State v Bradley Cooper 03/31/11

[jmflu]

Before I saw and heard Nancy's friends talk, I had a "Desperate Housewives: McMansion Nouveau Riche Edition" feel about them. Now, I see them as nice, real people who truly cared about Nancy. I feel so sorry for them. What a horrible thing to go through. I can't imagine losing a good friend (or even an acquaintance) under these circumstances. Kuddos to them for caring enough to take time out and go look for her, call the police, call hospitals, etc.

THANK YOU!!!

I met several of them right after this happened when they had the memorial at Java Jive...they ARE all that... It has hurt me to see them depicted so hatefully, so callously...people just so wrong...

 

[cityslick]

Then *she* had just as much right to enough money for herself and the girls to get a one bedroom apartment IMO.

I'm going to get killed for this, but why is it automatically assumed that the kids should go with the mother in this situation (move to an apartment)? He obviously had the means to provide for them in the home.

 

[SleuthinNC]

Because he controlled ALL the money. How about this, Brad, or any working spouse, pay the non-working spouse what it would cost for childcare for the children said non-working spouse is staying home to care for? Seems like a fair trade. Then the non-working spouse can get a small apartment and not feel trapped, alone, without money.

As I recall he offered to do that and the idea was turned down.

 

[SleuthyGal]

So two people have corroborated NC never took off necklace.

 

[SleuthinNC]

I'm going to get killed for this, but why is it automatically assumed that the kids should go with the mother in this situation (move to an apartment)? He obviously had the means to provide for them in the home.

We also don't know if the intent of the one bedroom apartment was for her to have some place to send him to while she stayed in the house.

 

[NCEast]

I'm going to get killed for this, but why is it automatically assumed that the kids should go with the mother in this situation (move to an apartment)? He obviously had the means to provide for them in the home.

In some cases, I think it's more appropriate for custody to go to the father. In this case, absolutely NOT. He was so detached emotionally from his family, was totally into his job, his running, etc. I think in the long run custody of his children would have been too much for him as I see him as already being unstable regardless of what any psych reports say.

 

[SleuthyGal]

Bc drinking beer night of 7/12.

 

[uncfan]

I suspect jury will be very sympathetic to this witness. Defense better be very careful cross-examining her. They chose not to cross NC's mom, but I think they will have to cross HP. Didn't hear much new today that wasn't already in HP's affidavit for the custody hearing, so I suspect BC and team have some come-back's ready.

 

[gracielee]

So that destroys the "he didn't give her the allowance because he knew he was going to kill her theory". He was intentionally not giving it to her because of the money she made painting.

I know this has been argued many times, but I'm still not sure why the money he made was supposed to be "their" money, but money she mad was "her" money.

I'm curious NCSU, but would you treat the mother of your children in such a fashion? Maybe this 'allowance' stuff is normal for you, where it's not normal for me? I was a SAHM since my children were born, except for a time when all my kids were in school and a friend asked me to come and work for him. Started out PT, eventually working in more hours, etc. When I was working, my checks went straight into a savings account in my name only, for emergencies. Like if hubby died or 'went missing'. Once the kids were all grown up and out of the house, and I didn't have the need for 'emergency money to live', and once the laws changed in N.C., where the wording on shared checking & savings accounts allowed for either or individual to access said accounts, I added hubby's name on to the particular savings account. That's how our finances worked/work. So none of this is 'normal' to me.

 

[SleuthyGal]

At first I thought my sound card went out this morning. But they were looking at documents. LOL

 

[SleuthinNC]

Isn't it also possible that the conversation regarding each keeping one passport could have been embellished and translated to her friends as each keep one child? She was ally building and prone to embellishment. I don't really find that to be too hard of a stretch to believe.

 

[gorealtors]

Bc drinking beer night of 7/12.

Can you even believe that?? Probably thought a buzz might help take the edge off the nightmare he had placed himself into.

 

[NCEast]

Bc drinking beer night of 7/12.

I kinda felt a jab in the side when I heard that. Maybe it was his way of chilling out a bit but I am glad I didn't drive up and see it.

 

[NCEast]

<modsnip>. That's the way I recall the division to be anyway.

Good, that makes me feel better.

 

[cityslick]

I'm curious NCSU, but would you treat the mother of your children in such a fashion? Maybe this 'allowance' stuff is normal for you, where it's not normal for me? I was a SAHM since my children were born, except for a time when all my kids were in school and a friend asked me to come and work for him. Started out PT, eventually working in more hours, etc. When I was working, my checks went straight into a savings account in my name only, for emergencies. Like if hubby died or 'went missing'. Once the kids were all grown up and out of the house, and I didn't have the need for 'emergency money to live', and once the laws changed in N.C., where the wording on shared checking & savings accounts allowed for either or individual to access said accounts, I added hubby's name on to the particular savings account. That's how our finances worked/work. So none of this is 'normal' to me.

I agree with you on the sharing of accounts. I never figured out how people who are 'married' still operate with separate accounts but I've meet countless people who operate like that. I've always thought that once you were married, you start sharing most things, especially where finances are concerned. I guess me and my wife must be doing it wrong.

 

[garner_nc]

So that would make sense splitting up the sisters ?

<modsnip>. BC is self-absorbed. I doubt he ever considered the "sisters" part.

 

[NCEast]

At first I thought my sound card went out this morning. But they were looking at documents. LOL

It was insane, just sitting hear watching the silence! And for close to an hour no less......and then they took a break.

 

[filesman]

So two people have corroborated NC never took off necklace.

I find this hard to believe. Can you sleep in a necklace? Ican't when people who I know to be runners, do not run with neclaces on. I also have seen pic's with her not having a necklace on. The main pick on webslueths for example. Of course I don't know if this picture was taken before or after she recieved the necklace. I also would think that if this was a gift from her hated husband, why would she wear it?

 

[NCEast]

<modsnip>. BC is self-absorbed. I doubt he ever considered the "sisters" part.

I can't remember now how many siblings Brad has?? Anybody remember? Have they been vocal or visible in any of this--from missing to murder trial?

 

[cityslick]

It was insane, just sitting hear watching the silence! And for close to an hour no less......and then they took a break.

Golden Corral has a way of making you take a 'break'. One of many reasons I don't eat there.