SIDEBAR #29- Arias/Alexander forum

[YESorNO]

Just a little :drama: to read about with your cup of coffee- explains all that happened these past weeks behind the scene with missy:jail: :liar: (the wolf in sheep clothing)
Wonder when she is going to "eat" her followers?

Jodi Arias updates, camera ruling plus the truth about her rose colored glasses

http://www.examiner.com/article/jod...plus-the-truth-about-her-rose-colored-glasses

 

[YESorNO]

More from Jen this AM:

The Jodi Arias Retrial is Around the Corner

"...We got word of a new witness for the State by the name of Vernon Parker. With some research from a sluethy Facebooker it could be a Mormon Bishop out of Riverside, California...

http://thetrialdiaries.com/the-jodi-arias-retrial-is-around-the-corner/

Why is this "person" smiling?

 

[YESorNO]

Found on Twitter -just for laughs this AM:

"On a scale of Britney Spears to Jodi Arias how crazy is your girlfriend?"

 

[YESorNO]

Looks like GB is still in love with missy:jail:- even with that tongue-lashing he received from her (see letter posted a few pages ago).

George Barwood ‏@GeorgeBarwood 5h
CRIME, GUNS, AND VIDEOTAPE: Expect More Surprises in The Jodi Arias Case http://fb.me/6MzwnTpNt

Expect More Surprises in The Jodi Arias Case

http://www.crimefilenews.com/2014/09/expect-more-surprises-in-jodi-arias-case.html

(sorry for this so early in the AM, but I couldn't help myself): :facepalm:

 

[Love Never Fails]

Good morning Yes or No. Thanks for the updates.

DaiseyMae, hope you are feeling better by now.

We are all one day closer to justice for Travis.

 

[Spellbound]

More from Jen this AM:

The Jodi Arias Retrial is Around the Corner

"...We got word of a new witness for the State by the name of Vernon Parker. With some research from a sluethy Facebooker it could be a Mormon Bishop out of Riverside, California...

http://thetrialdiaries.com/the-jodi-arias-retrial-is-around-the-corner/

Why is this "person" smiling?

BBM

Because she looks sooooo good in stripes!

 

[Mollyandme]

Hi all. I need to vent about something so what better place than the sidebar ? I will prob post this in the depression forum too bc I did make an appointment with a therapist out here so I could talk to them about this. I haven't posted in awhile bc I have been so busy w three kids under three and we just moved 8 hours away to ohio. I am so miserable here. We are in a very nice town, family friendly, nice people, etc.. But it's not home. I am a major homebody and was completely opposed to this move. My husband took a job out here to be closer to his dad and I am sick over it. He is an only child and i think has dad issues from his childhood, i think his dad was behind pressuring him to take this job here but my husband denies it. My whole family and i am very close to and I wanted my kids to grow up where I grew up...not here. I seriously contemplate taking the kids and getting on I-80 and driving back to where I grew up every single day. Everyone says to give it a few months and I am trying. I go to the gym, have been making friends, going to start job searching as soon as the baby is 12 weeks old, but i just don't see myself staying here. My husband basically gave me no choice and we moved 2 weeks after my son was born. I just want to go home . Has anyone else ever experienced this? I told myself if i don't feel better in a year I'm taking the kids back home with or without my husband. I told him we could move out here to try it but that if i don't like it we are moving back and he agreed to this. Am I completely insane? He's a cop it's not like we moved here for some huge pay raise or a transfer or better work opportunity. It was a lateral employment move. I'm just so angry and i really don't feel in my heart that this move was a good idea. I did it for my kids and to keep the family together. Ugh i feel bad complaining but I need to vent

 

[MeeBee]

