SIDEBAR #56 - Travis Alexander forum

[Zuri]

https://projectwasabi.wordpress.com/2013/04/28/the-jodi-arias/

I had not seen this before.

 

[Hope4More]

You will never be intruding in here Hope4More, you joined this family when you told of your childhood, and how your mom had a paper route, and she took the 4 of you along in a car with windows that didn't roll up. You shared with us the no money for milk at lunch, and a single box of macaroni and cheese to share between the five of you. IIRC she worked hard and went to school also? You sharing, all of us sharing, is placed in my heart, and you're always in my prayers each day.

I literally am moved to tears. I don't even remember posting that here, or what it was in response to. I am blown away that you remember, and am incredibly grateful that I'm in your prayers. Thank you so much.

 

[GigiG]

https://projectwasabi.wordpress.com/2013/04/28/the-jodi-arias/

I had not seen this before.

Thanks! This is new to me, too.

 

[Zuri]

@Niner, I agree. What Nurmi doesn't seem to acknowledge at all is that you can "lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink it".

I have a son that we have been trying to get counseling for since he hit his teens due to his depression, OCD and compounded by his Tourette's, but if he won't work with the counselor(may actually go but just "suffers" through the session rather than becoming a participant) or just refuses to go at all, let alone take any responsibility for his own well-being and happiness(refuses to adhere to a sensible diet/exercise/social regimen), at some point you have to let yourself off the hook and realize that they are the only one that can get the help they need and that only after they make the decision that they want it. As parents or friends all we can do is be there to support them and if need be report them should they become a danger to either others or themselves. It's very heart wrenching and for that reason I won't judge JA's family(too much...) since we really don't know what they went through with her.

I do recall that JA hadn't actually lived at home since she was 17(from the sounds of it her parents had already been through the mill trying to deal with her). So after an estrangement of 12/13 years where it sounds like her family had pretty much little to no contact with her due to her paranoia of letting them anywhere near her, we(that includes some lawyer that doesn't know them from TA) shouldn't really have expected them to drop their lives and come running to her defense for literally years to support her for committing a criminal act that it seems they were quite aware she was probably responsible for.

I'm surprised they showed up as much as they did, given the circumstances(out of state, estrangement), though you can be sure they had drank so much of her kool-aid that they may not have known up from down and were just trying to do the best they could. It sounds like they had enough personal difficulties to deal with(restaurant business/ill health/etc) and then to have the public eye trained on you for any response re JA... :shame::gaah:

Thank you for this wonderful post and sharing. So many of us have experienced trials And tribulations with our children and can identify with what you have gone through. You are an amazing parent to love your son so much. Hugs

 

[Zuri]

I literally am moved to tears. I don't even remember posting that here, or what it was in response to. I am blown away that you remember, and am incredibly grateful that I'm in your prayers. Thank you so much.

Hope, you are always welcome! Everyone is welcome! Perhaps we will have others come over here and share their insights or experiences. We have fun here too! Anything goes.

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

19 60 - Are You Lonesome To-night? - Elvis Presley tops the charts.


[video=youtu;rlPazQMcNW8]http://youtu.be/rlPazQMcNW8[/video]

 

[Zuri]

BBM. That's for me, too. Sorry, SB folks, if I'm offending you, but I'm speaking my truth: I don't even like to visit the Sidebar because it's too exclusive. To me, it feels and acts like a clique. There are many inside jokes and ongoing histories that go way back. Many things that don't make sense to a visitor. It's not an inviting place to be.

I am so sorry you feel that way. Heck, I post everywhere, "invited" or not. I hope you will come over and read, even if you don't feel like posting. There is an abundance of kindness and caring, friendship and love and open to everyone. So consider yourself "invited", even though you don't need an invitation. The more the merrier!

 

[ILikeToBendPages]

In 1962 my sister's boyfriend (now my brother in law) ran over my dog by accident, and took me along with them to see Follow that Dream with Elvis, so it'd make me feel better.



