SIDEBAR #53 - Travis Alexander forum

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Dr. Seth ‏@DrSethMeyers 3h3 hours ago
How is the female psychopath unique? My article for #PsychologyToday: http://bit.ly/1hONm4y #psychopath #sociopath #mentalillness

Dr. Seth ‏@DrSethMeyers 2h2 hours ago
@BarbaraJean_s Very true. #JodiArias's behavior is consistent w/ behavior seen among psychopaths: no remorse; instead they feel justified!
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The Female Psychopath: Unique But Equally Dangerous
It's a myth that female psychopaths are extremely rare

"...As a psychologist who conducts violence threat assessments, I see firsthand how females can show the same capacity for psychopathy that I have seen in males. The hallmarks—eerie detachment from emotion, lack of conscience or remorse, glibness, and comfort and pride in breaking with laws and social conventions..."

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blo...he-female-psychopath-unique-equally-dangerous
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[YESorNO]

100-year-old couple celebrates love 75 years after saying 'I do'

"Want to know the secret to a long-lasting relationship? Just ask this couple, who have been married for 75 years.

Walter and Leslie Kimmel met when they were just 22 years old at the Emmanuel Lutheran Church in Baltimore, Maryland, according to the Associated Press. Walter sang in the choir, while Leslie played the organ — and the rest is history..."

http://www.today.com/news/100-year-old-couple-celebrates-love-75-years-after-saying-t40396

Link: http://media3.s-nbcnews.com/j/newsc...9bf999e99de33f7943e312.today-inline-large.jpg
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[YESorNO]

Sent this article to my younger son:

What It Really Means to Be a Man

"...Whether men are being told to be more like women or to be less like women, all that does is continue to play masculinity against femininity in an attempt to define manhood based on surface behaviors. At its core, though, being a man isn’t about being more masculine or feminine – it’s about no longer being a child..."

http://www.cheatsheet.com/health-fitness/what-it-really-means-to-be-a-man.html/?a=viewall

 

[YESorNO]

Well, it's two in the morning here at Baylor Medical. DH has more kidney stones. I told him to have a baby but he's just being a big baby himself. They ask for ten percent up front so I guess this is going to be several thousand. It won't affect our roadtrip, Hatfield and him can take turns driving. Let's hope he can drive over bridges.

BBM Have the stones passed yet?

:slap: Be kind to your DH- kidney stones hurt very much (had them 3X- so far) and I've heard it's much more so for men (my older son suffered through an episode early this
year - maybe it runs in the family as my brother had stones also).

 

[YESorNO]

Some good points you bring up.

I like the idea of some method of administering that could help ensure people received their doses for the severe cases where safety of others and themselves comes into play.

You are also right that public perception and peoples biases come into play. Especially for people that do not have any issues and do not understand a lot about mental illnesses.

Public perceptions start at a very early age. Kids in school begin cruel jokes about it based on what they hear and see on TV and elsewhere. So kids begin to learn falsehoods about mental issues.

When I was really young there was a place called Creedmore Mental Hospital in Queens NY. Our bus would go by there on the way to the YMCA. The kids on the bus always joked about it in a bad and scary way. So my first learning about mental disorders was given to me by kids and a lot of false information. To make things worse, the place really did look scary. And to find out later that some bad doctors there did commit horrendous activities on patients.

So I do agree that public perception plays a big part. Which is very unfortunate. Not enough has been done to educate the public. It seems there is still a quiet hush in society about mental illnesses. Its unfortunate it is like a Taboo subject for most people.
So much of the information is bad information based on falsehoods.
The tragedies of the early century doctors that did not know how to deal with people makes it even more difficult because some real true horror stories happened at a lot of facilities before modern times. And now in modern times, we have not progressed as far as we need to. Much more work needs to be done in this avenue.

Below is a link I found to some of the atrocities that doctors themselves did to patients at Creedmore. Its no wonder the kids on my bus came up with the stories they told. Some of it must have been based on true stories they also had heard about.

http://www.truth-out.org/archive/item/91211:the-hidden-tragedy-of-the-cias-experiments-on-children

BBM My husband grew up in Queens village where Creedmoor is located. After we were married and on our way to visit his parents, I spotted this huge building from the highway and asked him what it was. He told me it was Creedmore Asylum. I thought it was closed, but apparently some part is still functioning:

Creedmoor is still open. Anyone need a job?: :scared:

Employment at Creedmoor Psychiatric Center

"Creedmoor Psychiatric Center provides state of the art mental health services to adults who suffer from severe mental illness. A wide range of inpatient, outpatient and residential services are available regardless of religion, race, ethnicity, or ability to pay."

https://www.omh.ny.gov/omhweb/facilities/crpc/employment.htm

Link: https://www.omh.ny.gov/omhweb/facilities/crpc/images/crpc.jpg

DIAGNOSIS: DECREPIT - INSIDE CREEDMOOR PSYCHIATRIC CENTER

"...Nowadays, a few hundred patients populate the campus, with most buildings owned by new tenants. Building 25, however, has been left to rot since it was vacated in the early 1970s. Never sold off or demolished, the building was once the residence and treatment center for the mentally ill.

