floridamomma
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In my book reviewing what the parents did/did not do in order "to learn from their mistakes" is a euphemism for "we want to criticize their parenting". Which can also be described as "bashing"
Really folks? Haven't we discussed, and discussed and discussed their parenting over and over and over? Isn't it time to give it a rest?
The way I see it, people have this unremitting need to point at the actions of the parents so that they can say to themselves "see! I would never do that so this COULD NEVER happen to my child"
Real life smacks you in the face sometimes, because this can happen to ANY child, whether you are a control freak of a parent or not. To live is to gamble. There are always risks. And not taking risks means not really living.
i was glad to learn details, as it reminds me to not let my guard down. my rule of, "sure, you can go over there, but if they are not home, you CALL ME if youre going elsewhere, or home" stands. had it played out differently, i would reevaluate myrules. i totally agree that we want desperately to hold on to differences, assuring ourselves that it cant happen to us. but i personally also want to know how it happened so i can make changss to my parenting if i see a weak point.
at her young age, i never would have allowed such freedom, but wont judge, as ive not walked i. their shoes, i dont know the neighborhood, etc. what's done is done, may we all hold our littles a bit closer, and learn from this horrific crime.
ETA: life is a constantly changing game, i just try to keep up!