[video=youtu;PXf1vxVU0jo]http://youtu.be/PXf1vxVU0jo[/video]

 

[YESorNO]

BBM. That's for me, too. Sorry, SB folks, if I'm offending you, but I'm speaking my truth: I don't even like to visit the Sidebar because it's too exclusive. To me, it feels and acts like a clique. There are many inside jokes and ongoing histories that go way back. Many things that don't make sense to a visitor. It's not an inviting place to be.

I'm so sorry that the SB seems like a "clique"- it's not, IMO, or "exclusive"- that's wrong, too.

Some of the people here have been here from the beginning of the SB (that includes me), some- drop in often/occasionally to say hello and tell us some news that's going on- we share our lives with each other if we are so inclined (which is always welcomed), and some are new to the SB. I think the reason for all the inside jokes, etc is because we do have ongoing histories and know each other because we consider ourselves online friends.

Those who are new to the thread and visit often become friends eventually (and know the jokes and histories) because they stick around- don't leave for long spells ( but even then we welcome them and are glad to see them), become friends and are treated as if we have known them for a long time. We make an effort to continue to be concerned for any/all who come to the SB. Just think about how you would go about being in a group and participating in "real life", face-to-face friendships. It's the same thing. If you don't keep up a friendship, it may dissolve, but we don't really forget our friends/anyone here- we have good memories. We're happy to have any visits by anyone- even if it's only occasionally. In order to be included in anything in life, you have to include yourself- we can't do that for anyone, IMO.

We never criticize an opinion, idea, etc. We accept each other for whoever we are. There are no "fights" because we accept that everyone has a right to their own opinion. We're good listeners when needed. I don't know how you could ask for more from a group.

I'm sure I'm not the only person on the SB who feels the way I do. The SB is part of my life- I make it that way for me. I enjoy coming here to participate in the SB- to laugh/ cry /discuss with everyone. It makes me happy to be here. :happydance:

I'm not offended. I'm very sad :anguish:- it's very disheartening - breaks my heart that the SB has a bad reputation for some. :shame:

What do you suggest we do to make this a better place for everyone- more inviting- that they/you might want to visit more often?

 

[FindHG]

In 1962 my sister's boyfriend (now my brother in law) ran over my dog by accident, and took me along with them to see Follow that Dream with Elvis, so it'd make me feel better.

Am dreaming of a long ride to another planet, thank you, ILikeToBendPages. Sorry about the racy movie poster. I like the song.



[video=youtube;EhqZE8kW54I]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhqZE8kW54I[/video]

 

[Zuri]

http://www.nickvanderleek.com/2015/04/12-pages-from-travis-alexanders-journal.html

Travis' Journals, well 12 pages, are posted on this link.

 

[YESorNO]

Am dreaming of another planet, thank you, ILikeToBendPages.

[video=youtube;EhqZE8kW54I]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EhqZE8kW54I[/video]

:greetings: FindHG

You were here some days ago and I welcomed you, but I don't know if you saw the welcome:

:welcome6:

(and because I'm nosy :facepalm: what does HG stand for, if I may ask?)

 

[YESorNO]

http://www.nickvanderleek.com/2015/04/12-pages-from-travis-alexanders-journal.html

Travis' Journals, well 12 pages, are posted on this link.

I've seen his website before, but I found the journal pages hard to read.

Thanks for posting

 

[GigiG]

http://www.nickvanderleek.com/2015/04/12-pages-from-travis-alexanders-journal.html

Travis' Journals, well 12 pages, are posted on this link.

Just curious, where are you finding these "new" things, Zuri?

 

[FindHG]

:greetings: FindHG

You were here some days ago and I welcomed you, but I don't know if you saw the welcome:

:welcome6:

(and because I'm nosy :facepalm: what does HG stand for, if I may ask?

I did miss it, thank you, YESorNO. Very nice of you to do.

