaugh::
Is he married? If not, how long has he been separated/divorced?
What is he looking for (maybe he had a bad experience and doesn't want a commitment?)- maybe he wants a "friends-with-benefits" relationship?
Remember that your "benefits" are held in high regard by you and you don't just want to give it away to just anyone :blushing:.
Anyway- just an old lady spouting some experience to my M. (made with love from me to you).

Great advice, sis! M .. listen carefully to all of us!

 

[Bravo]

FYI-for those that followed the Deanna Ballman case there has been an arrest. On appropriate thread.

 

[TexMex]

Juan seeking justice for unarmed Daniel Rodriguez and his dog


http://blogs.phoenixnewtimes.com/valleyfever/2011/02/richard_chrisman_shooting_susp.php

 

[TexMex]

The bad cop was previously caught on video planting drugs on a homeless woman


http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=r32kKOrcNvw&desktop_uri=/watch?v=r32kKOrcNvw

 

[josie1986]

The bad cop was previously caught on video planting drugs on a homeless woman


http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=r32kKOrcNvw&desktop_uri=/watch?v=r32kKOrcNvw

Yeah juans going to tear him a new one if he takes the stand

Sent from my 'alternate reality' using my hippocampus

 

[Zuri]

I love watching narcissistic frozen faced women with more money than common sense
Heather just has a better doc or times her injections more wisely
Lydia works my last nerve though ..I have the urge to slap the crap outta her with a bible every time she's on camera.
Vicki's house looked better before, I adore her daughter and son in law.
How many children does Slade have????

RHOC on Bravo is what we are talking about. My escape from reality! I watch in horrified amazement. Lydia and Alexis pluck my last nerve too. Love Brianna and her husband and baby. Slade has 2 kids, the younger one having a brain tumor.

 

[SwampMama]

So, here we go. Our next Prime Minister in line wants to legalize marijuana and some right-wingers are freaking out.
I think it is a matter of choice and BC can grow marijuana heartily and get this province out of debt since the 2010 Olympics cost us taxpayers a fortune.
Go Justin Trudeau! You have my support in 2015.

It NEEDS to be legalized. The war on drugs here is the US is an epic fail. Billions spent on a war that they have no chance of winning. Why not legalize marijauna, tax it, regulate it and reap the economic benefits which will be enormous. That will put many drug dealers out of business and reduce the prison rate for users who really have no reason to be incarcerated and are now branded as criminals for something that is perfectly legal in other states.

 

[josie1986]

It NEEDS to be legalized. The war on drugs here is the US is an epic fail. Billions spent on a war that they have no chance of winning. Why not legalize marijauna, tax it, regulate it and reap the economic benefits which will be enormous. That will put many drug dealers out of business and reduce the prison rate for users who really have no reason to be incarcerated and are now branded as criminals for something that is perfectly legal in other states.

i don't live in america but 100% agree,it should be legalized here also.
it works in Amsterdam right? why not anywhere else,what is so special about that particular place?

in my younger years (ha i feel so old saying that) i done a shed load and i am here,not addicted,no medical problems etc just a lot of funny memories :floorlaugh:

apart from that i only ever tried E a couple of times,first time was probably the funniest night i've ever had and the other 2 were very weird.....i remember i was sitting on my friends bed which one side was against the wall and i was sitting beside the guy i was seeing at the time and my friends bf and the next thing ive jumped off the bed screaming "OMG LOOK OUT FOR THAT CAR" pointing at the wall.....safe to say i haven't touched anything since and never will again :scared:

 

[ElleElle]

It NEEDS to be legalized. The war on drugs here is the US is an epic fail. Billions spent on a war that they have no chance of winning. Why not legalize marijauna, tax it, regulate it and reap the economic benefits which will be enormous. That will put many drug dealers out of business and reduce the prison rate for users who really have no reason to be incarcerated and are now branded as criminals for something that is perfectly legal in other states.

