My last post for the night, I swear....
When I lived with the 'man with NPD', he would always be challenging and starting arguments with me. One day I asked him, when were not arguing, if he didn't like the peace and harmony better than the stress and fighting. He said to me, "No, I like it when you are pi**ed off at me. Then I know that I have gotten to you and you will stew about it and me all day long.... Bad attention is just as good as good attention." And he smiled.
BINGO. Every now and then a sociopath tells you the God's honest truth, embedded although it may be.
JA was in heaven even when TA was irate at her. That meant she was on his mind and consuming his emotions, even if it was hatred.
Sick sick thing that she is.