HG stands for

Hannah Graham

 

[Spellbound]

1973 - Here’s one event that you can participate in without it costing you a dime or even one red cent. It’s easy, and it’s good for everyone. What could possibly be so wonderful? World Hello Day, that’s what.Now here’s what you do to participate: you just say, “hello” to ten people on this day. Greet them warmly and with a smile. And you can say, “hello” in any language.The reason: World Hello Day will put us all one step further ahead in the attempt to advance world peace through personal communication.[video=youtu;-icCvaFc45w]http://youtu.be/-icCvaFc45w[/video]

I rarely see 10 people in one day.... can I say hello to the same two people three times ? hmmmm... I'm still short one hello. Sidebar buddies, Hello!

BBM. That's for me, too. Sorry, SB folks, if I'm offending you, but I'm speaking my truth: I don't even like to visit the Sidebar because it's too exclusive. To me, it feels and acts like a clique. There are many inside jokes and ongoing histories that go way back. Many things that don't make sense to a visitor. It's not an inviting place to be.

That's a bit unfair, Richshaw. You and everyone else are always more than welcome to join in our chit chat sessions. We can't get to know you if you don't say hello. I checked your posts here, and the last time you posted with us was in May.... you received 12 thank-yous and at least four comments on your post about the kayaker. Seems like a nice welcome that I would have appreciated when I first dipped my toe in. Y/N threatened me with a test after one of my first posts. But I bribed her with chocolates and she let me slide. :giggle: Anyway, come on back and say hello and join in if you would like. We would be happy to have you. We talk about all sorts of things.... the weather, our health, our family or home construction projects, get news on lots of different trials in case anyone is interested, support each other, share our ups and downs, our fears and accomplishments, learn about new topics, share jokes, and avoid politics. If that interests you, come on back. :wave:

 

[Zuri]

I've seen his website before, but I found the journal pages hard to read.

Thanks for posting

Me too. I had to enlarge the pages on my iPad, but the resolution was terrible. I got the gist of them basically. My eyes are tired from reading all the text messages that Beth Karas has posted on her site. I decided to join after Pages recommended it. I read all last night and all day today. Fascinating.

 

[FindHG]

hmm


[video=youtube;XkB4COqwcW4]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkB4COqwcW4[/video]

 

[Spellbound]

This was posted on the State vs JA page (FB). Travis' brother, Steven, is living with Tanisha now and is very ill. He has been to ER twice in the past few weeks, was admitted and given IV and tests. He is back home now, but needs our prayers. Tanisha is very scared. Steven will see a specialist now.

raying:

 

[YESorNO]

I rarely see 10 people in one day.... can I say hello to the same two people three times ? hmmmm... I'm still short one hello. Sidebar buddies, Hello! That's a bit unfair, Richshaw. You and everyone else are always more than welcome to join in our chit chat sessions. We can't get to know you if you don't say hello. I checked your posts here, and the last time you posted with us was in May.... you received 12 thank-yous and at least four comments on your post about the kayaker. Seems like a nice welcome that I would have appreciated when I first dipped my toe in. Y/N threatened me with a test after one of my first posts. But I bribed her with chocolates and she let me slide. :giggle: Anyway, come on back and say hello and join in if you would like. We would be happy to have you. We talk about all sorts of things.... the weather, our health, our family or home construction projects, get news on lots of different trials in case anyone is interested, support each other, share our ups and downs, our fears and accomplishments, learn about new topics, share jokes, and avoid politics. If that interests you, come on back. :wave:

I somehow completely missed ILTBP's post about World Hello Day (busy taking notes on Lawrence's book off/on during the day) and I only see 1 person (my son).

OK

Link: https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/...wcIAFZw74RNXZECF4BD5KejOpazLxuVdtRJEFHJ9xE0Mv

ILTBP

Spellbound

Niner

Zuri

FindHG

GigG

RickshawFan

Hope4More

Val1

lewcch3 (I see you there thanking posts :facepalm

MsJosie (you too ms )

The Queen (does she count??? :thinking: )

Does this count? Is that enough?

And don't go spreading stories about me, you bad girl :bigstick: (although I do remember the test thingy and your chocolates- didn't Wheely eat them ?) :facepalm:

Link: https://lh3.googleusercontent.com/-...AAAAABKU/-wlG7vVqIW4/w426-h427/28+07+2014+-+1


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