This dinosaur needs to come out of extinction. Instead of focusing on the negatives, which other "vices" provide, focus on the positives. I really hope they will have it this time. Thanks to Colorada, California, Oregon? :rocker:

 

[m1279]

I'm so happy to hear that your dates are fun. Please take it slow and remember that you are an important person and hold yourself in high regard.
(just make believe I'm your second mom :floorlaugh.
BBM If children are important to you, then this man may not be the "one" for you, but maybe his children could be yours???
Anyway- it's just dates right now and you're not so deep in the relationship (if you can call it that right now- it's too new.). Even if he will not be "the one", it's nice to have some fun.
I have some questions (even if it's still too soon)- as my mother would ask me :floorlaugh::
Is he married? If not, how long has he been separated/divorced?
What is he looking for (maybe he had a bad experience and doesn't want a commitment?)- maybe he wants a "friends-with-benefits" relationship?
Remember that your "benefits" are held in high regard by you and you don't just want to give it away to just anyone :blushing:.
Anyway- just an old lady spouting some experience to my M. (made with love from me to you).

Thanks all of you for your kind words and advice. I love you guys! I really did take your posts to heart today...I read off and on while running around like a madwoman at work (my boss is an idiot, I swear).

Definitely going to take a little step back. I ALWAYS fall too hard, too fast. Each guy I date is "the one." So far this guys seems really great. We don't have plans again until Sunday evening...were going to hang out tonight but I told him I was too tired and need to just relax.

To answer questions, he was married for 10 years, been divorced for 2. Good relationship with his ex....custody arrangement is very flexible. Their 3rd child was a "surprise," after that he made it so he can't have any more kids lol. He's very respectful when he talks about his ex.

He is looking for a commitment, just hasn't found the one yet. I'm not going to put myself in a "friends with benefits" situation...I tried that a few years ago and learned the hard way that I'm too emotional for casual relationships.

Anyway, I just took my sheets out of the dryer and they smell so good! Does anyone else hate making their bed? I'm actually contemplating sleeping on the couch tonight because I don't have the energy to make my bed lol.

 

[Ricki]

Thanks all of you for your kind words and advice. I love you guys! I really did take your posts to heart today...I read off and on while running around like a madwoman at work (my boss is an idiot, I swear).

Definitely going to take a little step back. I ALWAYS fall too hard, too fast. Each guy I date is "the one." So far this guys seems really great. We don't have plans again until Sunday evening...were going to hang out tonight but I told him I was too tired and need to just relax.

To answer questions, he was married for 10 years, been divorced for 2. Good relationship with his ex....custody arrangement is very flexible. Their 3rd child was a "surprise," after that he made it so he can't have any more kids lol. He's very respectful when he talks about his ex.

He is looking for a commitment, just hasn't found the one yet. I'm not going to put myself in a "friends with benefits" situation...I tried that a few years ago and learned the hard way that I'm too emotional for casual relationships.

Anyway, I just took my sheets out of the dryer and they smell so good! Does anyone else hate making their bed? I'm actually contemplating sleeping on the couch tonight because I don't have the energy to make my bed lol.

Good for you. Take it slow and learn more about him. Have fun in the process.
Regarding making beds...nope never liked to make them. Takes to long. Getting the fitted sheets on is a struggle. They never seem to fit right until I bought my last set at BJ's. The fitted sheet goes on very easy. The sheets are so soft. I wish I remembered the brand.

 

[m1279]

Good for you. Take it slow and learn more about him. Have fun in the process.
Regarding making beds...nope never liked to make them. Takes to long. Getting the fitted sheets on is a struggle. They never seem to fit right until I bought my last set at BJ's. The fitted sheet goes on very easy. The sheets are so soft. I wish I remembered the brand.

I actually splurged this week when I grocery shopped and bought Gain dryer sheets instead of the store brand. Seriously, my sheets smell so good!

Yes, fitted sheets are a pain in the arse. Once you finally get them on, they're perfect for a few sleeps but then they just get all bunched up. Maybe I need to get a mattress pad...

 

[Linda7NJ]

Thanks all of you for your kind words and advice. I love you guys! I really did take your posts to heart today...I read off and on while running around like a madwoman at work (my boss is an idiot, I swear).

Definitely going to take a little step back. I ALWAYS fall too hard, too fast. Each guy I date is "the one." So far this guys seems really great. We don't have plans again until Sunday evening...were going to hang out tonight but I told him I was too tired and need to just relax.

To answer questions, he was married for 10 years, been divorced for 2. Good relationship with his ex....custody arrangement is very flexible. Their 3rd child was a "surprise," after that he made it so he can't have any more kids lol. He's very respectful when he talks about his ex.

