It is very sad. But life does have to go on. Barring a miracle, Lisa is gone. She is either dead, or she has begun a new life as someone else's baby. By now, if no one has turned in the person who adopted a new year-old, blonde/blue baby, I don't see it happening.
DB/JI have two other children to consider. Those boys lives need to become as normalized as possible. They can't go on with the media circus and the constant reminders of their little sister. So long as people keep congregating in front of their home, that's rather impossible. And, if DB/JI are not church-going (or spiritual) people, they may not see any real value in prayer. Prayer groups are not the same as search parties, and at this point, even search parties are not going to find a live Lisa.
So, I can't judge the parents for this. I don't see it as an indicator of guilt. I see it as an indicator of parents who have given up hope of finding their baby. And that is sad. Because, in the end, all they really had left was hope.
BBM Red
Are the boys supposed to forget Lisa existed and then disappeared?
How normal will it be for the two young boys who are also grieving a loss ,to see their parents so quickly give up on finding their sister? They must wonder if Lisa wasn't that important to DB and JI ,are they?
The boys lives can't possibly be normal any time soon.Maybe they can fall back on routines,but that won't stop their minds from trying to make sense of what happened to their sister.
I have kids ranging in age from 10 to 34 . When James died my 5 year old and 16 year old at the time,needed the most help processing what happened and what they saw and were feeling. They remain forever changed.
My then 5 year old just turned 12 and he still asks questions . His world changed in another way ,because I'm not the same person I was before and not the same type of mother I was to the older kids and that's a shame.
DB isn't missing a stuffed animal she loved ,but can replace,it's her daughter ! Parents don't give up :banghead: They just don't . No one has to turn to the baby over. They should be hunted down. Dear God,we've seen real stories of parents who have risked their lives and used every penny they had to recover their child after a parental kidnapping to another country.
People search for their lost pets longer than DB and JI have been missing Lisa.
Do you think any loving protective parent would just shrug and give up ,not knowing if their child was being abused,molested or tortured?
If they are giving up it's because they know what happened and WANT to move on.
Over the last (almost) seven years since my 15 year old son died I've met many parents and grandparents who lost children. I've never met one that wanted people to forget so they could move on. It's the opposite . Others generally expect you to get over it ,which isn't possible.
If the parents have given up in less than 2 months who is supposed to fight for Lisa?
fftobed: [I love this little cutie]
