EllieBee
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But is anyone saying Ms. D can't spray tan? I think the complaints concern her lies about her background, both personal and professional--not to mention the questionable claims that she is a victim of hate crimes.
I have a cousin who loves everything Scottish. She insisted her wedding party wear kilts and hasn't missed the annual Highland Games in decades! I have to admit I share some of her affinities (though I'm not traveling across country to watch folks toss telephone polls!) even though our ancestors have been in this country for two centuries!
But, as gitana1 points out, my cousin doesn't claim she was born into the wrong culture; nor does she lie and tell people she was born in Edinburgh.
That said, elle, you are certainly right that some people seem to identify strongly with a race other than that into which they were born. The AA community even has slang terms for such people (wigga, Uncle Tom). But affinity, fondness for rap music, gangsta attitude, etc. are a far cry from a 5-year-old trying to amputate his own penis in order to "fix" his body.
Again:
Deep breath: (please let my sentiment be clear this time)
I am NOT saying RD is not fraudulent. She is a lying liar who lies from her lie hole.
I am saying there are many people who might be considered one "race" (grit teeth as I type that once again) but choose to "act" like they are of another race and get holy hell for it.
A kid with one white parent and one black parent (and often that black parent has some white ancestry) is expected to "act black".
I mean WTH? Why? Why can't he/she dress/look any way that makes him/her feel good?
If I get lip plumpers, am I posing? If a black woman straightens her hair is she trying to be white? Or, maybe that person DOES feel an affinity for an appearance that is not theirs naturally so they want to change their look to reflect who they would like to be.
Who does this hurt? I think it is mean and ridiculous to assume all people who adopt a "look" are fraudulent because some charlatan like RD tried to scam people with her look and her lies.
I honestly do not see why anyone is so judgemental on they way another person chooses to look.
I will be honest. I did have issues with Michael Jackson's looks. But mostly because of the decaying nose and other damaged-looking areas. But I don't care how many surgeries he paid for to look like whatever he wanted to look like. If it made him happy. Or even if it didn't. (I do have pedophilia issues, however)
Not my call, not my life.