Woman Gives Birth To Octuplets II

  • #941
OL -

Hi and thanks - I'm curious if you think she was being honest or just saying what she thinks people want to hear? (I did not hear what she said on the part of the show I watched). She was supposedly 3 semesters shy of her masters with some sort of psych degree - which makes me think she can possibly be a BS'er to the Nth degree, when she want to.

What I did hear was her threatening her son with the Police or CPS if he would not get out of bed for school. Which is kinda a common thing at times for kids that age, although from other reports it is a serious problem with that particular child. Are threats of the cops or CPS which I don't see her following thru on - the way to handle that? I'm asking honestly (no tongue in cheek here).

Yeah, when I saw that, my gut-level response reminded me of why I had to leave social work, LOL. Too much suppression of primal instincts to knock offenders to the floor while outwardly appearing calm and soothing. Obviously, not being able to, or not choosing to be the authoritive parent, she substitutes the threat of OTHER authority figures/agencies, making THEM the bad guys. And then absolutely no follow-through on any of the 'threats' that I saw her make, even in that short time period. I wish she could be legally compelled to have a 24/7 parenting coach with her. She is clearly overwhelmed and unable to parent effectively, IMO.

And yes, there IS that well-developed manipulative thing. I've never known any BPD that didn't resort to using it at will, even those in recovery
responding well to therapy (which is rare). So then the question is: to what degree are we being played and to what degree is she sincere? Its all a sliding scale and only her future behaviors will tell that story.
 
  • #942
wonder if we will find out exactly how many blastocycts Dr K implanted ?? ...

I am really curious as whether all the blastocyst came from octomom?
I am not the first one to notice that the first 6 children look quite similar to each other but among the octoplets some babies appear to look quite different from each other and from the first six. Supposedly the bio dad is the same for all of them, isn't what octomom has been saying? So why some appear to look so different from her other kids?
 
  • #943
I too would love to hear that egg count - not the ones from her Easter Basket - (sorry SD!) The biggest telltale to me looking at those babies, is they look so very different from 1-6 who all look so similar. If there was any egg swapping going on, she was completely aware - otherwise she would be asking for DNA testing too! At least IMHO.
I totally agree;IMO she knew Dr K threw in a few aberrant eggs in order to up the ante on the possibility of many of them sticking around till term.IMO she probably did not have enough..(who knows how many??) of her own fresh eggs,so a few were added to the mix,of which some of them took.DNA results would certainly be interesting! weren't those done though? I think the public is just not privy to the results,so I wonder what will be released publicly after this.
Am thinking the lady with the 7 embryos implanted may have some not genetically hers as well.question is,where did they come from??it's possible they were created using donor sperm and eggs,which would make it hard for anyone to come fwd and claim the resulting babies.(which I think they have probably signed all their rights away anyway).
that said,if it's true Nadya DID have 11 implanted,what would she and Dr K have done if all or most of them had taken?? they were both after a successful higher order multiple birth.a disaster in -the -making would have surely followed a pregnancy of 11 embryos.that would not do!
IMO the contingency plan was to do a reduction of embryos had that happened.
Kudos to them both for having such high morals,HUH???!!!
 
  • #944
I'm not a verified expert, but in my early career in social work, I worked with teenage girls in a residential setting who were mostly borderline personality disordered. The things I could say......but won't.

I did see Nadya recently on an Oprah show that apparently was filmed in 2010. She did make a number of remarks that seemed to indicate she has considerable insight now on factors within herself that led her to make the choices she did. Its significant that she is now looking within, rather than outside herself with indignant blame. I would guess that she has had counselling and is processing it well, which is admirable, or is reading some good books on the subject, which is also admirable.

Although her earlier behaviors were irritating enough to me to raise my blood pressure, and I still find her parenting style sub-standard (as shown from an Oprah camera crew following a 24-hour period), I give her credit for being able to admit, to herself AND to the public at large, that her choices were made from a messed-up emotional/mental state.