Today, one “patient” of sorts remains in Building 25 – a squatter who’s been living on the third floor for over a decade. His extensive pad includes a tidy living room, years of piled trash in the kitchen, and toiletries, clothing, and dead D batteries scattered on the floors. Wary of visitors, he was so bothered as to leave his home and angrily pace outside the building when one blogger came to photograph in 2008..."

http://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/diagnosis-decrepit-inside-creedmoor-psychiatric-center

Inside Creedmoor State Hospital’s Building 25

"In Queens Village, mere inches of brick and mortar separate the world we know from one of the strangest places in the city. Once a haven for New York’s cast-out mentally ill, Creedmoor Psychiatric Center’s Building 25 has undergone something of a transformation over its 40 years of neglect...

As the 20th century progressed, asylums across the country became overrun with patients, and many institutions became desperately understaffed and dangerously underfunded. Living conditions at some psychiatric wards grew dire—patient abuse and neglect was not uncommon. .."

http://abandonednyc.com/2012/05/31/inside-creedmoor-state-hospitals-building-25/

(The first glimpse of Building 25’s fourth floor from the central stairwell. That’s not gravel.)

FEAR AND BRUTALITY IN A CREEDMOOR WARD (Published: June 18, 1984)

"No one remembers exactly when it began. But the fear, the beatings, the brutality in a special ward of the Creedmoor Psychiatric Center in Queens did not end until after a mentally ill patient had died while bound in a cloth straitjacket, his throat crushed..."

http://www.nytimes.com/1984/06/18/nyregion/fear-and-brutality-in-a-creedmoor-ward.html
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[Hatfield]

BBM My husband grew up in Queens village where Creedmoor is located. After we were married and on our way to visit his parents, I spotted this huge building from the highway and asked him what it was. He told me it was Creedmore Asylum. I thought it was closed, but apparently some part is still functioning:

Creedmoor is still open. Anyone need a job?: :scared:
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It looks just like I remember it. Its such an ominous scary looking place. I suppose when I heard all the scary stories it made it seem worse.

I can remember wanting my bus to hurry up and get past the place. I had an irrational fear that if the bus broke down then somehow I would end up getting taken inside the place.

 

[LinasK]

Well, it's two in the morning here at Baylor Medical. DH has more kidney stones. I told him to have a baby but he's just being a big baby himself. They ask for ten percent up front so I guess this is going to be several thousand. It won't affect our roadtrip, Hatfield and him can take turns driving. Let's hope he can drive over bridges.

Actually kidney stones can be excruciatingly painful. My DH had to have two surguries for them in one week! The surgeon took pictures and showed me- it looked like a white, spiky ninja ball!!

 

[LinasK]

DID YOU KNOW
HOW TO CLEAN STAINLESS STEEL?
If it's an appliance such as a refrigerator...
What You Need:
White vinegar
An empty spray bottle
A cleaning cloth
What You Do:
Fill a spray bottle with undiluted white vinegar. Then, spray on all of your stainless steel surfaces, and wipe dry with a soft cleaning cloth. Simple and effective!
Why This Works:
The acetic acid in the vinegar cuts through the oil left behind by fingertips, rather than smearing it around like a lot of other cleaners.
If it's something like a sink, there are different issues because of constant water, soap, pots and pans. Here's five different options:
a) Cream of Tartar and Hydrogen Peroxide:
Mix three parts cream of tartar with one part hydrogen peroxide to create a paste that cleans stainless steel sinks. Use a damp cloth to apply the mixture, and then massage into the surface. Let the sink dry and then wipe clean with a damp cloth.
b) Vinegar:
Soak a soft cloth in white vinegar, and scrub the surface of your stainless steel sink.
c) Baking Soda:
The gentle abrasive action of baking soda is good at creating a clean shine for stainless steel sinks. Sprinkle a small amount into the basin, and scrub down using a damp sponge.
d) A Quick Rinse:
A good way to keep soaps and bleaches from harming your stainless steel sinks is to quickly rinse after using. Leaving leftover soap or bleach can damage the steel over time.
e) Olive Oil:
To add shine to your sink, rub in a small amount of olive oil. This remedy will also help remove water spots from stainless steel. Rub with a soft cloth moistened with olive oil, and then buff with a dry cloth.

Thanks! I didn't want Stainless Steel- too masculine looking, but I ended up with a stainless steel fridge.

 

[franquerolane]

I don't think hubby is exaggerating, this from a CNN article. The story about the incident generated a lot of discussion among CNN.com readers who had experienced kidney stones themselves. Wrote Deaux, "I'm a mom of 4 children, and I've had 1 kidney stone. I'd rather have 4 more children than have 1 more kidney stone."

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

Actually kidney stones can be excruciatingly painful. My DH had to have two surguries for them in one week! The surgeon took pictures and showed me- it looked like a white, spiky ninja ball!!