He is looking for a commitment, just hasn't found the one yet. I'm not going to put myself in a "friends with benefits" situation...I tried that a few years ago and learned the hard way that I'm too emotional for casual relationships.

Anyway, I just took my sheets out of the dryer and they smell so good! Does anyone else hate making their bed? I'm actually contemplating sleeping on the couch tonight because I don't have the energy to make my bed lol.

My mother used to iron sheets! Can you imagine?

I'm going to confess... I absolutely love doing laundry and making my bed. I draw the line at ironing sheets!

 

[Linda7NJ]

I actually splurged this week when I grocery shopped and bought Gain dryer sheets instead of the store brand. Seriously, my sheets smell so good!

Yes, fitted sheets are a pain in the arse. Once you finally get them on, they're perfect for a few sleeps but then they just get all bunched up. Maybe I need to get a mattress pad...

I put dryer sheets inside my pillow cases when I put them on the pillows. I sleep with 6 pillows and everyone smells fantastic!!!

 

[daisymae]

Thanks all of you for your kind words and advice. I love you guys! I really did take your posts to heart today...I read off and on while running around like a madwoman at work (my boss is an idiot, I swear).

Definitely going to take a little step back. I ALWAYS fall too hard, too fast. Each guy I date is "the one." So far this guys seems really great. We don't have plans again until Sunday evening...were going to hang out tonight but I told him I was too tired and need to just relax.

To answer questions, he was married for 10 years, been divorced for 2. Good relationship with his ex....custody arrangement is very flexible. Their 3rd child was a "surprise," after that he made it so he can't have any more kids lol. He's very respectful when he talks about his ex.

He is looking for a commitment, just hasn't found the one yet. I'm not going to put myself in a "friends with benefits" situation...I tried that a few years ago and learned the hard way that I'm too emotional for casual relationships.

Anyway, I just took my sheets out of the dryer and they smell so good! Does anyone else hate making their bed? I'm actually contemplating sleeping on the couch tonight because I don't have the energy to make my bed lol.

I'm very happy and proud of you for thinking about all these things and taking it slow. Take your time, have fun, no pressures, take breaks to rest and see where it all goes. There's no reason to rush! Relationships get better and better as the time passes, so don't jump too fast in getting to know him.

 

[gcharlie]

Thanks all of you for your kind words and advice. I love you guys! I really did take your posts to heart today...I read off and on while running around like a madwoman at work (my boss is an idiot, I swear).

Definitely going to take a little step back. I ALWAYS fall too hard, too fast. Each guy I date is "the one." So far this guys seems really great. We don't have plans again until Sunday evening...were going to hang out tonight but I told him I was too tired and need to just relax.

To answer questions, he was married for 10 years, been divorced for 2. Good relationship with his ex....custody arrangement is very flexible. Their 3rd child was a "surprise," after that he made it so he can't have any more kids lol. He's very respectful when he talks about his ex.

He is looking for a commitment, just hasn't found the one yet. I'm not going to put myself in a "friends with benefits" situation...I tried that a few years ago and learned the hard way that I'm too emotional for casual relationships.

Anyway, I just took my sheets out of the dryer and they smell so good! Does anyone else hate making their bed? I'm actually contemplating sleeping on the couch tonight because I don't have the energy to make my bed lol.

M, sweetie, glad that you are going to take a step back.

Think back to when you were a teenager and started dating. Was marriage or a long term commitment ever in your mind? If you're like most people, probably not. You just wanted someone of the other sex to be interested in you, to show you love, cuddle and maybe more and feel like you were special, pretty and loveable.

Enjoy dating for dating. Think about Travis's blog discussing finding a wife. Not only is it a very hard interview, if that is your goal, it often blinds you to/from certain things. You may have a preconceived notion of what is the "right man" in terms of a husband that shuts out the perfect man to be your husband. By dating and just getting to know different men better and at the same time, learning to share yourself, you will find out more about men, yourself and relationships.

Good luck and have fun!

 

[m1279]

I put dryer sheets inside my pillow cases when I put them on the pillows. I sleep with 6 pillows and everyone smells fantastic!!!

Ooh, I'm totally going to try that! What brand of dryer sheets do you use? I'm seriously in love with Gain, had never bought them before until now. :blushing:

I'm a pillow freak too...you can't have too many pillows.