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It's also very rare that people just cut off all contact with their past lives. It's just not remotely likely in SJL's case. She was a popular, successful young woman with tons of friends, a great life, and plans for her future. She was beloved by her family and cared deeply about them. For her to just disappear without a trace to "start a new life" is just not worth considering.
Even people who have tried to disappear for good reasons-- the Canoe Man story is a good case in point--were not able to cut themselves off completely from their old lives. Canoe Man even lived with his wife after he faked his own death, and eventually tried to pretend he had amnesia because he wanted to reconnect with his family. And he was a sociopathic idiot. SJL was far from being that.
Unfortunately, women are murdered and raped. Usually by people they know but in some cases by strangers who are psychopathic monsters. Sometimes the bodies are not found.
It's actually hard to believe that someone is capable of doing these things because we would not even have any urges to do them. Reading about JC for example (who may be responsible for SJL's murder) it is hard to fathom how someone could abduct, rape and murder (yes we don't know he raped SB but he was a convicted rapist, so we can assume he must have) a young newly wedded woman (SB) then a week or so later have his mum stay in the flat where he had held SB captive. He managed to go out with women, and not murder them. (Yet he did stalk and threaten them--he was fond of getting others to help him do this, e.g. he hired a private investigator to find out info on his solicitor girlfriend). It's hard to fathom how one minute SB was buying a new dress in a department store, next minute she's abducted to be murdered--because we would not be capable of this behaviour ourselves.
I agree that less likely theories are, well, less likely.
I think the rape aspect is possibly overplayed. Statistically, most women who are murdered are murdered by a partner or ex-partner who has already displayed violence. Most women are murdered by that partner or ex-partner at the time they attempt to end the relationship or show signs of ending. If that partner has already been violent, the flashpoint is the time of ending and the danger zone stays highest for a good six months after the separation, worse if shared childcare is involved. When it's a partner / ex-partner the motivation is not the sex crime per se, it's just part of the violent life ending abuse sometimes.
People like JC, the Camden Ripper, Wayne Couzens, Keith Nilsen, etc - they are far gone predatory psychopaths with a pre-meditated plan to snatch, rape, then kill a woman. That stuff is thankfully rare! They don't usually operate in broad daylight, they go out 'hunting' at night. Statistically, that stuff is tiny compared to how women are usually killed - let's not forget more than two women per week are murdered here in the UK.

Femicide Census reveals half of UK women killed by men die at hands of partner or ex | End Violence Against Women
The Femicide Census report published today (20.02.20) on UK femicides in 2018 finds men who have already killed women are killing again – three men had already killed women before – and over half of perpetrators (52%) had a history of violence to women. The report, published by Women’s Aid and...