This is not his first time. He had one about two years ago and they blasted it with a laser and he had a stent in place almost two weeks. He's been drinking lemon juice everyday to help the calcium to not stick to together and form them. This one is not as big as the last, but it's still with him and he's seeing a specialist on Friday because his urologist is booked.

 

[Spellbound]

Pages, I feel so bad for your DH. Kidney stones are awful enough, but I hear they are much harder on men. That is the only time I remember my father crying and being in extreme pain.

 

[Shadowboy]

To any WS members on this forum who have an interest in Kyron Horman's disappearance: First of all, Ky's Mom, Desiree, is organizing another search over the Labor Day (U.S.) Holiday; and Trish is planning to do an interview with Desiree. Trish is asking for informed input regarding possible questions for DY.

 

[zoey]

BBM Have the stones passed yet?

:slap: Be kind to your DH- kidney stones hurt very much (had them 3X- so far) and I've heard it's much more so for men (my older son suffered through an episode early this
year - maybe it runs in the family as my brother had stones also).

I have heard run in families. I had bilateral kidney stones--painful. While going thru it some lady told me it was worse for men--i told her didn't care. I also gave birth to twins and labored while dh slept.

 

[zoey]

To any WS members on this forum who have an interest in Kyron Horman's disappearance: First of all, Ky's Mom, Desiree, is organizing another search over the Labor Day (U.S.) Holiday; and Trish is planning to do an interview with Desiree. Trish is asking for informed input regarding possible questions for DY.

I hope and pray that there be a resolution for his 'm. So sad

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

Pages, I feel so bad for your DH. Kidney stones are awful enough, but I hear they are much harder on men. That is the only time I remember my father crying and being in extreme pain.

When we went to the ER at two he had already taken two 7.5 Vicodin, and they hadn't made a dent on his pain. He did lay on the bathroom floor for an hour before he wanted to go to the ER, and took a bucket with him for the ride. He had three shots of Dilaudid by six and they told him he was at the limit that they could give in the ER, but he was going to be admitted and moved to a room where he got a shot of morphine, and another one at noon, and after that he was fine, but the stone has decided to stick around for a few more days before they redo the laser blaster thingy. Last time it was done in day surgery. He was in and out before my second coat of "An Old Flame" nail polish dried.


How's the vacation.

And where do you think we should go on first on our trip? The Autumn leaves should be beautiful about this time. We don't get the beauty of the colors like up north does. Are they as intense in Michigan as they are in the northeast? Do you remember the Dan Dipert bus tours? They always advertised the fall colors in New England down here and they looked nice, but boring. They need a small group of very caring people that have known each other for years even though never meeting before, enjoying the sights and the sorrow and joys in our lives.

And kleenex. Lots of kleenex.

 

[Spellbound]

When we went to the ER at two he had already taken two 7.5 Vicodin, and they hadn't made a dent on his pain. He did lay on the bathroom floor for an hour before he wanted to go to the ER, and took a bucket with him for the ride. He had three shots of Dilaudid by six and they told him he was at the limit that they could give in the ER, but he was going to be admitted and moved to a room where he got a shot of morphine, and another one at noon, and after that he was fine, but the stone has decided to stick around for a few more days before they redo the laser blaster thingy. Last time it was done in day surgery. He was in and out before my second coat of "An Old Flame" nail polish dried.


How's the vacation.

And where do you think we should go on first on our trip? The Autumn leaves should be beautiful about this time. We don't get the beauty of the colors like up north does. Are they as intense in Michigan as they are in the northeast? Do you remember the Dan Dipert bus tours? They always advertised the fall colors in New England down here and they looked nice, but boring. They need a small group of very caring people that have known each other for years even though never meeting before, enjoying the sights and the sorrow and joys in our lives.

And kleenex. Lots of kleenex.

That poor man must be in terrible pain. Hope he gets some relief very soon. It sounds terrible. He has to get better so he can be our driver!

I don't think our colors are very good, you need to go about three hours north of me. I don't know what would be the best direction to start out. Somewhere with mountains we can see from a short distance (please don't make me drive UP a mountain!) perhaps.

Vacation was great .... but now that we are home it seems so long ago. Ugh.... daily routine has struck.... laundry, cook, clean.... and I still need to get groceries. The highlight for me was to visit a historic courthouse in Mercer, PA. What a gorgeous place, inside and out! They escort the prisoners in and out the front door! (we saw a group being put into the van)

 

[coffeejunkie]

http://s723.photobucket.com/user/coffeejunkie01/library/?sort=3&page=1

 

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[coffeejunkie]

Want to have the clearest windows?

Mix 2 cups of hot water with 1/4 cup of vinegar and a tablespoon of cornstarch....
The vinegar gets anything off the window, But it's that little bit of cornstarch that really gives it the shine!
After shaking the solution up in a spray bottle and spritzing the windows, wiped them down with crumpled newspaper. Unlike paper or cloth towels, newspaper is absorbent without leaving lint behind. Those windows sparkled in spectacular fashion!
It works like nothing else and keeps windows shined to perfection.
And seriously, the newspaper trick really does work! Streak free every time
If you don't have a old news paper try a coffee filter...