Hi all. I need to vent about something so what better place than the sidebar ? I will prob post this in the depression forum too bc I did make an appointment with a therapist out here so I could talk to them about this. I haven't posted in awhile bc I have been so busy w three kids under three and we just moved 8 hours away to ohio. I am so miserable here. We are in a very nice town, family friendly, nice people, etc.. But it's not home. I am a major homebody and was completely opposed to this move. My husband took a job out here to be closer to his dad and I am sick over it. He is an only child and i think has dad issues from his childhood, i think his dad was behind pressuring him to take this job here but my husband denies it. My whole family and i am very close to and I wanted my kids to grow up where I grew up...not here. I seriously contemplate taking the kids and getting on I-80 and driving back to where I grew up every single day. Everyone says to give it a few months and I am trying. I go to the gym, have been making friends, going to start job searching as soon as the baby is 12 weeks old, but i just don't see myself staying here. My husband basically gave me no choice and we moved 2 weeks after my son was born. I just want to go home . Has anyone else ever experienced this? I told myself if i don't feel better in a year I'm taking the kids back home with or without my husband. I told him we could move out here to try it but that if i don't like it we are moving back and he agreed to this. Am I completely insane? He's a cop it's not like we moved here for some huge pay raise or a transfer or better work opportunity. It was a lateral employment move. I'm just so angry and i really don't feel in my heart that this move was a good idea. I did it for my kids and to keep the family together. Ugh i feel bad complaining but I need to vent

I know exactly what you're going through. You're not crazy at all. My husband lost his job just a couple weeks before I found out I was pregnant four years ago and it was a little different. He had a lot of trouble finding a job and we moved from parent to parent, place to place, city to city, country to country while we tried to get our feet on the ground. His mom lives in Montreal, his dad lives in Poland now, but lived in Ottawa at the time. The only thing that kept us afloat was my husband's RFID business that he was trying to get off the ground. It started doing well and we were able to get our own place. But the money stopped coming in and we had to move back to our parents again.

When his dad got a job in Poland they started pressuring him to take a job in Poland with him. Finally my husband gave in and we moved to Poland. I hated it. The people are very different, his dad's place was very small and he was very strict. I didn't speak the language. I tried so hard to take care of everyone, keep everything clean, cook for everyone everyday. But if he came home one day and the dishes weren't done he was very rude about it. I was exactly where you were. I couldn't do it anymore, I got so depressed and felt so suffocated and it was taking forever for this place to get back to my husband so we were stuck with his dad. I even contemplated taking my daughter back to live with my mom. But I could never so that. I love my husband too much and I'd miss him too much. And my daughter would miss him. I just needed figure it out. Finally, his RFID business took off like crazy and we're doing so well now. We're back in Houston now where I wanted to be all along and I'm so much happier.

I exactly know how hard it is. Have you talked to your husband about it? Would he be open to a move back if he knew how you felt, since there's nothing really keeping him there? Does he want to be closer to his parents or anything like that? I don't really have any advice other than to just hang in there. It might get better, you never know. I know it's hard to get happy. Just know that this isn't crazy. It's completely understandable. I'd probably feel the same way if my husband uprooted our lives just to please his parents. And especially to somewhere new where things are different and you don't know anyone. I hope things get better for you.

 

[Kensie]

Thanks for sharing Molly. I think giving it some time will help. Good grief, moving with a newborn and two very very young children has got to be extremely hard. Plan trips to visit your family - if you can visit a few weeks at a time. Maybe they can come visit you. I am sorry that you are so miserable.

 

[LinTX]

Don't think I've ever read anything by George, but if the above is standard for him, I've been lucky. From that blog he says "What people don't realize is that few of these wounds were mortal". That's his defense? How many mortal wounds does it take in England for it to be murder, George?:thinking:

 

[MeeBee]

Don't think I've ever read anything by George, but if the above is standard for him, I've been lucky. From that blog he says "What people don't realize is that few of these wounds were mortal". That's his defense? How many mortal wounds does it take in England for it to be murder, George?:thinking:

Lol, what does that have to do with anything? It only takes one mortal wound to kill. Does there need to be a certain number of mortal wounds for it to be considered murder? Jodi landed a death blow pretty early on. And the most mortal of them was pretty friggin heinous. Try harder george.

