Apologize if this has been mentioned,
Coming into this thread late.
Have watched just a portion of Cindy's depo and had to turn it off at the disrespectful, thumbing her nose at the law attitude. I'll have to read the rest because viewing it made me too angry.
If that was not a classic display of entitled narcissistic behavior I don't know what is. Better run to the psych profile thread.
I thought the atty from JM's office did an excellent job of keeping his cool. How he didn't reach over and throttle that woman I'll never know.
The lawyer was a gentleman, despite everything!
Question:
How can I expose the lies of the narcissist in a court of law? He acts so convincing!
Answer:
You should distinguish the factual pillar from the psychological pillar of any cross-examination of a narcissist or deposition made by him.
It is essential to be equipped with absolutely unequivocal, first rate, thoroughly authenticated and vouched for information. The reason is that narcissists are superhuman in their capacity to distort reality by offering highly "plausible" alternative scenarios, which fit most of the facts.
It is very easy to "break" a narcissist even a well-trained and well-prepared one.
Here are a few of the things the narcissist finds devastating:
Any statement or fact, which seems to contradict his inflated perception of his grandiose self.
Any criticism, disagreement, exposure of fake achievements, belittling of "talents and skills" which the narcissist fantasises that he possesses.
Any hint that he is subordinated, subjugated, controlled, owned or dependent upon a third party.
Any description of the narcissist as average and common, indistinguishable from many others.
Any hint that the narcissist is weak, needy, dependent, deficient, slow, not intelligent, naive, gullible, susceptible, not in the know, manipulated, a victim, an average person of mediocre accomplishments.
The narcissist is likely to react with rage to all these and, in an effort to re-establish his fantastic grandiosity, he is likely to expose facts and stratagems he had no conscious intention of exposing.
The narcissist reacts indignantly, with wrath, hatred, aggression, or even overt violence to any infringement of what he perceives to be his natural entitlement.
Narcissists believe that they are so unique and that their lives are of such cosmic significance that others should defer to their needs and cater to their every whim without ado. The narcissist feels entitled to interact or be treated (or questioned) only by unique individuals. He resents being doubted and "ridiculed".
Any insinuation, hint, intimation, or direct declaration that the narcissist is not special at all, that he is average, common, not even sufficiently idiosyncratic to warrant a fleeting interest inflame the narcissist. He holds himself to be omnipotent and omniscient.
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This article appears book, "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"