Spellbound, and others, I can totally understand where you are coming from. I'm just letting the presumption of innocence hang there. :fence: And I could be very, VERY wrong. I hope not........
I had similar feelings about the A. Yates trial.
But..........we can all agree that JA milking the whole "Mental Disorder", PTSD, DV, for everything it's worth! :floorlaugh:
I'm starting to see a lot of, how can I put this and not judge here---"bickering"- I don't know- on the thread about mental illness. It makes me uncomfortable to be there. I know some people have had experiences with mental illnesses and it tends to make the trial become, sort of, personal there.
I don't have much experience with MI, but my X-DIL was diagnosed with borderline schizophrenia. When my older son met her, she was about 19 yrs old and then after some time- maybe 2 yrs- he came to me and said he wanted to marry her (she was not diagnosed at this time). I told him I saw something just "not right" with her (that's another story) and I didn't want him to marry her. BUT- he
loved her, he said, and maybe it's just that I don't like her.
So, because I love my son, we made a nice, little wedding for them- they married at City hall. She didn't have many relatives- just a father and a uncle (was estranged from her mother), who attended. I gave her my wedding dress to wear, my pearls (with a diamond clasp) that my mother had given me when I graduated from HS, and my crown ring that my was my mother's. I decided that I would support my son and hope for the best.
Well- after about 6-7 months, my son called me one day and told me he was going thru a very bad time with her (I won't go into all the things). He would like to come stay with us because of his wife, who needed looking after while he worked at his business. She was a mess. After a week or so, after an incident, I said we need to take her to the psych hospital. She didn't want to go, but I was adamant and wouldn't take no for an answer (I'm like that :facepalm

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We waited 10 hours to see a MD and when the MD said they wanted to admit her, she said NO. Well, I started to yell at her- in front of the MD (they could have admitted me then :facepalm

The MD said nothing to me while I yelled - "If you think I waited 10 hours to get you some help and you're not wanting that help, you must think me a fool. If you were my daughter, you would have been admitted weeks ago." She then relented and agreed. But, she signed herself out after 2 days. She didn't want to take the meds prescribed. My son wanted to leave her, but I said he can't do that- "she's your wife now". I suggested that he give her an ultimatum- to take the pills or he would leave her. She took the pills (for a while).
After 10-12 years of living with her, he just couldn't do it anymore. All the stress she caused (and I mean some weird things she did, thoughts she had and not taking her meds, accusing people of being devils, spying on her, etc.- really nutty things!)- she put him thru loopy-loops. He just needed to let her go, so they divorced, even tho' he said he still loved her.
But dope that I am, since she didn't have relatives, I took her in, so she could get her life in order. Needless to day, that didn't work, so I found her an apartment close to me. My son gave her a very good settlement/alimony and has even paid her more- 4 years more in alimony when he didn't have to, in addition to paying all her bills, too.
Now she doesn't talk to me. After 4 years of trying to support her and while talking on the phone, I had said that my son was moving on, just as she was moving on. She didn't like what I said and told me that she wasn't going to talk to me anymore and she hung up on me (she was always hanging up on me). She was dating- or trying to date , so she was moving on, IMO. I haven't spoken to her since- better for me because she stressed me so.
Well, that's my experience in MI and I hated it, especially for my son. He has changed so much as a person because of his experiences with her. Sometimes I don't recognize him. But now he has met such a wonderful girl- I love her so.
:loveyou: They have been together for 4 years now and I'm waiting for them to get married, so I can be a grandma before I die, God willing. :facepalm:
Anyway- I do not want the stress of having to read "bickering" amongst the WSers on the thread. It disturbs me so.
(and I've rambled on again :floorlaugh