I hope some of our "verified" folks will weigh in on borderline personality disorder, as I am not and have never been licensed to diagnose; I only worked in the therapeutic end. :)

I will say that it is rare for such a person to accept their diagnosis and look within for the changes that need to happen. I congratulate Nadya for her introspection and public admissions. I also feel that her physician, a person of authority, took advantage of her hmm...shall we just say "impairment", which is all too common for many people with mental/emotional issues. That is a HUGE no-no for anyone in a professional position of authority. I personally think she could have a good case against him, no matter HOW insistent she might have been to get all those eggs implanted.
I understand what you're saying, but personally I still find her behavior to be quite manipulative and done at will.
what I mean is, IMO,she is admitting these shortcomings within herself as she thinks she can benefit/use it somehow in order to up her public persona..which she can turn around and use to her own best interest, in the form of more public approval of her and what she did.
JMO.
 
  • #945
hi all, i never followed this thread because the media was so so saturated with the octo-person so much so that i want to hide from all the info coming out about her - anyhoo... have any of our verified psyc. professional members chimed in on octoperson? i would love to hear their hypothetical's and hunches regarding her mental stability/instability and disorders....cause in my laypersons expertise.....she is whacked with a CAPITAL W! now i need to go back and read the thread because i didnt know there was a trial for the 🤬🤬🤬 that implanted her with in my opinion, a criminal amount of eggs.... considering she has no means of supporting them financially and would/is dependent on the state, couldnt that be interpreted as something criminal? sometimes STUPID should be a chargeable offense :/
he should be billed by the taxpayers :)

too bad he can't be ordered to pay child support!!
 
  • #946
I understand what you're saying, but personally I still find her behavior to be quite manipulative and done at will.
what I mean is, IMO,she is admitting these shortcomings within herself as she thinks she can benefit/use it somehow in order to up her public persona..which she can turn around and use to her own best interest, in the form of more public approval of her and what she did.
JMO.


yeah - this is my first reaction as well. i think this girl has dollar $ign$ in her eyes and if its proven that she had some "disorder/impairment" then in her mind it makes her blameless and the doctor that did the implanting the one to blame EVERYTHING on... and maybe thats the way it should be - but she stands to gain financially and thats what i think is her main objective. moo :) i think she is willing to SAY that she is looking within herself blah blah blah just to get a pile of cash. i did see some of the oprah special and poor oprah just looked exasperated with her in my opinion.... :/
 
  • #947
Hi NN! Welcome to Octo-land! I hear you, this thread has been quiet for awhile - until the cable guy put her up on my dad's big screen TV.

We've been waiting, since the CA Med Board said they were going after him, right after she birthed the litter - sized, head count of precious babies. To see they are bringing him up on other charges and seeing the original charges have a court date, was twice as nice.

If stupid was a ticket-able offense Dr K could paper his whole Beverly Hills office! But hey Octo has found a marketable skill, shooting dolls out of her hoo-haa at college boys - I guess it keeps her in collagen - which keeps her off the streets.

(1) Narcissistic - either (2) Borderline Personality or (3) BiPolar, are some I remember hearing tossed around. My vote goes to (1) and (2). (1) being the no brainer and (2) causing delusional thinking, neediness, lies, the fear of abandonment issues and causing her to be very irritated or irate, when challenged.

Of course she could just be crazy like her mom claims. :crazy:

thanx for the warm welcome! :) maybe the good doctor should have to support them and put them thru college? grrrr..... they both tic me off
 
  • #948
Yeah, when I saw that, my gut-level response reminded me of why I had to leave social work, LOL. Too much suppression of primal instincts to knock offenders to the floor while outwardly appearing calm and soothing. Obviously, not being able to, or not choosing to be the authoritive parent, she substitutes the threat of OTHER authority figures/agencies, making THEM the bad guys. And then absolutely no follow-through on any of the 'threats' that I saw her make, even in that short time period. I wish she could be legally compelled to have a 24/7 parenting coach with her. She is clearly overwhelmed and unable to parent effectively, IMO.

And yes, there IS that well-developed manipulative thing. I've never known any BPD that didn't resort to using it at will, even those in recovery
responding well to therapy (which is rare). So then the question is: to what degree are we being played and to what degree is she sincere? Its all a sliding scale and only her future behaviors will tell that story.

