Oh yes, I've read and thought through all the psychological reasoning. < shakes head> What really bothers me is women who have children getting caught up in these relationships. If a woman wants to throw away her life on some murderer, fine, go for it. But when one has minor children, children are exposed enough to bad elements in life. Without introducing ones children to scum of the earth. And then I'm reminded of how David Westerfield attempted to blame the kiddie *advertiser censored* on his computer, on his teenage son. What a dad. I need a really good symbol for sheer anger and repugnance.