 

[Spellbound]

Hi all. I need to vent about something so what better place than the sidebar ? I will prob post this in the depression forum too bc I did make an appointment with a therapist out here so I could talk to them about this. I haven't posted in awhile bc I have been so busy w three kids under three and we just moved 8 hours away to ohio. I am so miserable here. We are in a very nice town, family friendly, nice people, etc.. But it's not home. I am a major homebody and was completely opposed to this move. My husband took a job out here to be closer to his dad and I am sick over it. He is an only child and i think has dad issues from his childhood, i think his dad was behind pressuring him to take this job here but my husband denies it. My whole family and i am very close to and I wanted my kids to grow up where I grew up...not here. I seriously contemplate taking the kids and getting on I-80 and driving back to where I grew up every single day. Everyone says to give it a few months and I am trying. I go to the gym, have been making friends, going to start job searching as soon as the baby is 12 weeks old, but i just don't see myself staying here. My husband basically gave me no choice and we moved 2 weeks after my son was born. I just want to go home . Has anyone else ever experienced this? I told myself if i don't feel better in a year I'm taking the kids back home with or without my husband. I told him we could move out here to try it but that if i don't like it we are moving back and he agreed to this. Am I completely insane? He's a cop it's not like we moved here for some huge pay raise or a transfer or better work opportunity. It was a lateral employment move. I'm just so angry and i really don't feel in my heart that this move was a good idea. I did it for my kids and to keep the family together. Ugh i feel bad complaining but I need to vent

:therethere: First of all, congratulations on the new baby! I am so happy to see you here again, you were missed!

Goodness, what poor timing your move must have been. With a new baby and adjustments that come with that, a new move added, you have a lot to carry. I am sorry you are so unhappy, Mollyandme. (But you are closer to me.... I live in Michigan not very far from Toledo..... are you anywhere nearby?). I don't recall if you ever mentioned where you were before this move, is it too far to make special trips to see you family often? Eight hours is a long drive, especially with three babies, but some people don't mind driving that far in a day. Perhaps that can be a way to keep everyone happy, at least for the time being. Give it a good try first before you give up. I know how awful it is when family moves away from each other and it becomes so difficult to have nice visits. Somehow, in time, you will figure out what is the best compromise for you.

I do wish you well. Take it a day at at time and enjoy your days with the new baby. Twelve weeks will fly by......and maybe a new job will help your spirits if it is something you really enjoy, too. Keep us posted, please.

 

[Mollyandme]

Thank you me bee and kensie for taking the time to reply to me. Membee I'm so sorry you had to go through that but I'm glad it all worked out. I keep telling myself things happen for reasons and it will all work out but it's just so hard to see that right now. My issue is, i already almost left my husband several times and he knows I'm on my last straw. His dad is here and thats it, plus extended family, his mom lives where we are from. I do not like his dad and think hes a bad influence on my husband and don't want my two young sons growing up thinking the way he and his dad behave when together is normal. I guess I'm saying im willing to move back with or without him in a year or two. I basically am a single mom anyway bc when he's not working hes in the backyard or garage hanging out with his dad. It's not normal

 

[Spellbound]

Oh gosh, Molly. You have a mountain of issues to handle, too many at one time. I am glad you are seeing a therapist. Perhaps they can help you sort out what is best for you. I totally get being a married but "single mom". Been there myself.

:hug:

 

[LambChop]

Don't think I've ever read anything by George, but if the above is standard for him, I've been lucky. From that blog he says "What people don't realize is that few of these wounds were mortal". That's his defense? How many mortal wounds does it take in England for it to be murder, George?:thinking:

And I suppose the next we will hear is that her cutting his throat to the point of near decapitation was an act of compassion on her part.