Thanks, that is what I saw early on. And yes, a 24/7 parenting coach (Can you imagine what a stressful job that would be!) would be (or) would have been helpful - as would 10 more pairs of hands and laps - I really fear that ship has sailed - for these children - they are being raised with no boundaries, no direction and no discipline - by a single person who doesn't understand that parent is also a verb. But as some social services twit remarked; “We don’t have a police state. You can’t just have a government agency involved in your life forever.” How about until proven competent?

They (BPD) are good, so very good at manipulation - and until one gets to know and understand what's happening under the surface - everyone else (for instance) in a family, can really be made to sound like complete jerks. (This I learned the hard way.)

Once she got a grasp on the fact that very few people found her to be as delightful and brilliant as she sees herself - the most honest thing I have ever heard from her was the remark that she thought everyone was going to love her - either for wanting all these babies or for caring for them "all on her own" not sure which. Of course had that happened - she saw her windfall as the ca$h would have poured in along with all that love.

IMO now she just appears frazzled - but those poor children are the ones I worry about and feel for. They are humans and deserve to be treated as such not having food dumped on their octo - chair - table, in a free for all. The twins looked like there has been way too little development/progress in the time since the 8 babies joined the fray and my heart breaks for lil' Aiden who is lost in there somewhere - not to mention 1-3....

Still clueless, after all these months.

I know I have a tendency to be very glib regarding her circumstances - because I find what she has done and will continue to do very distasteful - like her appearing to birth babies and shooting them out towards some guys head, the prego nun for Halloween - or wearing the don't let your pet be an octo-mom shirt/sign in the yard (that had to sting!) - but none of my ranting is ever aimed at the children or what they are living. They are all victims of her disorder and proof positive that CPS is broken beyond repair at this point.
 
  • #949
Thanks, that is what I saw early on. And yes, a 24/7 parenting coach (Can you imagine what a stressful job that would be!) would be (or) would have been helpful - as would 10 more pairs of hands and laps - I really fear that ship has sailed - for these children - they are being raised with no boundaries, no direction and no discipline - by a single person who doesn't understand that parent is also a verb. But as some social services twit remarked; “We don’t have a police state. You can’t just have a government agency involved in your life forever.” How about until proven competent?

They (BPD) are good, so very good at manipulation - and until one gets to know and understand what's happening under the surface - everyone else (for instance) in a family, can really be made to sound like complete jerks. (This I learned the hard way.)

Once she got a grasp on the fact that very few people found her to be as delightful and brilliant as she sees herself - the most honest thing I have ever heard from her was the remark that she thought everyone was going to love her - either for wanting all these babies or for caring for them "all on her own" not sure which. Of course had that happened - she saw her windfall as the ca$h would have poured in along with all that love.

IMO now she just appears frazzled - but those poor children are the ones I worry about and feel for. They are humans and deserve to be treated as such not having food dumped on their octo - chair - table, in a free for all. The twins looked like there has been way too little development/progress in the time since the 8 babies joined the fray and my heart breaks for lil' Aiden who is lost in there somewhere - not to mention 1-3....

Still clueless, after all these months.

I know I have a tendency to be very glib regarding her circumstances - because I find what she has done and will continue to do very distasteful - like her appearing to birth babies and shooting them out towards some guys head, the prego nun for Halloween - or wearing the don't let your pet be an octo-mom shirt/sign in the yard (that had to sting!) - but none of my ranting is ever aimed at the children or what they are living. They are all victims of her disorder and proof positive that CPS is broken beyond repair at this point.

You have my deepest sympathy. I deal with this in my personal life now as well as in my past profession. I hope you are strong in body and in spirit. It is a very draining experience. I've always felt a good degree of sympathy for Nadya's mother, poor woman.

Whatever happened to her father? Did he remove himself because he wanted to be far far from the frey he knew she would create, or because he wanted to "send home money" to help? I haven't heard much about him.
 