 

[MeeBee]

Thank you me bee and kensie for taking the time to reply to me. Membee I'm so sorry you had to go through that but I'm glad it all worked out. I keep telling myself things happen for reasons and it will all work out but it's just so hard to see that right now. My issue is, i already almost left my husband several times and he knows I'm on my last straw. His dad is here and thats it, plus extended family, his mom lives where we are from. I do not like his dad and think hes a bad influence on my husband and don't want my two young sons growing up thinking the way he and his dad behave when together is normal. I guess I'm saying im willing to move back with or without him in a year or two. I basically am a single mom anyway bc when he's not working hes in the backyard or garage hanging out with his dad. It's not normal

Oh my goodness. I feel so bad this is happening to you. That sounds like a very frustrating and all around unhealthy situation. I always found the best way for me and my husband to understand each other is to just sit down and talk everything out, lay out all the cards and try and get on each other's level. It seems that's the only way you guys will ever figure this out. Sometimes it's hard for us to understand things we didn't grow up with. The relationship he has with his father may seem odd to you but it might seem totally normal him. But it's not something he should not be neglecting his family for. At all. Tell him how you feel. He might be willing to make a change! He doesn't need to move to be close to him just to forge a relationship with him. That's what Thanksgiving and Christmas are for lol.

 

[Love Never Fails]

Do you recall any Greenberg's from Beaumont back then?

Oh yes! They gave me my first job. They owned the local Fair Stores, very nice clothing retail stores in Beaumont, Orange, Port Arthur and I think Lake Charles, La. I was just out of high school and was an accounting clerk. That was 48 years ago! LOL.
How are you feeling? Better I hope.

 

[Love Never Fails]

I've definitely heard of Beaumont, don't know if I've never been up there.

I love it here in Houston, no other place I'd rather live. But I hate the weather so much lol. It was 100 degrees today and so humid. It's supposed to be fall! Where do you live now?

I live in Charlestown, IN, the southern part of the State. Louisville, KY likes to claim us as theirs. Lol. Love it here. Four definite seasons. Perfect weather now. 42 this morning and will be a high of 72. This is my favorite time of year. My brother lives in Houston and friends live in Spring and more relatives on the northwest side of Houston. I remember no matter how cool we thought the weather was in Beaumont it was still warm and muggy. And thunderstorms every day at 5 PM, just as you are leaving work. I don't see them much here, except when Spring arrives and we have tornadoes!! Scary.

 

[Niner]

:seeya:

 

[Love Never Fails]

Hi all. I need to vent about something so what better place than the sidebar ? I will prob post this in the depression forum too bc I did make an appointment with a therapist out here so I could talk to them about this. I haven't posted in awhile bc I have been so busy w three kids under three and we just moved 8 hours away to ohio. I am so miserable here. We are in a very nice town, family friendly, nice people, etc.. But it's not home. I am a major homebody and was completely opposed to this move. My husband took a job out here to be closer to his dad and I am sick over it. He is an only child and i think has dad issues from his childhood, i think his dad was behind pressuring him to take this job here but my husband denies it. My whole family and i am very close to and I wanted my kids to grow up where I grew up...not here. I seriously contemplate taking the kids and getting on I-80 and driving back to where I grew up every single day. Everyone says to give it a few months and I am trying. I go to the gym, have been making friends, going to start job searching as soon as the baby is 12 weeks old, but i just don't see myself staying here. My husband basically gave me no choice and we moved 2 weeks after my son was born. I just want to go home . Has anyone else ever experienced this? I told myself if i don't feel better in a year I'm taking the kids back home with or without my husband. I told him we could move out here to try it but that if i don't like it we are moving back and he agreed to this. Am I completely insane? He's a cop it's not like we moved here for some huge pay raise or a transfer or better work opportunity. It was a lateral employment move. I'm just so angry and i really don't feel in my heart that this move was a good idea. I did it for my kids and to keep the family together. Ugh i feel bad complaining but I need to vent

Molly, you are not crazy. And it is okay to feel so disappointed. But please do give it a while. Our move to Indiana was from Texas and we have been here 15 years and never wanted to go back. However, my daughter and her husband and children moved here at the same time. And she has always hated it here. Hates the cold. She drove us all crazy talking about how perfect Texas was and how she hated Indiana. So they got a chance to move back two years ago. They were there three months and she was begging to come back to Indiana. She said things weren't the same. I am not sure but I think she is someone who always sees the grass greener on the other side. I was glad she came back.

For me, the move was a new adventure. But I would never advise someone who loves their home to make a big move like you did. Pray about it and be positive and maybe your husband will decide Ohio is not where he wants to be either.