  • #950
You have my deepest sympathy. I deal with this in my personal life now as well as in my past profession. I hope you are strong in body and in spirit. It is a very draining experience. I've always felt a good degree of sympathy for Nadya's mother, poor woman.

Whatever happened to her father? Did he remove himself because he wanted to be far far from the frey he knew she would create, or because he wanted to "send home money" to help? I haven't heard much about him.

Thank you and you too - your being "in the know" must have been helpful at some level - but even still, to know a loved one can use words that are more painful than any physical assault is hard, regardless.

I too feel for her mom, it was encouraging to hear her in the early interviews "tell it like it is". I wish she wouldn't use the word crazy - but I applaud her drawing a line and I understand - do I ever understand. I honestly cannot imagine the stress for her mom, dealing with 14 children and their mother.

Gpa went on Oprah - which didn't go over too well with Nadya, Oprah seemed to be "a goal" maybe now that OM has had her turn she will get over it. Also when the man who sold them the house - threatened to 'take it back" the lie about OM 'purchasing the house' all on her own was revealed - although that "lie" probably wasn't the problem - most likely it was all dad's fault for falling behind on the payments. He must be working around the clock to keep that roof over their heads. Gma has claimed dad was wrapped around Nadya's finger and gave her everything - possibly he still is.
 
  • #951
I totally agree;IMO she knew Dr K threw in a few aberrant eggs in order to up the ante on the possibility of many of them sticking around till term.IMO she probably did not have enough..(who knows how many??) of her own fresh eggs,so a few were added to the mix, of which some of them took.DNA results would certainly be interesting! weren't those done though? I think the public is just not privy to the results, so I wonder what will be released publicly after this.

Am thinking the lady with the 7 embryos implanted may have some not genetically hers as well.question is,where did they come from??it's possible they were created using donor sperm and eggs,which would make it hard for anyone to come fwd and claim the resulting babies.(which I think they have probably signed all their rights away anyway).

that said,if it's true Nadya DID have 11 implanted,what would she and Dr K have done if all or most of them had taken?? they were both after a successful higher order multiple birth.a disaster in -the -making would have surely followed a pregnancy of 11 embryos. that would not do!
IMO the contingency plan was to do a reduction of embryos had that happened.
Kudos to them both for having such high morals, HUH???!!!

JMO You raise some interesting points - 11 mature healthy eggs would not be unusual in a young woman her age when being hyper-stimulated - except for the number of times she had already had the procedure done -

When I did the research on the process for adopting "leftover frozen zygotes" (I hate that term) it sounded to me that there are doctors out there who prefer not to hyper-stimulate more than 1 time, 2 times max. Some doc's after the woman hits 30, will try to get her to use donor eggs. It all had to do with egg quality. Almost all the donors whose photos and characteristics were available to read on line - were under 30, because fertility drops dramatically once we hit the BIG 3 - 0 and the age of the egg cells seems to play a huge part in the overall picture - not necessarily for everyone, but when there are fertility issues - older eggs and older sperm make conception more difficult.

There are different ways of adopting eggs - fertilized or not; open or closed "adoption" - adoption not being the true term because presently eggs or even matured zygotes aren't legally adoptable - only born children are. But the bottom line is once you give them away - they are no longer yours - exception being if you give them to "person A" - and A has leftovers once she's finished you can state up front that A only "owns" the ones she uses - the rest must be returned - or you can state you don't want any left overs returned.

Unless there are stipulations in your contract, you have no other say - same with the "adoptive" parent - they can't change their mind and hit the biological parents up, if they had a child with a birth defect etc - although another scenario, if Dr K used zygotes for her that were supposed to be stored for later use by some other client. (Not saying he did) that would be a sticky wicket! Similar to the clinic that "mixed up" some fertilized eggs, 3 or 4 women were involved - at least 2 gave birth to a child that was not hers.

I cannot imagine the horror of seeing a child that looked just like mine, living in that house, after having treatment in that office!! I agree with you 1-6 look like siblings - the blonds look like sibs, the 2 girls look like sibs, the other 4 IDK - but IMO they don't look like 1-6.

I kinda doubt the woman who had 7 implanted used her own, due to her age, she would have been pretty close to a 50/50 bracket for Downs Syndrome, according to the research I did, it is almost impossible to get pregnant in vitro with a batch of "older eggs" or to even to get a "batch of eggs" that are considered good quality - these doctors live by their percentage rate - the doctors want you to have the best outcome per procedure.

Of course as we heard, Dr K has the worst #'s in the state! So who knows what he did? Ya-know? I always figure - once someone crosses one line (Nadya) they will cross other lines (45 yr old pregnant with quads) too - I'm actually surprised they released the NS info we read - what with HICFA and all - we can only hope we get more!!

yeah - this is my first reaction as well. i think this girl has dollar $ign$ in her eyes and if its proven that she had some "disorder/impairment" then in her mind it makes her blameless and the doctor that did the implanting the one to blame EVERYTHING on... and maybe thats the way it should be - but she stands to gain financially and thats what i think is her main objective. moo :) i think she is willing to SAY that she is looking within herself blah blah blah just to get a pile of cash. i did see some of the oprah special and poor oprah just looked exasperated with her in my opinion.... :/

NN It's weird, I was doing a story on using/adopting frozen zygotes - if you read the message boards available for women getting treatment, most of these gals know more about their fertility each and every day, then most of us think about in a lifetime! NS has a BS degree and she was working on her Masters - there are a lot of things she could be but ignorant of, but what she was doing is probably not one - I think you're right she saw $$$ she had 6 kids "by herself" in her mind - what's 6 or 8 or 11 more.

I don't think she sees that the doctor did anything wrong - I suppose if you see every life "as a gift" he didn't, but in every other way - he screwed up big time. That is undoubtedly his defense "I create life in barren wombs!" In old ones and BPD ones too - he reminds me of the doctor who used his own sperm. NS's story about using her last 6 stored zygotes was just that - a story, that the birth alone disproved - so going back to each life being a gift, what about all those she still has in the freezer?
 
  • #952
wonder where they will all live if evicted? are there houses in ca large enough to accomodate 16 (kids plus she and the nanny,if she still has one) ppl using a section 8 voucher? (assuming she would rent.I know in my state, there are limits to what houses are allowed under section 8).if not, then would she risk losing some of the kids? jw..


http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/09/17/octomom-nadya-suleman-goi_n_721155.html
 
  • #953
Even if Nadya does the 🤬🤬🤬🤬 film and pays the $450,000 balloon payment on her home she'll still need to go on welfare. Does anyone know if that will pay off her mortgage or will she still owe hundreds of thousands on the home before paying it off? I can't imagine that the kids are being properly cared for at all even with a few nannies.
 
  • #954
Even if Nadya does the 🤬🤬🤬🤬 film and pays the $450,000 balloon payment on her home she'll still need to go on welfare. Does anyone know if that will pay off her mortgage or will she still owe hundreds of thousands on the home before paying it off? I can't imagine that the kids are being properly cared for at all even with a few nannies.

@ tmz.com: Octomom -- I Refuse to Get Naked for Money. "I'll do whatever I can ... as long as I'm fully clothed."

How is she going to get out of this hot mess.

Mel
 
  • #955
in thinking about it,I won't buy she is totally broke until her lips get deflated and her lawyer runs out on her.her attorney is going to stay until the well runs dry,imo.
 
  • #956
  • #957
I just read that and gasped at the real number he implanted into her... 12... omg, TWELVE at one time. And she still has more on ice!
 
  • #958
wow...I also hope we hear more about where the embryos came from,seeing as the claim is she still has 29 in storage.
The babies mismatched ethinicites give away the fact that they are not all genetically hers,IMO.If Kamrava was looking to implant fresh embryos only,and needed that many for a better 'take',then it makes sense he threw in a few abberant ones that were not Nadya's.
 
  • #959
I just read that and gasped at the real number he implanted into her... 12... omg, TWELVE at one time. And she still has more on ice!

And she claimed she was implanted only 4 which then split.
 
  • #960
She is a very disturbed individual.
 

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